Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions. Vibes for the week: Laura - Habitual Beauty Hydrating Sleep Mask Britt - Tell Me Lives on Disney Keeshia - Trust Me: The False Prophet on Netflix Then we jump into your questions! SEXY STALEMATE My partner and I have been together for nearly 4 years. We’ve always had a healthy and positive sexlife. Recently he expressed that he’d love me to wear sexy lingerie for him. We picked something out together (and shared the expense of it) and it started that I’d wear it for more ‘special’ occasions. But recently he’s been more insistent that I wear it every time we’re intimate or that I surprise him with it on when he gets home (which I have done a couple of times). He often asks me to change into a particular lingerie set even when we’re just kissing etc. and he is disappointed when I don’t want to wear it. It feels performative to me and I want to be enough as I am for him without wearing something ‘sexy’ every time. I’ve told him how I feel and he said ‘it’s what turns him on’. He says he understands why I’m upset but it’s caused a stalemate in our sex life as his insistence for the lingerie has given me the ick. Am I being unreasonable? I’d like to add, I enjoy dressing up occasionally and the lingerie makes me feel sexy but I don’t want it to be the condition as to whether we have sex or not. HUSBAND CHEATED WITH MY SISTER, THEY’RE STILL TOGETHER 4 YEARS LATER I CAN’T MOVE ON 5 years ago I eloped with my boyfriend, 5 months after getting married we separated due to many issues. A couple of months later, I found out he was cheating on me with my sister. My sister is younger, and has been my best friend since she was born. Our relationship fell apart, but continued to talk on a family basis to keep the peace and half of our family doesn’t know, as she keeps him and family life very separate, they are still together now, 4 years later. It has been an exhausting and difficult time for me, having a massive impact on my mental health. I was hoping eventually their little game of sneaking around would become boring and they would move on, however, that is not the case and they have now brought a house together. This has completely broken me and I don’t know what to do. I guess my question is, should I continue keeping the peace with my family and talking to her as she still keeps things separate? I don’t want to lose my family over this. Do I call a family meeting and try again on telling her how I feel even though I have tried many times, and she doesn’t care. Do I completely cut ties with her and distance myself? Which might be difficult at family events. I’m just so angry, and hurt, and don’t want to have to keep dealing with this anymore, I need to move on somehow! IS “TAKING TIME APART AND FINDING OUR WAY BACK’ EVERY REALISTIC? I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years — he’s truly my person and has made me incredibly happy. We’ve lived together for 3 of those years, but recently moved apart so he can save money while studying and living with his grandma. I’m planning on moving away from the city also for a while (and he will also be going overseas next year). We have talked about possibly separating in a few months and maybe coming back together in the future after growing individually. As we truly see a future together. For context we are both in our late twenties. But recently, over the weekend he told me he was studying, but actually went out with our mutual friends and didn’t invite me. I felt a bit hurt, especially as my birthday had just passed, but I didn’t think too deeply into it at the time. A couple of days later, he told me he kissed one of the girls that night — a mutual new friend. He said it was just a small kiss and that he regretted it straight away, but also mentioned that he thinks sleeping with other people could be “fun.” Now I just feel really confused and hurt as we have always been truthful with each other. I’m trying to figure out if this is something we can work through, or if it’s a sign that we’re no longer on the same page. And is “taking time apart and maybe finding our way back” actually realistic — or just delaying the inevitable? SHOULD THE WAITRESS HAVE TAKEN OUR FOOD? Ok this is a bit of a lighthearted one but interested to see what you think is the right way to handle this. Went out for dinner just with my 2 kids and so I was solo parenting the night (6 and 4yo) kids ate free so wasn’t passing that up, plus $6 wine One kid had to go to the toilet so that meant taking both. I left all our stuff on the table to indicate we were still there. I covered my drink with a coaster, and I covered the kids with their kids pack hoping that all this would give the impression we weren’t done. Came back and they had taken the kids food The lady was there so I just mentioned “oh we weren’t done with those” she responded with “you left your table unattended” and I just gently said “yeah but with all our things still here”. She insisted there wasn’t much food left anyway and that we didn’t see the items (there was definitely a decent amount of food). We ended up getting an extra bowl of chips so all ok but she was rather rude about it all. I have worked in hospitality previously, and for a long time, pubs, bars, restaurants etc and usually in those instances we would just leave the food and drinks until we definitely knew they had gone or checked with the customer. So what do you think? I left the table so basically free range? Or the servers should have just left it?

Welcome to Offcuts, your weekly delivery of everything that caught our eye, wrapped in a light, fun package to kickstart your weekend. This episode is bittersweet- it’s our final one with Britt for a while before she heads overseas! In true Britt fashion, she’s leaving us in a whirlwind of chaos, including the minor detail of forgetting to book her own farewell dinner at one of Bondi’s busiest spots. We chat: Britt forgets to confirm her own going away dinner! Apart from the drama of MAFS, Britt has another bone to pick with the MAFS Australia Cast Jo Malone ‘surprised and sad’ after being sued for $370,000 for using her name on fragrances. Scientists have located a SECOND male g-spot?! Gleb Savchenko slams ex Brooks Nader as ‘worst sex of my life’

Today’s episode is going to have you in a belly laugh. We have had Joanne McNally on the pod before and if you listened to that episode you already know that she is one of the funniest, most chaotically brilliant people we have ever had on this show. In that episode, “The art of riding a lover to sleep” we spoke about what led her to comedy, being adopted, her non-existent pelvic floor and wild dating past. Since we last spoke, Joanne's life has changed a lot. On the career front, she's absolutely on fire. Her current tour Pinotphile has already sold across the world and she is about to make history as the first Irish female comedian to headline the 3Arena solo. She has come to the conclusion that she is, possibly, in the middle of a midlife crisis. Or as she now prefers to call it, a midlife audit. We chat: Dating younger men and how it’s different How she got the name ‘Pinotphile’ The fake Instagram account she shares with a friend Whether men are genuinely intimidated by funny women, and the power shift that happens when someone makes you laugh Deciding she wants to have a baby with her gay best friend and why she doesn't want to do it completely alone Finding her biological dad on Facebook, her half brothers in Melbourne, and what their relationship looks like now What it actually looks like to run a friendship and a business with Vogue William and why being professionally obligated to each other makes the friendship deeper

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions. A question came up in our Facebook Discussion Group about a partner who plays soccer 4 nights per week with a baby and a pregnant partner at home. We unpack whether the prioritisation of exercise is a common ‘issue’ in relationships and whether it’s ‘fair’. Vibes for the week: Britt - Amanda Knox Hosts | DOUBT: The Case of Lucy Letby Keeshia - Pivot podcast Laura - Love on the Spectrum Season 4 on Netflix HE LOVE BOMBED ME AND NOW I MISS THE FAKE VERSION OF HIM I’ve been in a relationship for 7 months now. It started like a movie. He texted constantly, planned elaborate dates, told me I was the one within weeks and even introduced me to his family after a month. I felt more seen than I ever had in my life. Six months in and he's a completely different person now. He’s often distant, distracted and puts in almost zero effort. I know what love bombing is and I know logically that the first version of him wasn't real. But I genuinely miss that version so much that I'm staying in the relationship hoping that one day it might get back to that phase. Do you think it’s worth sticking around and waiting for him to put more effort in and prioritise me like he used to or is this just a normal part of a relationship that turns into a long term relationship? I’ve never dated anyone for more than a few months. CAN RELATIONSHIP SURVIVE WITHOUT ROMANCE? I’ve been with my partner now for just over two years. From the start we’ve always talked about marriage and aiming for a long term relationship. We’ve recently moved in together & most aspects are going so well. We’re best friends, have great sex & share the same opinions about big life things. My question is, can a relationship survive without romance? Something I’ve always found difficult & confusing to understand is our lack of romance outside of the bedroom. We’ve had many conversations about it & still nothing has changed. My partner doesn’t buy me flowers, organise dates, plan trips away, write me letters, etc. These have always been initiated by me. It's something I recognised early on in the relationship but I ignored it and brushed it off at first, thinking it would automatically improve. But I’m now beginning to feel lonely, neglected and resentful of our relationship. My frustration is growing given I have communicated my desires many times and nothing has changed. Do you think my expectations are too high to desire these things? Given it’s my first relationship I’m struggling to understand whether I’m expecting too much IS PORN RUINING HIS DESIRE FOR ME? Married for 4 years. My husband & l have an 8 year age gap, l’m in my early 30s & he is in his late 30s. We have no kids yet, currently 5 months pregnant. My husband is a good guy in some areas however l feel we have mismatched libidos which is causing a problem in our relationship. I tend to want sex more than he does. I sometimes try to initiate sex when l feel like it, however most of the time he turns me down which leaves me feeling like shit and rejected. This tends to make things awkward as l really get into my head about it. We seem to only have sex when he feels like it. I don’t want to use a toy on my own as l get intense guilt from using a toy (I’m from a Christian background). l don’t mind when using it with him. I have tried to talk to him in the past however he says he will fix it but nothing has changed. Recently while l was helping him with something on his phone l found a private browser that was locked and in the browser he had porn websites open. I deleted the browser and didn’t ask him as l didn’t want him to feel like l was snooping around in his phone. This has been bothering me ever since, l have multiple questions in my head and l just don't have the answers to. A few days after l checked again and saw he had the porn browser open again which makes me think that he probably watches porn often. I’m going mad with all these questions in my head. Does he prefer to watch porn than having sex with me? Is he a porn addict? How do l handle this? He doesn’t take feedback well at all; he gets defensive and feels like it’s an attack. We usually have sex once every week to a fortnight. Or maybe l’m just wanting too much. I FEEL GUILTY ABOUT SPLITTING IVF COSTS After a few unsuccessful rounds of ovulation induction, I am going to be progressing to IVF. The fertility treatment is needed because of my PCOS. My partner and I have been together for 6 years and own a unit together. My partner earns about $15k more than me atm and is currently paying off our car but I have more in savings. I feel like it is fair for me to pay the IVF costs given it is my issue that requires it and I am in the fortunate position that I can afford to pay the whole amount. However, my mum is adamant that this should be a shared cost. My partner is extremely generous and I’m sure would not bat an eyelid about splitting it but I just feel uncomfortable about it. Is this an expression of my guilt that I’m robbing him of the joy of trying for a baby naturally?

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Laura's made headlines for her 'wild' birthday party Bonnie Blue has rage baited us again The price of privacy and the interior design scandal Mount Everest guides allegedly ‘poisoned’ climbers as part of a $30 million scam Fart blocking underwear

Hey lifers! Our guest Ask Uncut is BACK! Once a month (ish 😂) we bring in a special guest to help unpack your deep and burning questions, and this month's guest is friend of the show Mitch Churi! You know his voice, you love his chaos, and he may or may not have broken Brittany's chair during an important TV meeting, but that's a whole other story. Mitch is a comedian, actor, host, podcaster and apparently now a videographer (don't ask). Then we jump into your questions! I CAME OUT AT 31. AM I BEHIND? I came out at 31 and while I have zero regrets about who I am, I sometimes feel quite jealous of people who knew earlier in their life. I feel like I've missed a whole chapter and that my teens and 20s felt a bit fake, like I wasn't even myself. I also wonder if I'm taken as seriously in the queer community because I'm so new to it. My straight friends have a decade of relationship experience on me and I feel like I'm starting from scratch in my 30s. Is this a weird feeling and should I just get over it, or is it a common experience? CAN I FAKE A DIETARY REQUIREMENT TO AVOID MY IN-LAWS' COOKING? Is it okay to fake a dietary requirement to get out of a dinner situation? My partner's family does a big group dinner every few months and I genuinely dread it. The food is always aggressively bad. Everything tastes like it has ten times the amount of herbs and spices it should. I've started considering telling them I've developed a gluten intolerance so I have a built-in excuse to either bring my own food or bow out entirely. I am, in fact, not gluten intolerant. Is this really wrong, or would you do the same thing? MY BEST FRIEND IS TRYING TO BE AN INFLUENCER AND I WANT TO MUTE HER My best friend has recently started posting so much on Instagram and I think she's trying to become an influencer. It's a mix of fitness and mummy blogging content. She posts stories all day, every day, and usually at least two posts a day. She will sometimes send me posts and ask me to share or comment on them. Am I allowed to just mute her? I love her to death but I cannot take it anymore and find myself eye-rolling every time something comes up. She has around 2000 followers so surely she's not checking who's engaging... right? MY PARTNER LOST HIS JOB AND I DON'T RECOGNISE HIM ANYMORE My partner was let go from his job six months ago. He worked in tech sales and it came as quite a shock. He was always motivated, but fast forward to now and he's become a shell of the person he was before. He's tried to find a job in a similar field but has had no luck, and I feel like he's stopped looking as hard. He's sleeping in a lot and when I try to talk to him about it, he gets really defensive and shuts down. Financially we are okay because he was a good saver, but that pot is declining and I'm being expected to cover more and more. Our sex life has completely dried up and we haven't been on a date night in months. I don't recognise him anymore. What can I do to get him, and us, back on track?

Lately, TikTok and Instagram have been flooded with content about something called “Trimester Zero”. It’s the idea that pregnancy preparation should start months (or even years) before conception. And while some of the advice is genuinely sensible, a lot of it veers into expensive, anxiety-inducing territory: detoxes, organ meat diets, “non-toxic everything,” DNA panels that cost thousands, and the suggestion that if you’re not doing all of this, you’re somehow failing before you’ve even conceived. Today we’re joined by Dr Devini Ameratunga, a board-certified reproductive endocrinologist, gynaecologist and co-host of the Fertility Untamed podcast. We speak about: How common infertility is and whether it’s increasing Is trimester zero marketing preying on vulnerabilities? How common unexplained infertility is Why we are finally speaking about how men’s health can affect fertility Does men’s sperm quality affect miscarriage risk or nausea during pregnancy Myth busting yes or no; folic acid, choline consumption, detox teas, organ meats, cutting out caffeine completely, giving up alcohol, expensive supplements, creatine and stress alone causing infertility Dr Dev’s personal experience of Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG) and how much it impacted her life

Hey Lifers! Easter has come and gone and Laura has a very controversial take. She thinks Easter is actually kind of a bad holiday. Britt meanwhile spent four days completely alone; not in a zen way, in a "I didn't speak to a single human for four days" way. She's shining a light on the single people we forget about at family holidays. Britt also accidentally superglued herself to her luxury sheets with press-on nail glue. More on that. We're deep in the final stretch of Married at First Sight and this part of the episode contains spoilers from the episode that aired last night! We chat: Gia finally coming on After the Dinner Party after seven weeks of cancellations The monkey branching, the lying, and what's really behind Gia's behaviour Why this season's female-on-female bullying is especially badly timed given the manosphere moment we're in The Final Vows - Is walking away before letting the other speak taking power back or just plain disrespectful? Whether you can actually ‘fake’ a relationship for 3 months What's coming: the reunion episode and a juicy "where are they now" bonus episode

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions! Vibes for the week: Britt - Love Trapped Podcast Keeshia - Virgin River on Netflix Laura - La Casa Homewares Then we jump into your questions! MET A GUY BUT HE IS SO YOUNG I‘m 36 years old and I met a guy on an intercontinental flight a month ago. It was weird, because even before ending up talking I felt completely relaxed around him and had the urge to rest my head on his shoulder (I didn’t btw). My friend, who was sitting across the aisle from me, even snapped a picture, because she thought we looked good together. In the final hour of the flight he finally started a conversation and that last hour just flew by. He asked for my number and texted me a few hours later and we’ve been texting ever since. I suspected he might be younger than me from the beginning, but didn’t put too much thought into it. He’s from a different country than me, works in the military and is currently deployed abroad. He has now invited me to his home country this summer and put together a full itinerary to give me a real experience of his home. And let’s just say our interests align 100%. Yesterday I finally asked how old he is and it turns out that he is only 24 years old!This is a much bigger age gap than I would ever have imagined, because he comes across as very mature (more mature than many men my age honestly). But I‘m at a loss - how do I proceed from here? Interested to hear your take on this! BF SAID IM NOT AT ATTRACTIVE AS OTHER GIRL FIRENDS (AFTER 8 MONTHS) I’ve been seeing a guy for 8 months and it has been the most amazing time. We’ve got similar values and hobbies, get along amazingly, have never fought once and have aligned goals for the future. From the moment we met, we haven’t stopped texting, our chemistry was amazing, and he was the first to introduce me to his family, as well as say I love you. True penguin material. Then 2 weeks ago, I asked him his thoughts on whether in a year’s time, we should move in together (we both live alone currently). He said he had to think about it, then two days later, he turned up at my house out of the blue in tears and said we needed to break up. When I asked him to talk through what had happened, he said something felt ‘off’ about us but when I asked if it was something I did, he couldn’t give me any examples. After talking it through, he agreed that he was having a meltdown from other life troubles and he wanted to give us another try. Two days later, I asked him if being together is really what he wanted and he completely backflipped on having ever wanted to break up. He was extremely happy to stay together. When I asked him why, he paused and said ‘please don’t take this the wrong way, but you’re not as attractive as my previous partners. But I am attracted to you! More than enough! And I talked to my Dad about what’s important to me and everything else in our relationship is perfect!’ Given we met through an app, I didn’t alter my photos, plus we’d been together for 8 months, I thought that wouldn’t be an issue. But now I’m second guessing our relationship. What would you girls do in this situation? Extra info in case it helps with context, I’m 32, he’s 30, and we both came out of long term relationships, 1 year prior to getting together. DO I GO FOR IT WITH MY SISTERS GROOMSMAN Help- am I overthinking this? Last weekend was my sister’s wedding, a beautiful day celebrating love! One of the groomsmen, someone who went to uni with my now brother-in-law, was also single, and I sensed a kinda flirty vibe over the night. He has messaged me since and now I’m wondering if it is a bad idea to engage. He seems like a nice guy and our chats were lovely and lord knows the dating apps are not offering up anything better but if we date and it doesn’t really go anywhere, or worse it goes badly, then every time my family are reflecting on my sister’s wedding photos then BAM there will be this guy, and me, in the bridal party. Or worse, I make things awkward between my sister who has to be on my side and her husband who has been good friends with this guy for years.I’m leaning toward don’t engage because it’s not worth the potential drama but help me weigh up the pros and cons here. FRIEND SWEARS AROUND OUR KIDS AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO APPROACH Hey girlies, I have a close group of girlfriends and we all had kids around the same time and catch up pretty often. The kids range in age from 18 months - 3.… I’m starting to notice varying parenting styles and one friend in particular often yells / swears at her toddler… but swears A LOT around the kids in a more general sense. It’s VERY different to how I parent. I don't yell or swear at my kid ever and try not to swear in front of my kids…. and it is starting to make me a bit uncomfortable. How would you navigate this? I haaaaaate confrontation but I feel like it might have a negative effect on my kid and that’s my biggest concern. Thanks guys, hope you can help me with this one 

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Kim Novak “Would Never Have Approved” Sydney Sweeney Casting Clavicular arrest goes viral after claiming that he is 6’2” when the authorities claim that he is 5’11” AI Fruit Love Island FRUIT Composer behind 'The Lion King' opening vocals sues comedian for $27M over 'Circle of Life' joke

Hey lifers! Laura is FORTY and her birthday party is the gift that keeps on giving! There was no magician (there was however a very talented musician). Her alter ego Rara came out to play, the margaritas were free flowing, and the night ended with the neighbours doing something outrageous from the apartment block behind! Britt also has a confession - she lied to get a job. Not a little white lie, a significant one. Have you ever lied to get a job? It's been a rough week for Chappell Roan, and there are two big things colliding at once; the incident in Brazil with an 11-year-old fan and her security guard, and a growing conversation online about whether the brand she's built around herself actually holds up. We speak about: The Brazil incident - what actually happened and who is responsible What celebrities actually owe their fans The internet's "I got you" moment and whether this is a pile on The halo effect; why we assume moral virtue across the board when someone stands for the right things Her upbringing, Grammy Camp and whether she's feigned more hardship than she experienced Whether criticising a system you've benefited from makes you a hypocrite Why women with strong opinions and inconsistencies get cancelled faster than anyone else

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning dilemmas! Do you think 1 year olds should be having Easter hat parades? Do you think WE should have an Easter hat parade? (Only yes answers will be accepted). Vibes for the week: Britt: App Shortcuts -> Daily Declutter Keeshia: Dynasty: The Murdochs on Netflix Laura: Colour Me Kids Then we jump into your questions! MY COWORKER CRIES EVERY TIME SHE GETS FEEDBACK AND I'M LOSING MY MIND I manage a small team and one of my staff members cries every single time I give her any feedback; even positive feedback with a small suggestion attached. The crying means I end up comforting her instead of actually finishing the conversation, and now I've started avoiding giving her feedback at all which I know is making things worse. She's actually good at her job and I like her as a person. But I am a manager, not a therapist, and I genuinely don't know how to do my job without it turning into an emotional crisis every time. What should I do? HOW DO I TELL MY FRIEND SHES NOT INVITED ON OUR HOLIDAY? Help! How do my best friend and I tell our other good mutual friend she’s not invited on our holiday? Hey girls! Love the pod and are in need of some big sister advice. My best friend and I are planning a 2-week international holiday. We’ve travelled together many times and are super excited. However, last time we went away we brought a third friend with us. We had a good time, however upon reflection we’ve both separately come to the conclusion that she doesn’t match our travel vibe and we’re generally not travel compatible. My bestie and I have been friends for 10yrs now, but we fear our newer friend will be really hurt when she hears we’ve planned a trip just the two of us again. What is the best way to go about telling her? She can at times be quite sensitive (which we love and adore about her) and has had toxic friendships in the past which has left her being a bit insecure (she says this, it’s not us overanalysing her). The simple solution is just to invite her, but deep down we know we won’t enjoy our time and be able to relax if she comes. We don’t want to be bitches, but every way we look at it we just are the worst I FEEL INADEQUATE AROUND MY PARTNERS SMART/RICH FRIEND GROUP I am 30 years old, I work as a casual in 3 jobs. My partner is 32 and a doctor and business owner. We have been together for 3 years. His friends are lovely people and have always made an effort to make me feel welcome. However, every time I leave a gathering I feel less than. They all make at least 5x my income, all own properties (some quite lavish). When we go out to dinner it is often fine dining and we all split the bill. They think twice about booking business class flights, I think twice about purchasing coffee. They spent their youth in selective schools. I spent mine in intensive sports programs. They spent their 20s working hard for money, while I spent mine working hard on creative projects. They are all incredibly intelligent and witty. I find myself going quiet in the group, and blanking when I am addressed directly out of the anxiety of saying something stupid, which ironically makes me appear stupid. I love my partner. He is a wonderful person. I just can’t help the intrusive thoughts that if I don’t fit in with his friend group, how is it that we fit together? I do sometimes worry that in an attempt to create a yin yang relationship, I am forcing myself into a box that I don’t fit into. And is that creating an unnecessary feeling of inadequacy. Is it putting too much external pressure to change my true core values of creativity and adventure? So my question is, have you ever experienced very real feelings of financial inadequacy in a relationship and how did you combat it? Secondly, when I raise concerns around these feelings to my partner, should he be doing more to placate me, or are my insecurities ultimately my problem? FRIEND BEHAVED BADLY AND MAD I DIDN'T SIDE WITH HER My best friend behaved badly and was mad at me because I didn’t side with her. My best friend of 20 years, let’s call her Sam, recently had a huge fight with her other friendship group. Long story short, there was alcohol involved and Sam said some rather horrible things to her friends including patronising comments about the unfortunate financial position of one, and mocking another’s recent breakup. I was not there for the incident, but had other people who were at the bar reach out to me to come and pick up Sam, plus her behaviour was so ‘big’ and ‘screamy’ that the incident was filmed and shared around our town. Sam’s version of events is very different to that of her friends, but the videos don’t lie and to be honest, everything she said in the moment are things she’s told me before. I have tried to raise it with Sam that she was unkind and needs to be accountable for her actions, but now she is mad at me for not siding with her. A few years ago Sam helped me through a very rough patch and she’s brought this up, stating that I owe her for the help and support she once gave me. I don’t believe that her behaviour should be excused, and Sam should be held accountable for her nasty comments. I also don’t want to lose a friend of 20 years by not supporting her through this incident. What do you think I should do?

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Laura’s had something she doesn’t want return Single? No, self partnered The Compliment Gap "Admin Night" Controversy with Benjamin Chipman & Mel Robbins You think you F**ked up this week, think again.

Many of you will know Jules from Married at First Sight Australia, where she met her now husband Cam Merchant in what has become one of the show’s most successful love stories. They met on the experiment in their mid-30s, fell in love on screen, and have since built a family life together with two kids. Since the show, Jules has grown into a successful entrepreneur, launching the inclusive shape wear and fashion brand FIGUR. Jules lives with PMDD and explains how her hormones really threw a spanner into the works after having her first baby. Today we speak about what it was like going on reality TV later in life and unexpectedly meeting your husband, how her experience on MAFS compares to what the show looks like today, the realities of postpartum mental health, and how she’s turned her platform into a thriving business. We chat: The concept of ‘timelines’ and how Jules’ life pivoted at 37 years old Having babies in her 40s What a ‘gender selection specialist’ does and how Jules feels about getting pregnant in her mid 40s What PMDD actually feels like The post natal period with PMDD The difference a supportive partner can make Why Jules started Figur after MAFS and being body shamed The realities of growing a business Who we all think will last as a couple from this season of MAFS

Hey Lifers!! Welcome to Laura’s 40th birthday party! She’s got another party coming but her friends have taken over party planning and it’s becoming an extravaganza! Britt’s been tasked with finding a magician and we’re all on the hunt for Laura’s birth time for her birth chart. We have a nice sentimental moment when we get to share some of the ways that Laura has impacted your lives. Some are heartfelt and beautiful, some are absolutely hilarious. Laura also gets a personalised surprise performance by the incredible Hannah Conda We need to talk about Taylor Frankie Paul and the cancellation of the bachelorette in the US. ABC pulled the season three days before it was supposed to air. They pulled the season after WE saw the violent video, not because they became aware of the past behaviour of the person they chose to cast! We speak about: Whether Taylor was cast because of controversy or in spite of it? The courts vs the court of public opinion How far the ‘line’ is being pushed by casting someone with criminal charges ABC's culpability Britt and Laura’s lived experience with the bachelor and why certain people are cast The background checks that they do

Welcome back to your ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions! Do you argue with your partner about household admin? Vibes for the week: Sensor light link Britt - Marlo & Co Dog seat cover Laura - Queen of Chess documentary on Netflix Keeshia - @breeonabudget and Petrol Spy App Then we jump into your questions! WANT MY BF TO USE A PET NAME EX USED Is it weird to want my new boyfriend to call me the pet name that my ex used to call me? I am not one for pet names, especially ones like Bub, babe, lovey etc. But in my past relationship I adopted the name potato. Yes weird, it was because part of my name was similar to the word potato in his language, but I loveddd it. Whenever I heard it I felt giddy and personalised and special etc. I really miss that word lol and yearn to be called potato again. I am very much moved on from my ex and love my current partner and saying potato doesn’t bring ex desires. So is there a way that I can ask or play out to my new partner that I want to be called potato? Or do I very sadly let this go haha FRIEND CONSTANTLY STORY TOPS ME DURING CONVERSATIONS How do I call out a friend that constantly brings up her own experience/s when I share mine? For example, if I share something about my kid, she won’t even acknowledge it and just share an anecdote about hers. Or if I tell her about a work thing, she’ll respond by saying how she’s been so busy and her manager is being difficult. Sometimes I think she’s trying to show me that she gets it and is being relatable. But talking to her is so invalidating and exhausting but I also don’t know how to call her out on it?? It really seems like she thinks she’s being a good friend when really she’s making every conversation about herself! PARTNER DELETING SEARCH HISTORY I’ve been with my partner a decade, we are about to get married very soon. Since early on in the relationship, he's always followed loads of women that post very sexy content and actually just loads of women in general, often liking posts. This used to really affect me when I was younger and it made me feel super insecure. He was fully aware of how I felt about this though. Time and time again I was having to remind him of why this hurts me and I wasn't okay with it, even though he'd continue. But then he turned it down over the years. Fast forward to now. I feel so much more secure in myself and I feel like I've grown so much over the years with my self-confidence. And I also trust him, honestly, rarely thinking or worrying about what he's up to on social media. However, just today I asked him if I could look at something on his phone or on Instagram. My phone was dead and instead of him just handing his phone over to me, he kept the phone and went to the search bar and asked me, what do you want to look up? About to look it up for himself. As he did this, I noticed he quickly started deleting multiple searches from his recent search history. I immediately asked why he felt the need to remove his searches, and why it was an issue for me to say he didn't really give me an answer of what the searches were, but said he didn't want to get in trouble. I asked why he felt like he'd get in trouble, and obviously it was something that would be upsetting for me to see. The fact that he decided to remove them immediately in front of my eyes. He said he was sorry and it was something he shouldn't have been looking at, but didn't really admit to. What now?I wouldn't say I've ever been a controlling partner. And I know it's so normal for men to look at other women and think that they're attractive. He has free will, and I have no right to be looking into his search history. However, my issue is with him seeking women out in social media constantly, even when he knows it gets under my skin. It's made me feel really icky. Is this normal? I don't feel like I'm asking too much to expect of a partner that isn't looking at other women on social media constantly, or am I overreacting? PARTNER DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO HAVE FUN OR LET LOOSE My partner and I have been together for 8 years. We live quite different lives where I work in a bar which is social and I often go out afterwards and he has a standard 9-5. We own a house together and are getting married in May. We went to a wedding on the weekend and I noticed on the dance floor all these happy couples dancing, paying full attention to one another and both laughing and letting loose. My partner doesn’t behave like this, is quite awkward and seems like he doesn’t know how to dance or ever fully let loose. Others have noticed this too…….How can you get your partner to loosen up a little or is expecting this of him too much?

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: - Britt has found her hallpass - Punch's new girlfriend - Is Timothee's Oscar's downfall Jenner coded? - Date my mate powerpoints - The neuroscience that explains why mums wake up more than dad - An opposing view on the infamous Coldplay kisscam moment

There is so much conversation at the moment about the Epstein files and the trafficking of young women and girls. But while all the conversations seem to be around who was involved, who knew what and how this went uncovered for so long, the actual stories of survivors and their incredible strength can be lost. So today we are speaking to a trafficking survivor. Lurata Lyon's life story is one of unimaginable hardship and extraordinary resilience. As a child in war-torn Yugoslavia, Lurata endured the horrors of war, being separated from her family, and being taken by human traffickers - not once, but twice. After surviving the first trafficking and returning home, Lurata was kidnapped by Serbia's illegitimate army. She was tortured, abused and held in captivity for 6 months. Through her harrowing experiences of torment, abuse, and near-death, Lurata not only survived but found the strength to share her story with the world with the mission of stopping this happening to other children and young women. We speak about: Why traditional media aren’t talking about human trafficking Lurata’s story of how she kidnapped and brought to a human trafficking boss The one thing she said that changed their plans for her How she escaped their horrific abuse How Lurata was taken a second time How she survived living in a ‘box’ that felt like a coffin How her father saved her Lurata’s life afterwards; how she found refuge in the UK and found love Why Lurata shares her story and how common trafficking is

Hey Lifers! Britt has had a bit of a morning. Laura feels like she’s been on a bender from a lack of sleep but she may have found a solution (to knowing how much sleep she’s getting rather than actually getting more sleep). We have a particularly candid chat about botox and Britt shares the most recent embarrassing situation that she’s gotten herself into. We all watched a documentary this week that has left a lot of the world quite shocked about the realities of the content being shared amongst young men. It’s the new Louis Theroux: Inside the Manosphere on Netflix, and it’s exactly what the title suggests; Louis Theroux diving into the online world of influencers who are shaping how a lot of young men think about masculinity, dating and women. We speak about: Why so many young men drawn to these ideas about masculinity, power and women The Manosphere is a huge grift The algorithm is partly to blame The ludicrous amount of contradictions they make Who the doco was actually made for

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Silent retreats Penguins and their pebbles Should all cheaters have to do this escape room? The customer isn’t always right The terrifying trend to do with ‘obeying’ and younger men are most likely to be into it

Today’s guest is one of our most beloved comedians, writers, broadcasters and content creators Tanya Hennessy! We first sat down with Tanya just over a year ago when she shared one of the most challenging and heartbreaking chapters of her life, her fertility journey. She spoke openly about their IVF journeys (all 7 rounds), the emotional and financial toll it had taken and that deep knowing she had a little girl waiting for her. You can listen/watch here Since then, Tanya’s life has completely changed. She’s had her baby girl Scottie and she’s released her 8th book! Today we chat: How Tanya will never write smut books Being painfully anxious during pregnancy What it was like to finally hold her baby girl (it’s not quite what you think) The high followed by the crash Is motherhood what Tanya expected it to be? The expectation of motherhood vs the reality Where Scottie’s name came from What Tanya feels helped her get pregnant How becoming a parent affected her relationship Why she wrote Sunny and Storm

Hey Lifers! Britt is ‘trying something new’ today and she’s been humbled by her closest friends. P*rnhub has locked Aussies out and Britt has revisited her saucy past. Have you ever vetted a nude for a friend? Laura’s realising that her nearly 7 year old daughter has got impeccable taste but is also getting a little sneaky! Keeshia has a PSA about getting fire extinguishers for your home after her next door neighbour’s laundry burnt down last week. There’s a reel we came across this week that had us thinking about expectations and only celebrating ‘traditional’ milestones for our friends. Do you or your friends only celebrate/put time and money into the typical celebrations like hens parties, weddings and baby showers?? “This story is inspired by actual events. Certain depictions of people and events have been dramatized or fictionalized for story telling purposes”. Love Story: John F. Kennedy Jr. & Carolyn Bessette is one of the most streamed shows in the world but we are once again left questioning how much creative freedom writers should have when the people they’re depicting are real. Daryl Hannah has written a piece in the New York Times and said that the version of her on the show is “not even a remotely accurate representation of my life, my conduct or my relationship with John.” She has also noted that “the choice to portray her as irritating, self-absorbed, whiny and inappropriate was no accident”. We ask if it was necessary for Daryl Hannah to be depicted in this way so we would barrack for Carolyn? Do we still need such a blatant heroine vs villain narrative?

Welcome back to Ask Uncut, where we answer your deep and burning questions! Vibes for the week: Britt - Weekender Premium Foldable Travel Bag Laura - The Perfect Neighbor on Netflix Keeshia - Lexon Mina Sunrise Sunrise Alarm Clock PARTNER HAS TERRIBLE DENTAL HYGIENE My partner of a decade has terrible dental hygiene. Always has, but when he lived at home during our early years of dating, his mum would nag him about it so it wasn't as bad. He has a huge fear of the dentist, and despite many conversations, me booking appointments for him (that get cancelled) etc, nothing changes. I've even told him how scared it makes me for his health, because I know dental problems can lead to more. On top of that, it kills our intimacy. Sometimes I can barely stand to be near him when he's talking, let alone kiss him. He's given me UTI's before from eating me out. What the hell can I even do at this point, the fight feels futile. CONCERT TICKET ETTIQUITE I'm a massive Hilary Duff fan. Three of us decided to go together, so we all entered the week-long battle trying to get seats. On the final day another friend said she’d try too and would grab tickets for herself and me if she got in. Well… she actually got through and bought them. So I had to tell the original group I already had a ticket. They were not impressed and said I went behind their backs. So here’s my question: what’s the actual concert ticket etiquette? If you say you’re going with a group, are you supposed to stick with them only, even if it means you might miss out completely? Or is it fair game during a ticket sale to try every possible option and see what comes through? MY PARENTS WANT TO HELP NAME OUR BABY My parents want to help name our unborn baby. Am I wrong for feeling annoyed by it?? My parents are great, I live interstate from them so I don’t see them often (maybe once or twice a year). I’m 38 weeks pregnant and keep getting messages from my mum suggesting names for our baby. Is it just me or is naming your baby something special between you and your partner? I know it’s harmless coming up with suggestions for us but it’s just giving me the ick every time I see another message come through with a new baby name! I understand that living so far away, they feel like they’re missing out on a lot so I’m remaining polite but deep down it’s driving me insane! I’m mindful it could just be pregnancy hormones and I’m over reacting. DO I TELL MY FRIEND HUSBAND I just found out my best friend’s husband has been having an affair. She is completely blindsided. The thing is… I’m not surprised. And that’s what’s eating me alive. Last year, my husband and I went away with them for a weekend. At the time, my husband and I were in a really fragile place — we’d recently terminated a pregnancy and were struggling a lot. During that weekend, my best friend’s husband hit on me. Nothing huge or explicit, but enough that it was clear. I never reciprocated, I never crossed a line, and nothing happened. But if I’m brutally honest… I liked the attention. I was feeling low and disconnected in my own relationship, and it felt good to be wanted. I shut it down and we basically pretended it didn’t happen. After that weekend, I told my husband I didn’t trust him and that I thought he was the type who would cheat one day. Fast forward to now — we’ve just found out on another trip away that he’s been having an affair. She is shattered. And I feel so guilty that I didn’t warn her about the vibe I got from him a year ago. Part of me thinks: what would I even have said? “Your husband hit on me and I have a feeling he’ll cheat?” That feels messy and potentially friendship-ending. But another part of me feels like I failed her by staying quiet. Now I’m stuck wondering: Do I tell my husband (if he doesn’t already know the full extent of how it made me feel)? Do I tell my best friend what happened last year? Or is this truly none of my business and I just support her now? I never betrayed my husband. I never betrayed her. But I can’t shake the guilt. What would you do?

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Laura's protesting a negative review with her chest Our random animal fun facts Boy kibble vs girl dinner They want to ban PJs at the airport Aussie Brie and Camembert are the same Could this be the end of the group assignment?

We know you love ask uncut! The data tells us that you love ask uncut. They’re our most popular episodes so we have decided that once a month (ish - give or take 😂) we are going to have a guest ask uncut on a Friday! When thinking of the guest line up there was one person that we all unanimously said YES to and it was Toni Lodge! Toni has joined the podcast before (you can listen/watch here). She also joined our live show a few years ago in Perth! Today she is here to answer your deep and burning questions but first we will start with the pettiest hill she’s willing to die on: It’s okay to use your windscreen washer whenever you like; even if there’s someone behind you. Then we jump into your questions! CAN I STOP AFTER I'VE COME? Is it okay for me to have sex with my partner until I come, and then just stop - if I can tell he won't come too? My partner comes about 1 out of 2 times we have sex - and he always has, since we've been together. It used to annoy me but now I accept his sex drive is lower than mine and also, he doesn't think it's an issue. We used to keep going regardless, for fun and because we both enjoyed it. But I'm tired and pregnant, and have a toddler, and I can tell if he won't climax in a session... sooo can I just roll off him when I'm done, or do I have to wait til he calls it quits, even if it takes ages?? CAN I SHAVE IN THE PUBLIC POOL SHOWER? So let me preface this by saying: I have two small children, work part time, study full time and take most of family mental load. I get very little time to myself and very rarely get to shower by myself or uninterrupted. Twice a week I go swimming at the local aquatic centre. It’s my time all to myself, no children. I go to a pool that does not have child facilities so it’s very much me having a grown up moment. I also go during the day when it is not very busy, so the change rooms and showers are all free (this becomes important later). The shower I have after my swim is bliss. I can close my eyes and pretend the hairballs and the foot fungus don’t exist and for a moment I can just stand there. No screams of ‘muuuuum’, no toddler telling me I have a hairy ‘pagina’, no husband fumbling around the kitchen using every pot we own to boil spaghetti. Bliss. So I do everything: I wash my hair, I scrub my body, I double cleanse my face and (this is the gross bit) I shave my legs. Is this considered disgusting? Is shaving in a public shower acceptable, given the circumstances? I’ve posted under a pseudonym because I’m not going to stop (just being honest), but I’m so interested to know your thoughts. FOUND OUT DAD HAS ANOTHER CHILD AND I’M HURT Okay this might be a big one but I need some advice as I’m really struggling with this. I haven’t had a real relationship with my dad for years after he walked out on me and my family after an affair he had, I have always struggled with my relationship with him and it had been so back and forth for a long time and I was always the one to forgive him and give him chance after chance and would constantly have my heart broken fast forward to 6 years ago when I found out he has another child with the partner he cheated on my mum with, I recently have seen a photo of him with his new family and for some reason it has absolutely broken me, I feel as though I wasn’t enough and so he has replaced me. Although I have no relationship with him and that all ended up being on my end as I was over being hurt by him but I don’t know why I still feel so heartbroken over this revelation. Am I silly for feeling this way? RED FLAG TO HAVE A GIRL BEST FRIEND THAT HE DATED? I just recently started seeing someone. We are in our mid 20s. We’ve been on about 4 dates and it feels really lovely and steady. On our last date, he told me about a girl best friend. We’re not at the stage of meeting each other’s friends yet, so I haven’t met her yet. He told me they’ve been friends for several years, they go to uni together being in the same class, and they dated for a year before deciding it was a mistake. She has a boyfriend now. I appreciate him telling me about her, as if things progress we’ll be doing long distance and it would have been easy to hide. I didn’t feel anxious when he told me as he reiterated that the chapter is very closed, mutually. However he’s said they text every day. He was very understanding that it’s unconventional and he’s happy to answer any questions I have. I wanted to take a few days to think about the conversation before I had it. Is this a major red flag, and if it is, what should I be asking him about their relationship or what boundaries should I be putting in place? I don’t want to control his friendship, and he has invited me to meet her in a few weeks, but I’m nervous.

It’s finally Laura’s 40th birthday (month) and she’s feeling an unexpected way about it; despite what other people in the content world might think! We speak about the feeling of knowing yourself fully and peace that comes as we get a bit older. Can you still have photos of your ex in your phone? Does it depend on what ‘kind’ of photos they are? We unpack a situation that unfolded on MAFS and why we feel weird deleting photos from the past. Plus we chat about the terrifying trend being sold to young men - looksmaxxing There’s this streamer called Clavicular who has blown up online in the past year. On the surface, looksmaxxing sounds like skincare, grooming, self-improvement but this is not just gym bro content, darker. Is this just the male version of long-standing beauty pressure on women? Or is it a pipeline into something black pill culture? Are we normalising surgical self-editing as self-care?

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep, dark and burning questions! Keeshia has a new haircut that she’s claiming is ‘for the girls’. Laura has an ask uncut of her own and we’ve come to the realisation that sometimes we don’t react in the ways we think we will in some situations. Vibes for the week: Britt - Reality Check: Inside America's Next Top Model - Netflix Keeshia - The Babies Kept in a Mysterious Los Angeles Mansion - The New Yorker Laura - @womenshealthwithheidi Then we jump into your questions! I ASKED MY EX NOT TO MOVE ON FOR 1 MONTH - IS THIS UNREASONABLE? My partner and I (of 3 years) recently separated. We continued living together for a month after this, trying to make it work, but I'm now moving out. He had purchased a house and a dog very briefly before we got together, so they are technically his, which means my whole world is changing, but his stays much the same. I've asked him to not do or start anything with anyone else for a month while I find my feet - I'm absolutely devastated and am so scared of being immediately replaced and having our relationship feel like it meant nothing to him. He has said he isn't in a hurry to move on but can't commit to this. Is my request reasonable? I'm asking him out of respect for me and the life we've had together. HUSBAND WANTS TO TAKE OUR KIDS TO CHURCH, I’M NOT RELIGIOUS My husband and I have been together for 8 years and married for almost 4. We have two beautiful girls, a 2.5 year old and a 3 month old. We are currently having some in depth conversations about religion. When I first met my husband he let me know he had faith and grew up as a Christian and went to church as a family. When he and his family moved to Australia they stopped going to church and there was no talk about religion. In the last few years his brother, mother and father have started going to church again. My husband has recently started talking to me about wanting to get involved back in the church and taking our girls. For context, I am not religious and grew up in a non religious household. He would like to start taking the girls to church occasionally and would like me to come as well. I would like to broach the subject of religion when the girls are older and are able to do their own research, learn about all the different types of religion, question it and form their own opinions. I don’t want them going up and thinking Christianity is the one and only way. Please don’t get me wrong I do understand and respect Christianity and certain aspects of it .. like being a kind and selfless person, having grace etc.. I'm just not sure about some of the other aspects as I am not sure I agree with them. How do we find the balance for our family? ENGAGEMENT RING IS SO NOT ME Early last year my partner and I went and looked at engagement rings. I chose a plain 2mm gold band with a 3 carat oval diamond (lab grown). I always wanted the solitaire to be the main focal point with no diamonds on the band. While we were there I tried wedding bands on as well. Initially I tried on a 2mm band that had small diamonds all the way around which my partner really liked, I said it felt uncomfortable and scratchy against my other fingers and I always pictured myself having small oval diamonds. Fast forward to late last year, my partner got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. There was my beautiful solitaire oval diamond but to my surprise the band had little diamonds around it just like the wedding band he liked. He said he wanted to add a little something special to it. I have never told him how I feel but I really don’t like the ring and every time I look at it I feel like it’s not me. We are currently looking at wedding bands and he has sent me what he wants. He keeps asking me what I want and I don’t know how to tell him that I don’t know what wedding band I want now because the one I wanted looks stupid with this ring now that it has the little diamonds around the band. I feel my only wedding band options are a plain gold band or get one exactly like an engagement ring band. I really want to have the diamonds removed so I can have my dream ring but I don’t want to hurt his feelings or seem like a brat. I also imagine having the diamonds removed from the band would be expensive. I’d love your help

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Punch’s $16 IKEA toy selling for wild amount The most revolting hotel 'hack' circulating The lesser known 'looks minimising" Eric Dane secretly recorded his 'last words'

Today’s guest is someone many of us grew up watching even if we didn’t realise it. David Holmes was a stunt double in the Harry Potter films, mostly for Harry but he also doubled for quite a few other characters and contributed to one of the most iconic movie franchises of our generation. But during filming, an accident left David paralysed from the chest down at just 25 years old. His memoir The Boy Who Lived and his documentary of the same name tell the story of that accident, but more importantly, what happened after. In the book and the doco, David shares how his friendships are what kept him alive, how his identity has shifted since the accident and the complicated reality of rebuilding a life when everything changes in a second. In today’s chat we speak about: Losing sensation but finding the best s3x he’s ever experienced A particularly beautiful love story - David and his partner (who also has a spinal cord injury) falling in love and ‘heeling’ a lot of themselves together What it was like being a stunt performer for 7 Harry Potter films BTS of Harry Potter and his close friendship with Daniel Radcliffe David’s accident that happened on set Fighting for 3 years for proper compensation Blame after an accident like this David’s advocacy for disabled people The friendships he has maintained The future of the creative world like stunting with AI “If Someone Offered Me A Magic Pill To Get My Legs Back, I’d Be Reluctant To Take It” You can get a copy of David’s Book You can find him on Instagram 

Hey lifers There’s no ‘big news’ in this episode despite dangling that carrot in the past… Britt has sent some accidental pictures and Laura’s got a story about her fridge that will have you on the edge of your seat! We catch up on MAFS and whether the public ‘punishment’ fits the crime or if the outrage tips the scale. We speak about the really controversial participant and how ‘red pill/black pill’ language has entered the chat. Confessionals are back! Some are light and easily forgiven, others are… diabolical! Do you tell your partner everything? What about secrets that friends have asked you to keep to yourself? There’s an article in Vogue UK called “Please, Stop Telling Your Partner My Secrets”. When you tell your friend something vulnerable are you actually telling the couple? Because somewhere along the way, we decided that when you’re in a relationship, your partner gets access to everything. Every conversation. Every secret. Every piece of emotional processing. But is that fair? We unpack. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! The start of this episode nearly got vitto-d and maybe it should have stayed that way! Vibes for the week: Laura - Leakproof Milk Bralette Britt - The Interview': The Woman at the Center of the French Rape Trial That Shocked the World- The Daily Podcast Keeshia - StepsApp added to lock screen widget Then we jump into your questions! My HUSBAND IS GAY AND HOW SOON IS TOO SOON I got married young and about 11 years in, my husband came out to me as bi. Totally fine, not the biggest surprise and at the time he said he didn’t feel the need to act on it. Cut to 12 months later, we had moved cities and were trying to establish our new circle and life. One Saturday he asked me to bring up the weekend newspaper quiz on his phone and I opened it to an app where he had been chatting with men online. He confessed to masturbating with them live online and that he did feel the need to act on it. Cut to six months later, he told me he was gay and we are getting divorced. Funnily this isn’t actually the crux of my question. Truthfully we were on the rocks for a long time, there was no intimacy (shocking I know) and I had been very unhappy. After we separated officially and some intense tears at saying goodbye to a version of my life that I thought was it, I jumped on the apps for the very first time! After a few non-starters I met a wonderful guy. He is caring, smart and treats me like I am what he has been waiting for. The intimacy is amazing and we have been together for nearly a year. So here it is, this all just feels too good to be true? I mean what are the chances of finding “the one” so soon after my experience? FRIEND DIDN’T TELL ME ABOUT IVF My friend just told me she is 6 months pregnant after multiple rounds of IVF, which she never told me about either. She said only people who asked her directly were let in on the secrets and that they’ve all been especially supportive through this tough time. Am I entitled to be annoyed with her because she didn’t share this? Is she entitled to be annoyed with me because I didn’t ask? I’m happy she’s pregnant but annoyed that I haven’t been part of her journey until the last minute! DO I SHOOT MY SHOT? Do I shoot my shot at the gym or risk things getting awkward? For reference I go to quite a small group gym (around 35 people per session). I’ve been going for a few months now and ever since I started I’ve noticed this one guy who always goes to the same sessions as me. I’m single, not having any luck on dating apps and am wondering how I could potentially get to know this guy without making things awkward. I have no clue if he’s single or not but have seen him arrive with one of the other girls on a few occasions. I don’t even know how to go about initiating a conversation with him as it’s usually quite separated with girls on one side and guys on the other. So my question is, would you guys shoot your shot and try to get to know him more or is it better to keep things as they are and not make it uncomfortable seeing as we go to all the same classes and see each other most days? DO YOU HAVE TO RETURN HAND ME DOWN BABY CLOTHES? I would love your opinion on this. I have a friend who gave me some hand me down clothes for my youngest son, to which I am forever grateful for as I am a single mum of two. However, I’ve just received a message from the friend saying “Hey next time you do a wardrobe clean out, can you just put away whatever I gave you because I want to take it back. I’m starting to collect stuff to give to my brother in law because they’re going to start trying next year.” Now the problem is, I’ve given away most of the baby clothes. I never expected to see them again nor did I expect that I was going to return them to her. So am I right in thinking this is a really weird request? Some of the clothes I’ve donated, some I’ve given to other people. I didn’t realise that she would need them back. Do I tell her that I donated them? How do I navigate this and am I in the wrong? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Forgetting valentine’s day and whether you’d be into a concert proposal Australian Federal Police want to date YOUR criminal exes Brooke from MAFS Announces Pregnancy The Rise of Single-hood The Top Dating Trends to Know for 2026 Who amongst us hasn't turned up to work a little bit buzzed?

The release of the Epstein files has been an incredibly confronting and disturbing time for everyone. The court filings, emails, photos, flight logs and other materials relating to Jeffrey Epstein’s criminal network have exposed so many people in power and most of the world are left wondering whether they will ever have to take accountability for what they’ve done. But they’re also overwhelming and it can be hard to distinguish what is internet theory and conspiracy from what is fact. A few weeks ago on the podcast, Britt’s recommendation was Aaron Parnas. He is a lawyer and a journalist and has amassed 5 million followers on tik tok, 3 million on instagram and his substak, “The Parnas Perspective” is the top-ranked news newsletter on the site with more than 750,000 subscribers. His content intersects law, media and policy and he is known for his rapid response posting multiple times a day. He has become a go-to for Epstein file updates. Today we speak with Aaron about: How and why he became such a prominent voice in this space Who Jeffery Epstein and Ghislaine Maxwell were and how they became connected with very powerful people Why we are only really hearing about the Epstein files now How Trump is connected to Epstein Could Trump possibly be prosecuted in the future? Whether we will ever see the other 3 million files The people being criminally investigated/fired from their jobs How Trump could pardon himself Unpacking conspiracy theories like pizza gate, jerky and the babies Jeffery’s connection to Russian intelligence and other agencies The inconsistencies around Epstein’s death You can find Aaron Parnas on Substack Instagram Tiktok Youtube 

Hey lifers! Tonight is the first night of our new TV show and we’re so excited to unpack the ins and outs of MAFS. How does burnout feel for you? Laura had a conversation about interpreting ‘normal’ requests as threats when you’re at the point of burnout and how it’s showing up in every facet of her life at the moment. Are you good at spotting a liar? How about when it’s your own children? Laura can’t tell when her kids are telling the truth or when they’re conspiring to tell perfect fibs. They could be great actors or Laura could be really gullible! We need to talk about the Wuthering Heights chaos. Britt and Keeshia went to the Australian premiere last week and give their takes on what they thought of the in person versions of Margot and Jacob. We unpack whether book adaptations should stay close to the actual story line and why there’s so much criticism about this particular adaptation. We also ask “Why does Hollywood keep adapting the same stories instead of creating new ones?” 

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! Vibes for the week: Britt - Kidnapped: Elizabeth Smart on Netflix Keeshia - Karcher K2 Power Control Pressure Washer Laura - @stevenwommack Then we jump into your questions! 19 WEEKS PREG AND CANNOT STAND MY PARTNER I’m currently 18 weeks pregnant and cannot stand my partner. It feels like everything he does makes me mad. We are currently getting our old house ready to sell so he is spending A LOT of his afternoons there but I struggle with the fact that I’m left to do the majority of the housework at our new place. I feel as though I’m always stuck doing the housework even since before sprucing up the old house. He keeps telling me it will be better once the old place sells but I just don’t believe it. The other part is I am SO sick of being asked the same questions over and over. For example, what weekend something is on or when the next appointment is etc. It also feels as though he asks questions just so he doesn’t have to use his own brain but it’s also ALL the damn time!! I am going crazy. Please help. I CHEATED ON MY HUSBAND AND THE OTHER GUY HAS GONE COLD, I FEEL USED AND GUILT I don’t really know where to start and it’s killing me ! I’m Married with 3 kids . My marriage the last year or more has been really up and down. We have had a lot of separation talk .Both of us are not very happy but both are probably too scared to leave. In October I was out and met this guy (friend of a friend ) . Nothing happened. We added each other on insta and started talking. It went from texts to every morning and night phone call on the way to work. He lives a few hours away from me but comes to where I live once a month . He is also a dad with kids . We spoke for a whole month. It was quite in depth about how our lives could work together if his ex would let him move with the kids to where I live. The chemistry was crazy. I've never ever had that. Fast forward, he came back a month later with his mum and kids and we met up several times and slept together a few times. I met the fam and his kids. I was ready to give it a shot and be together. I was even willing to do long distance. After this he went back home and spoke to his ex who said he is not allowed to move with the kids. Then everything totally shifted. We went from talking every day to nothing. He keeps saying he wigged out cuz I’m married still, and he feels bad about what happened. He doesn’t wanna be the reason to break a family. He also said that he won’t do long distance. He has gone so cold and so quiet. I feel like he is avoidant. A few weeks ago he came back to where I live and no text, no call, nothing. Bare minimum messages and acting like he didn’t give a shit. I’m actually sick to my stomach about how the hell it changed so quickly. I feel used and ick. My husband and I are still together . He is a good man but I feel like I’m not a priority to him and all and we are absolutely roommates. I’ve never ever been unfaithful in my marriage before and would have never unless it meant something. I’m left so confused and gutted. I can’t stop thinking about this other guy and I never really hear from him anymore. I’m so bloody confused. How can you be so hot and then go so ice cold? He has almost turned a little mean towards me. I don’t know what I am asking but I needed to vent to someone! CAN I CHASE UP PEOPLE WHO DON’T GIVE A WEDDING GIFT? My future husband and I are having our wedding in 5 weeks and something that is playing on our minds is people forgetting or not giving us a wedding gift - money haha. I know it sounds ridiculous but I couldn’t imagine going to someone’s wedding and not giving a gift. Would it be bad if we were to send an email saying our thank you and if you forgot or haven't sent your wedding gift to us here are our details? We would word it better as well. CAN YOU BE A REFORMED CHEATER? Can someone be a reformed cheater without any personal work or voluntary accountability? For context, I recently found out my long term partner has a history of cheating. It’s never been to the point of sex, but at some point in all of his past relationships he has looked elsewhere for some kind of attention or sexual validation. For example, sexting other girls. I also found out this happened to me early on in our relationship, which has been very devastating. This is something I have asked him about before, and he has now admitted to lying to me about it because he didn’t want to be ‘branded’ in that way and thought I wouldn’t forgive him. He reflects that he feels bad and wouldn’t do it again. My issue is that I feel he is only taking accountability now because he has no other option now that I found out. Do you think it’s possible that this type of pattern of behaviour does just stop on its own (because of maturity/growth or finding the right relationship) or does it require conscious personal work and reflection?

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! Vibes for the week: Britt - account @aaronparnas Keeshia - The Rest Is Classified. Epstein Files Declassified: Was He A Spy? Laura - Lacevo bra breast pump Then we jump into your questions! BF GAVE UP SMOKING THEN STARTED AGAIN YEARS LATER, AND NOW WONT STOP My partner and I have been in a relationship for 6 years and he was a smoker when we met (maybe 2-3 cigarettes a day) but I even said to him on our first date that I never wanted to marry someone who smoked. It’s always been a no go for me - very scared of the consequences and what might happen if he continued to always smoke. Anyway, at the time (v early days of dating) he told me that he would quit one day and definitely didn’t want to always be a smoker forever. In fact, he said he would quit before we ever got engaged. And he did. He quit over 3 years ago, for a period of about a year until one day he had a falling out with his dad and was suddenly smoking again. He hasn’t stopped since and we’ve had conversations (as I have been seriously disappointed by it) and he said “fuck that promise, I smoke, either get over it or leave me”. I’m 6 years in now mate, I wish it was that simple. He clearly has no plans of quitting and I don’t wanna break up. What should I do? Btw we’re not engaged yet - but we’ve been planning our long term future forever. And he is my person, but this habit. It’s soul destroying for me. I wish he would just change because I know I can’t make him. AM I CAPABLE OF LOVE?! I've been with my husband for 8,5 years and married for 3 and we have 2 kids (4 and 2). He's not my first long-term relationship, I had one for 5 years and a few shorter ones way back in my teens. I'm just not sure if I've ever been in love? I (like any parent) love my kids with my entire being, I love my family and friends etc, and while my husband is a great guy and I'm very fond of him (lol), I'm not sure I've ever been in love. My goal was to always have kids (told him that on our first date) and my mum always said to pick a guy who'd be a good dad (my own is definitely meh and that's a whole other story to unpack). I knew he'd be a fantastic dad, which he is, and I think that's a big part of why I committed. Am I awful? Our home life is nice, we have fun and all, but would I be a better person if I "set him free" and let him find love he deserves? HOUSEWORK DIVISION My husband works 40 hours per week in a job that he doesn't particularly like but he has to ride it out a bit longer. I work the regular 37.5 hours in a job that I love. Should I be doing approx 2.5 hours more housework than he is? (Not that I would actually count it- more just the principle). He has never suggested this and is simply the BEST guy, but I find myself sometimes a bit resentful that he's not on the ball with house things as much as I am, and doesn't do quite as much... Mostly because I beat him to it. He's not good at remembering all of those little things like 'coffee machine deep clean' etc. Then the other day it occurred to me: should I be okay with doing more because he works more? Again, he has never mentioned this, and is such a golden-retriever, beautiful, kind man. For context: he is very clean and generally amazing to live with. We don't have kids or a dog: just the two of us! We will start having kids next year hopefully 😊 DAYCARE AND MUM GUILT I have a question I’d love to hear Laura talk about as she has little kids(and obviously get Brit’s ideas on too because she’s AMAZING) I’m a working mum. I work as a lawyer and I’ve always worked full time. I just had my first baby (he’s 4 months old) and I’m thinking about when I go back to work (probably when he’s 10 months old) and putting him in daycare. I’m feeling mum guilt about this so I’d love to hear your thoughts on being a working mum and will my baby be ok and still thrive as a daycare kid.

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Is accepting your Olympic medal the time to confess your cheating ways? What happened with Bumble’s “women first” ethos? Laura's calling bullsh*t on the amount of people using their phone during sex Margot Robbie's attack on torsos Do you know someone who plays the 'dicktim'?

Today we’re talking with Reuben Williams, whose journey through the justice system will open up one of the hardest but most necessary conversations we can have. Australia has been watching the case of Tom Silvagni for the past few months; a man from a high-profile sporting family who was found guilty by a jury of raping a woman. He has since filed an appeal. That case has reignited debates about how sexual violence is handled, how suppression orders can protect perpetrators, and what survivors face when they speak out. Reuben is unfortunately familiar with how the ‘system’ works, not just as a commentator, but as someone who went through the legal process himself. We speak about what actually happens when someone reports sexual assault in Australia, why justice rarely feels just, and how power, fame, privilege and suppression orders can distort truth and accountability. We also speak about: How and why Reuben advocated for himself and sought a level of justice Reuben’s court case and the process he went through His advocacy for survivors when people on the internet make comments like “they don’t look like a victim” The impact that coming forward has had on him Facing the perpetrator in person The tactics that defence attorneys use Removing 'good character' references If this conversation does bring anything up for you, support is available at 1800 RESPECT 

Hey Lifers! It’s another rough start today but not as rough as Britt’s Italian language skills. She’s been trotting around saying something wildly inappropriate. She’s also had the internet come for her after she attempted a different language. While she can’t understand most comments because they’re written in other languages, emojis are universal! Laura has reached a point of sleep deprivation that’s got her wondering which way is up. She’s remembering the last time she went through this and it’s bringing up some… memories. Keeshia’s been stitched up with a licence photo and she’s now stuck with it for 10 years. We’re diving into the super bowl! The halftime show is usually more watched and talked about than the game itself, and this year was bigger than ever. There was a lot of talk in the lead up about whether this half time show was going to be a political statement and what that statement would be. Bad Bunny gyrated all over an incredible Puerto Rican themed set. We unpack all of the Easter Eggs, messaging and ‘family friendly, all American’ alternative show that was offered by the controversial organisation turning point.

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! Britt is starting her weekend with a fresh shot of nutrients that came directly from Laura! We chat: A 7 year situationship seems to sum up modern dating life The AI chatbots are bitching about humans How important is height?

Beauty standards are a set of rules and guidelines that we’ve spoken about hundreds of times before. We live in a time where it feels hard to keep up with them. We’ve discussed how pretty privilege can quite literally make you more successful in your career, the halo effect and how people with more symmetrical faces are viewed as more trustworthy. But, today we are taking a deep dive into how much social media and AI have changed the way that we view ourselves and if they’re to blame for the impossible beauty ideals that we are expected to live up to! Today we’re joined by someone who has spent years studying the way beauty culture shapes us, pressures us, and sometimes totally warps how we see ourselves. Carly, or Carlz J Söda, is a photographer and a researcher and her thesis looks into how social media, AI, and beauty standards collide and what that collision is doing to our sense of self. We speak about: How we all seem to anticipate criticism that we might get for the way we look, and change ourselves before anyone else has the opportunity to criticise us The concept of ‘digital lateral surveillance’ - a theory of how we police each other How facetune and photoshop have affected us psychologically Are we to blame for AI’s ‘beauty ideals?’ The cost of ‘beauty’ The Kardashians being victims of the beauty standards that they themselves perpetuate How the selfie camera distorts what you look like

Britt is brimming with salmon…sperm. Welcome to your Wednesday! We’ve been nominated for an AACTA and Britt’s planned outfit is giving Chapel Roan at the Grammy’s but sheer on the other end. Britt’s received a particularly strange gift from Ben and she wasn’t sure whether she should be offended or be grateful for it’s practicality. Laura’s daughter Marlie Mae has been so brave and decided to busk on the busy streets of Noosa. She’s been very successful and it’s left Laura wondering if it was a good or a terrible parenting decision. Kanye, now Ye, West has taken out an ad in the Wall Street Journal apologising for antisemetic and racist behaviour. But is it a marketing tactic? We unpack the apology that Ye took out last week and whether the timing is just a bit too convenient for us to think that it’s sincere when he has a new album coming out next month. We also chat about the complexities of conversations like this when it comes to discussing psychiatric illness and being accountable for immense harm and fuelling hate.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deepest dilemmas and offer our most passionate, ‘lived in’ (technically unqualified) advice. We’ve got dilemmas of our own and it involves needing to shave our faces… Someone from our facebook group (that you can join here Facebook Discussion Group) is participating in top tier girl code and gamer boy better look out! Vibes for the week: Laura - UK Traitors Season 4 Keeshia - Mad Mabel by Sally Hepworth Then we jump into your questions! I’M A SW BUT DON’T HAVE SEX WITH PARTNER OF 10 YEARS I’ve been with my boyfriend for 10 years and we essentially don’t have sex — but he constantly guilts me about it. For context, I’m a sex worker and he spent many years seeing sex workers before we met. We’ve always had an open relationship, and I’m okay with not having sex together given the rest of our relationship is amazing. The issue is that I don’t enjoy sex with him — there’s no seduction, no initiation, and it often feels rushed, painful, and disconnected. I’ve tried explaining that effort and communication matter, but he becomes defensive and turns it into “you sleep with your clients but not me.” Even my clients put more care into my experience than he does (I don’t tell him this). We avoid talking about it because he gets immature and blames me. How do I handle the guilt and resentment, and is this something that can actually be fixed — or am I ignoring a bigger problem? IS IT CHEATING IF THEY’RE TEXTING BOTS? Is it considered cheating if your significant other is on apps (e.g telegram) and is messaging “bots” ? A friend of mine has been in a relationship for around 10 months and recently found out her boyfriend had been sending messages to these bots. The messages are on the flirtier side - the bots send through an image of a woman (mostly AI) with minimal clothing and her boyfriend would reply with “” or “looking good” etc. These bots also comment on his appearance, saying he’s hot and sexy etc. She has said that it is cheating and she wants to break up with him as he is seeking sexual validation and attention from these bots. Would love your take on this! PARTNERS COMING TO GIRLS CATCH UPS? I am currently on parental leave. Twice this week I have made plans to meet different friends for walks and coffees with their bubbas, and when I arrived, their partners were there as they are on paternity leave! I really love their partners and it’s great to spend time with them too, but I find it strange that in both cases neither decided to give a heads up. Isn’t this just good manners to give a heads up if someone else is joining? But since it happened twice with two different people I'm just thinking maybe I'm overreacting? JOKES ABOUT HARRY STYLE BEING MY HALL PASS AND BF IS UPSET I love my boyfriend of four years. He is caring, kind and makes me feel so safe. Recently as you would have heard, Harry Styles is releasing new music. I was very excited about this (as a long time one direction and Harry fan!) and suggested to my boyfriend that we try to get tickets to his upcoming tour! He immediately got upset and said he would never go to a Harry style concert with me again. We went a couple of years ago when Harry was last touring. And apparently he was uncomfortable with how excited I got during the concert and from a joke I made about Harry being my hall pass, and saying how much I love him. I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong, but he feels like I was seriously inferring that I want to cheat on him. I think it’s quite common to joke about celebrity crushes and I would have no issue with home saying the same about dua lipa, for example. I don’t even remember this conversation, because I don’t think I said anything serious. I told him that I must have been making a joke about my celebrity hall pass, and that obviously I don’t actually wish to cheat on him with Harry Styles. It really bothers me that he has been bothered about this for years and never once brought it up with me until now. It’s also hurtful to me that he actually believes that I would want to cheat on him, if given the chance. We’re now not talking, and I think the whole argument is completely ridiculous. Help! What should I do? IS IT SELFISH TO NOT SHARE MY BABYSITTER DEETS TO FRIENDS? I am in a big circle of expat friends all with kids all with no family around (aka family who also double up as babysitters on occasion lol). Myself and my partner have recently started to organise some nights out again now that the kids are a little older- 4 and 2. Like I said we've no immediate family here and only 1 lady in our daycare offers babysitting- which my friend already uses and we tend to do things together within our expat circle. Anyway I found a lovely girl offering babysitting on Facebook, organised a meet up to do a vibe check, checked her credentials and we had some mutual friends from home which I contacted and she checked out. She is great and my kids loved her. She has babysat for us twice in the last 5 months and it's such a relief to know we have someone that we can rely on!.. which leads me to my question.. a friend has asked for my babysitter's details. Am I the ahole for not wanting to share them

Welcome to our first episode of off cuts! This is where we chat about whatever peaked our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Is your feed filled with post baby 'bounce back' content? Would you sign away your whole persona for a billion dollars? Are you protecting your peace, or are you just euthanising your personality? “No Bare Bums.” Lose the G Strings ladies! Skyscraper Man and whether parents should take on high risk activities

Today we are joined again by the phenomenal Elizabeth Gilbert. We recorded an episode with Liz last year titled ‘Being Single Needs A Rebrand’ In that episode we spoke about: What Liz’s life was like before and after the success of Eat, Pray, Love, If she were to name ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ again it would be ‘Not exactly what I had in mind’ and How Liz used to drain herself by giving her everything to relationships but now feels being emotionally autonomous Liz’s latest book “all the way to the river” is an incredibly honest recount of her own experiences of sex and love addiction alongside her wife’s journey through drug addiction and terminal cancer. Today we speak about: What sex and love addiction actually looks like (it might be more familiar to you than you expect) What it feels like to be out of control of yourself Coping with validation cravings, codependency and grief Why Liz didn’t have a choice but to be honest in this book Having a deep level of intimacy with your best friend A revelation about trigger warnings Being an olympic level people pleaser Why Liz doesn’t read any reviews anymore and what that’s taught her about our sense of self The parameters she’s had to put on herself to reach ‘emotional sobriety’

Hey Lifers! We’re properly back after a few weeks off and we missed you all so much! We also have a brand spanking new TV show that we are hosting to tell you about! Our holidays were very different. Britt has been slothing her way into Italian life and objectively not looking her best. Laura has become particularly acquainted with the young pharmacist and is repetitively speaking about how they are not having a 4th child. None of us took part in the ‘flashback to 2016’ trend because some of us allegedly look like entirely different human beings and those memories deserve to stay in the past! We all interpreted the memo to create 2026 ins and outs differently. Laura is the only one who understood the assignment but we’ve found an unlikely soberish candidate for 2026. You’ve likely heard of ‘admin night’ but would you try any of these? Batch meal prep party Photo cleanup and memory swap — sort phone photos together and share stories behind old pictures Clothes edit and swap — declutter wardrobes and do a clothes swap with friends Inbox detox session — delete, unsubscribe, and organise your email Password reset party — spend an evening updating passwords and enabling security Swipe party - where you all swipe the apps together

Hey Lifers! We hope you’re enjoying your summer period. While we are on holidays we thought it was time for our most requested episode - ASK UNCUT AFTERMATH!! The highlight of our jobs are getting an insight into your deepest, burning dilemmas. We often wonder “what happened next??” And today we have some answers to that question! Some of you took our ‘advice,’ others absolutely didn’t 😂 If you’d like to flash back to the original question and response, each episode is linked below: I HAVE A CRUSH ON MY HUSBAND'S BROTHER BEEN EXCLUDED FROM FRIEND GROUP HOW DO I TELL MY HUSBAND I’VE BEEN ADDING TOMATO TO HIS DISHES?! IS A 6 MIN VOICE NOTE FROM A POTENTIAL DATE A RED FLAG? NAVIGATING EX AND NEW PARTNER AROUND MY SON HE LIED ABOUT HAVING AN STI SEPARATED BUT I NEED SEX - DO I GO THE APPS?! - DON’T WANT EX TO KNOW You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! Welcome to our favourite episode of the year where we take a walk down memory lane to some of the best and most unhinged moments of our year! It was our biggest year yet! We reached 100 million downloads, focussed on growing youtube this year, we added Ness and Sheri to the team, we released our first spin off mini series ‘Cloud’ and we got to interview some of the world’s biggest celebs, artists and podcasters like Kim Kardashian, Teddy Swims, Sporty Spice and Dr Rangan Chatterjee! Last year for our year in review we shared quite a lot of ask uncuts and interviews but this year we have an ask uncut aftermath coming for you next week and some of our favourite interviews. This year in review is more focussed on the funny moments from the year so strap in if you’re in need of a bit of a giggle. We will link the whole episode for each of our favourite moments! Laura's summer break last year and Lola’s newest accessory How Britt made the very difficult decision to choose who would be responsible for transporting her wedding dress internationally As a nod to the most streamed TV show in Australia MAFS doing confessions week, we brought back an old segment ‘confessionals’ and these ones were next level! Love worth waiting for Laura sharing the news with us that she was pregnant with who we now know as Poppy!! Finding out the gender of Matt and Laura’s baby! Britt’s wedding(s). Gen Z could NEVER Britt’s accidental roast Unfortunately I do love Laura’s smurf vag Britt wanting to do a stretch and sweep Poppy’s birth playlist Sporty Spice Melanie C! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack some of your deep and pressing dilemmas! Vibes and unsubscribes for the week: Britt - Incels podcast Laura - Picture Postie Keeshia - The Beast In Me on Netflix MY BOYFRIEND TAKES VIAGRA BUT HE DOESN’T KNOW THAT I KNOW I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we have a healthy sex life. There’s been a couple of occasions where he has struggled to maintain an erection and he occasionally brushes it off as just a performance thing. The other day when I was at his house, I noticed a pack of used viagra on his bathroom counter. Now I honestly don’t mind that he uses viagra as personally I just see it as an aid to our healthy sex life. But my question is should I tell him I know he takes it? I don’t want him to feel insecure that he needs to take it if I bring it up. But I also feel like he shouldn’t have to hide it from me as I really don’t mind if he takes it. Help a sister out, to tell him I know or continue just having great sex without him knowing I know IS IT NORMAL TO SPEAK TO AN EX? My ex and I were in a relationship for 8 years. First love, high school sweethearts type of thing and were engaged for a year before it ended tumultuously. A lot of things were left unresolved with no closure. We never spoke to each other since, until now. Fast forward 6 years and he’s appeared on my socials. Now I’ve been married for 2 years and he’s been in a relationship for 3. We’ve cleared the air about how things ended and have genuinely seemed to have formed a friendship again and catching up on each other’s life. I don’t know if his girlfriend knows, but I haven’t told my husband. For context, we’ve had our own issues the last 6 months so it wouldn’t be ideal. My question is can you have a platonic relationship with an ex or am I setting myself up for a disaster HUSBAND HAS BEEN SEX CHATTING OUR WHOLE MARRIAGE I’ve been with my husband for 13 years and we have 3 year old twins. For content- our relationship has been really really rocky ever since the babies were born. I take full responsibility for my part of it and I’m well aware of my personal issues and the fact that I sometimes can be a pain in the ass and difficult to live with (so is he obviously). We’ve been talking things through several times and agreed to stay married because deep down we know that we love each other. We’ve just bought a new bigger house and we both saw that as new, clean beginning Now to my dilemma. A couple of weeks ago, I accidentally looked at my husband's phone (not intentionally looking for something “bad”) and discovered an app installed on his phone that’s only used for sexchatting. I confronted him with this and he admitted that he’s been sex-chatting with other girls for most of our time together, basically since 2012. Even though our relationship was fantastic (before kids) and our sex life pretty awesome, especially in the early years. All these years, he’s been doing it behind my back. Chatting with other girls, sending naked pictures of himself, receiving videos etc etc. He says he stopped doing this a couple of years ago (but I find that hard to believe- why was the app still on his phone) and he’s stubbornly insisting that this doesn’t constitute cheating. To him - this is equivalent to watching porn. This makes me even more sad and angry. I’m totally devastated. I feel grossed out and I do consider this cheating. Just the thought of him doing this while we were newly weds etc makes me sick. I’m absolutely sure that I do not want to divorce him, mostly because of our children. I can’t stand the thought of not seeing my babies every other week. I really want to forgive him and move on from this- but how?? How can I trust he’s never going to do this again, knowing that it’s been going on for years. I’ve suggested couple counselling but he’s hesitant. I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Much love from a devoted listener all the way from Sweden! (Would like to remain anonymous:) SHOULD I INVITE MY SISTER TO MY WEDDING? My partner and I are getting married next year, and we’re clashing over one major guest decision: my sister. To put it simply, my sister has caused a lot of hurt and conflict for me and my parents over the past eight years. She struggles with alcoholism, often makes everything about herself, and shows strong narcissistic tendencies. I initially said I would invite her because she’s my sister, but my partner is firmly against it and honestly, I understand why. Every time I’ve seen her in recent years, it’s ended in drama, usually fuelled by alcohol, and I’m left upset and in tears. She hasn’t really shown up for me in any meaningful way and has even taken advantage of me financially. My partner keeps reminding me that our wedding day should be about us, and he’d hate for her to ruin it. I know he has a point, but I still feel guilty at the idea of not inviting her even though our relationship is strained and unpredictable. I’d hate for her to cause drama on our day, especially when alcohol will be served. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’ve done a lot of episodes about dating in the past. We’ve actually done a few about dating with today’s guest! But we’ve recently had a bit of feedback that some of you in the dating scene are really struggling to find the motivation to keep dating at the moment. Some of you feel exhausted. Others feel a bit hopeless, and it turns out, you’re not alone. There has been a big cultural shift in what women want when it comes to dating and it’s got a trendy new name - “chalant dating”. To break it down with us we have friend of the podcast Logan Ury here! Logan is a Harvard trained behavioural scientist, dating expert, author, host of Netflix’s“The Later Daters,” and Hinge's lead Relationship Scientist. Logan has spent years and years unpacking the science behind dating and finding successful relationships. We speak about: The dating trends that we’re going to see in 2026 What is chalant dating? Why do we want chalant dating more than what a potential future partner might earn or even look like? Why there seems to be a mismatch in expectations between men and women The toilet paper test The actual green flags around planning energy we should look for What are the ‘successful’ people doing on dating apps at the moment? Do you feel like you’re ‘undateable?’ The steps you can take if you’re feeling burnout from dating The switch from a ‘soulmate’ mindset to a ‘work it out’ mindset How AI will change the dating landscape Summer dating trends, cuffing season and what we tend to see when it gets colder The most popular day of the year on dating apps is coming up really soon You can find more from Logan at her website and her Instagram You can read the whole report from Hinge here You can find some of our previous episodes with Logan cloud And here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, we’re joined by Konrad Benjamin, the voice behind Punter’s Politics. Punter's Politics is on a mission to cut through the political spin and convince everyday Aussies (or punters) that politics actually matters. Konrad is the guy with the blonde mullet known for calling out corporate power, and using satire to make us understand and give a shit about what’s going on in the world of politics. Today we wanted to speak about political issues affecting young people, independent vs legacy media, housing and of course, gas. We chat: Konrad’s career switch from being a teacher to being a content creator Some of the less obvious ways that the government can be in bed with corporations The controversy around Aussie gas that is being given away for free How the media can skew your perception of political things Coincidence or corruption? Why Konrad doesn’t think you should cheer for a political team like you do for a sports team Why politics shouldn’t actually be complicated You can find more from the Punter’s Politics website Punter’s Politics instagram Punter's Politics Podcast You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey lifers! It was lovely seeing all of your spotify wrappeds and every year we are surprised by how much we are able to infiltrate your ears! We think they were sneaky with how they went about ‘assuming’ your age based on your listening and Laura wants it to be clear that she is a mum and the K Pop demon hunters wasn’t her. We know that one time we kind of pulled your leg with a ‘Britt’s big life update’ but this time we actually do have a bit of a life update for you! We chat about all of the changes coming to the podcast next year! Please welcome the offcuts! Britt has sat on telling us all a story for nearly 3 weeks because she’s so embarrassed. In her own words “I’ve done something really stupid” and look, we don’t disagree! Laura has been sucked into a new hyperfixation after Black Friday sales that she’s mostly confused about and doubting the claims that you will see results in 8 weeks. We’re 2 weeks away from Christmas and with it comes an avalanche of feelings and emotions! Tanya Hennessy recently wrote an article titled “I’m homesick for a place I can’t go.” She has a recurring feeling of homesickness and restlessness, not necessarily for a place she grew up, but for a sense of “home” that she can’t define or return to. We speak about experiencing this feeling even when we’re in our own home or with family, reflecting a kind of existential longing rather than literal nostalgia. We also chat about how our sense of ‘home’ has changed so much over the years and at times thinking about what it means now can feel confronting. Tanya Hennessy: 'I’m homesick. For a place I can’t go' https://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/wellness/mental-wellbeing/tanya-hennessy-im-homesick-for-a-place-i-cant-go/image-gallery/bee29065d7481c0502d4f5d62fd8d962 You can watch us on https://www.youtube.com/@lifeuncutpodcast/featured Find us on https://www.instagram.com/lifeuncutpodcast/ Join us on https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeuncutpodcast/ Or join the facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/549565895610504 Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx – 0:00 Intro 3:10 Our Biggest Listeners 6:18 Britt's ACTUAL Big News 8:57 Did We Get Fired? 11:57 New Saturday Episode - Offcuts 13:47 Life Uncut BINGO 15:10 Frequent Flyer Fiasco 22:16 Black Friday Impulses 31:04 Homesick Vs Timesick 56:19 Accidentally Unfiltered 59:13 Britt's Suck & Sweet 1:01:08 Laura's Suck & Sweet __ Hosted by Laura Byrne & Britt Hockley Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions. There are two types of people in the world - the ones who shut down their laptop and the ones who never, ever, ever do unless it runs out of battery. Further on this path, are you the type of person who has an ‘order’ that you like your tabs to be in? Vibes and unsubscribes for the week: Laura - Christmas trivia Keeshia - @scotteeisfat Britt - Allison after NXIVM from Uncover Podcast Then we jump into your questions! IS TAKING FOOD HOME FROM A DINNER PARTY RUDE? I’d love your thoughts on something that happened at my annual Potluck-Style Movie Night and Dinner Party. I host this every year for 6–8 friends, and I usually provide homemade pizzas, drinks, and an appetiser. Everyone else brings a small dish or extra snacks for the movie. This year, one friend brought cheeses and crackers and told us to keep the leftovers—great! But at the end of the night, another couple (two of my closest friends) went into the fridge, took back the drinks they brought, and packed up the dessert they had made. Here’s the question: What’s the etiquette for a potluck-style dinner party? Is it rude to take home what you brought, or is that perfectly okay? For context, this couple is extremely wealthy—but maybe that doesn’t matter? I’d love to hear your take on this. Am I overthinking it, or is this a social faux pas. I WANT SOMETHING BACK FROM MY EX Ladies, I am in a little pickle-dickle and would love your thoughts on the route forward. Now, for context, I am a solo Mama that has recently ended a 3 year relationship with a solo Dad. We both have children of ages sentient enough to feel a loss here, so this was a well-thought through decision on my part, based on repeated avoidant patterns and lack of communication. He did not take it well and proceeded to block all communication herein. No worries, his prerogative. My conundrum is that he has a few things of mine I would like back, including a brand new motorcycle helmet I know he was envious of and is likely now using for himself and my 8 y/o’s scooter. I cannot contact him at all as far as I understand. My daughter’s father, with whom I have an excellent relationship with, has offered to message him to collect it... However I feel that looks really petty and like I am pitting two burly dudes against each other so I politely declined. His wife also offered to reach out....again, I don’t feel great about asking someone else to do my dirty-work. What would you do? Snail mail? Show up unannounced (which I do not feel particularly safe about doing…so that is all but off the table), message one of his family members? Or cut my losses…even though I hate the fact he is very likely wearing my shiny-new helmet and giving his kids my daughter’s electric scooter. GAY MAN - WHO SHOULD I GO FOR? I’m a 26 y/o gay male who’s been going on lots of dates after a bit of a romance slump, and now I’m seeing two guys and getting to the point where I need to choose who to keep pursuing. Guy 1: 26, lives super close (very convenient), but doesn’t have stable work, only gets a few event shifts, and isn’t really working toward any study or long-term career goals. Guy 2: 28, lives much further away, works as a podiatrist and is also doing his PhD. Me: I’m 26, a speech pathologist, and hoping to move into more acute hospital/rehab work in the next year. I’m attracted to both, and the chemistry is pretty equal, maybe slightly stronger with Guy 1, but I’m stuck on who fits better long-term. They are both great and although chemistry is stronger with Guy 1 the lack of career drive makes me nervous, Guy 2 seems like a safer option but travel considerations and the chemistry is just a bit lower. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Today we’re sitting down with someone who went from aspiring acting and hospo shifts to viral content creator and comedy queen. Maddy MacRae is someone whose face and skits are likely familiar to you. She’s grown a following of 3 million people collectively across social media. Today we wanted to talk to Maddy about how she carved out her own path in acting, what some of the realities of content creation are like and the ever evolving goal posts of content that had her living in an airport for a week! We chat: How Maddy got the career she has and the commercials that led her there What her first viral video wants The law of detachment and how it impacted Maddy’s life The one reality TV show Maddy would love to do Content fatigue and being in a period of burnout The contrast of having an amazing job but the loneliness and isolation that comes from it The current dating scene The post that Maddy really regrets You can follow Maddy on Instagram And on tiktok You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! We have a new drinking game for you all based on our individual ‘habits’ (flaws) and Ben has a very important question for Keeshia that could tear the team apart. Black Friday sales have got the better of some of us and Britt has a nice challenge for Laura during the busiest time of her year. Laura’s really showcasing how different things can be for the 3rd kid. Poppy’s actual birth date and full name are TBC. Britt shares a crazy story about how her dad spent most of his life not knowing his age! In a recent episode of Oprah’s podcast, Oprah tackled the rise of “going no contact” where adult children cut ties with parents or family. Is it destroying families, or is an act of ultimate self preservation and protecting your mental health? We speak about: The conversation around emotional safety, mental health and boundaries has changed What was once taboo (cutting ties with parents) is now being discussed openly — especially by our generations There doesn’t seem to be a line in the sand for what is and what is not ‘valid’ for going no contact Why family are the only people we are ‘willing’ to accept bad behaviour from Have we gone too far with ‘boundary’ talk/ don’t have enough grace for our parents? If validation and self reflection are the only solution You can watch the whole episode of ‘Oprah Explores the Rising Trend of Going No Contact with Your Family’ If you’d like to listen to a previous episode where we spoke about estrangement, you can here: Narcissistic parents Sam Fischer Em Carey Bridget Hustwaite Melissa Leong You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions with the best advice we can! Britt is waving the manifestation wand after receiving a lovely message from one of our lifers! Vibes and unsubscribes for the week: Laura - Unsubscribing shellac nails Keeshia - Unsubscribing iOS 26 update Vibing Elizabeth Gilbert “All The Way To The River” Britt - Morning Wars Season 4 on Apple TV Then we jump into your questions: HUSBAND DESPERATE FOR ANAL SEX BUT I HATE IT - HOW TO COMPROMISE? My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 5 years, have 3 kids under 5, both running businesses; so chaotic times. This year my husband has been obsessed with getting me to have anal sex to “spice things up”. I have always been a firm no but have recently caved a few times to try it after so much hassling and trying to keep the peace. But I honestly fucking hate it! It hurts, it is not pleasurable and grosses me out. He loved it. My question is how do we compromise on this? I am now fearful of it if he brings it up because if I say no he just throws a temper tantrum. I have tried to have an honest conversation with him about the fact it really hurts me however he feels it’s just something I will get used to. I honestly feel like this is a him problem, he needs to suck it up the fact I’ve had 3 kids and I may not be as tight as it once was. But is there also another side I’m not seeing where I should try to consider his pleasure in this? MY NEW RECEPTIONIST HAS SLEPT WITH MY PARTNER YEARS AGO AND NEITHER OF THEM TOLD ME I’ve got a sticky situation which I need to unpack. I’ve been with my partner for the past 4 years, we have a great relationship and have just bought our first home together. I work in the medical field and have a new receptionist that started with us 4 months ago. We’ve been getting along really well and it wasn’t until today we had a long conversation making connections about people we knew in town, until she then dropped the bomb that she slept with my partner 5-6yrs ago! Now I’ve been talking about my partner like she didn’t know him and I’ve also been talking about my new receptionist to my partner for the past few months and he never mentioned it. I was initially shocked and kinda laughed about it. She said she wanted to say something in case someone else ever said anything. When I asked my partner about it, I was laughing the whole time (low key because I’m not good at having tricky conversations) and we both just felt weird at the end. He said he wasn’t ever going to say anything because it didn’t mean anything which I totally get but I kinda feel dumb being the one who didn’t know anything…. I’m after advice on how I should feel because I don’t know if I’m being dramatic in this situation. MY FRIEND KEEPS LYING TO ME ABOUT COSMETIC SURGERY So I have a friend that I’ve been friends with since Uni days. For context, we’ve been friends for 15 years now. I know her very, very well and I also know what she looks like. Over the last few years she’s been getting quite a few cosmetic procedures which is great, she looks amazing. The problem is that she always seems to lie about it. Most recently we went out for dinner together and it was very evident that she had her lips done. Now we’re sitting at dinner and I said “oh my gosh, you got your lips done. They look great.” To be fair, they actually didn’t look that great just yet because they were still swollen which is what I mean by the fact that it was very evident. As she has responded to every single other question that I have had around whether or not she’s had any procedures she said “no I didn’t” in almost an offended tone. I don’t care at all. I’m actually all for it if she wants to get anything done; I’ve had my boobs done. But it’s just surprising to me that she feels the need to continuously lie about it. Is it something I should bring up with her or just let it go? LOSING ATTRACTION What to do about losing attraction? I have recently realised I have lost my attraction / desire towards my partner. In particular he doesn’t put any effort into grooming, so his beard is always scraggly, and he doesn’t shave his neck. In addition he doesn’t dress well, he doesn’t care about clothes so he often wears clothes that have holes in them (from having them for so long) or don’t look good on him. Now I love him so much, we get along so well, we have the same interests, goals, and he makes me laugh. We have been together for 4 years and we have a house and a dog together. When we first got together these traits were the same, so nothing has changed other than I think at the start I let it not get to me because I was so happy to have met someone who ticked all the rest off and didn’t want to be superficial. Now however I have lost my sex drive (which used to be high) and we barely have sex - like once a month - and I think it’s because of losing desire towards him. How do I bring this up with my partner without sounding like an asshole… because I truly do love him so much, I just wish he put more effort into how he looked. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Laura has reached a milestone - her sex life has returned after having her 3rd baby but her hip flexors aren’t on board. If you or your partner has had a baby how did you go getting back ‘into’ it? Britt was in a dilemma with her Uber driver and it resulted in her inviting a complete stranger into Keeshia’s house for a rather awkward reason. Britt has also tried to get in touch with her ‘natural’ side and she has learnt the very real dangers of leaving your crocs behind. Ageing Out of F*cks: The Neuroscience of Why You Suddenly Can’t Pretend Anymore Last week we briefly spoke about Janette being ‘dumped’ on the bachelor and how being in the life stage that she is may have contributed to having less f*cks to give when it comes to acting in the way that the public expects you to. A fantastic substack written by Ellen Scherr https://substack.com/home/post/p-1787... argues that many women hit a midlife neurological and hormonal shift that makes them suddenly unable or unwilling to people please. This shift is what she calls “The Great Unf*ckening.” It’s not bitterness, but biology: the brain stops supporting the emotional labour and social smoothing that women have been conditioned to perform since childhood. We speak about how many relationships can break down when women reach this age where they stop taking on as much of the emotional labour of the relationship and stop suppressing their own emotions and frustrations. We also chat about some of the hormonal and neurobiological changes like oestrogen dropping, synaptic pruning and changes to the prefrontal cortex. Losing relationships because you stopped performing isn’t actually loss. It’s clarity about what was never really there.

Laura has reached a milestone - her sex life has returned after having her 3rd baby but her hip flexors aren’t on board. If you or your partner has had a baby how did you go getting back ‘into’ it? Britt was in a dilemma with her Uber driver and it resulted in her inviting a complete stranger into Keeshia’s house for a rather awkward reason. Britt has also tried to get in touch with her ‘natural’ side and she has learnt the very real dangers of leaving your crocs behind. Ageing Out of Fucks: The Neuroscience of Why You Suddenly Can’t Pretend Anymore Last week we briefly spoke about Janette being ‘dumped’ on the bachelor and how being in the life stage that she is may have contributed to having less f*cks to give when it comes to acting in the way that the public expects you to. A fantastic substack written by Ellen Scherr argues that many women hit a midlife neurological and hormonal shift that makes them suddenly unable or unwilling to people please. This shift is what she calls “The Great Unf*ckening.” It’s not bitterness, but biology: the brain stops supporting the emotional labour and social smoothing that women have been conditioned to perform since childhood. We speak about how many relationships can break down when women reach this age where they stop taking on as much of the emotional labour of the relationship and stop suppressing their own emotions and frustrations. We also chat about some of the hormonal and neurobiological changes like oestrogen dropping, synaptic pruning and changes to the prefrontal cortex. Losing relationships because you stopped performing isn’t actually loss. It’s clarity about what was never really there. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! How long do you have to ‘hold on’ to something you’re given? We mean like cards or things your kids have made? Lola made a very nice and very heavy burger… and Laura needs to know how long she has to keep it for! Vibes for the week: Laura - The Secret Cellular Repair Night Cream Britt - Dr Diamond Keeshia - Christian Petracca On Trac Cookbook and @on.trac5 Then we jump into your questions! CAN YOU LOOK THROUGH PARTNER’S PHONE? I’ve got a bit of a moral dilemma I’d love your thoughts on. It’s about whether it’s ever okay to look through your partner’s phone — and more specifically, does it change things if what you find actually proves they’ve been unfaithful or untruthful? I’ve never been the kind of person to snoop, but recently I found myself in a situation where my gut was telling me something wasn’t right. I didn’t want to be that person, but the curiosity and the need for reassurance were eating away at me. When I finally looked, I found that my partner had been deceitful. So now I keep wondering — if your instincts turn out to be right, does that lessen the wrongdoing, or is it still completely unjustified to look in the first place? FYI my partner was extremely upset and believes the act of snooping outweighs any wrongdoing. BEST FRIEND HAD A BABY AND EXPECTS ME TO OFFER TO TAKE THE BABY (I”M CHILDFREE) My best friend had a baby this year, and suddenly I’m Public Enemy #1 because I haven’t “offered to take the baby for a few hours.” I told her multiple times I’m happy to help- just tell me when! But apparently, she “shouldn’t have to ask.” Look, I love her, but I work full-time, I don’t want kids, and I’m not exactly out here craving baby cuddles on my day off. Am I supposed to just show up like, “Surprise! Hand me your child”? Am I a bad friend, or just child-free and confused HUSBAND SLEEP TALKED AND I THINK HE CHEATED A few days ago I had a sore come up “down there” and I mentioned it to my husband who I’ve been with for 15 years. I just put it down to stress and didn’t think too much about it. That night he woke me up sleep talking and said “no protection! Big mistake! Big mistake!!” It’s worth noting he does sleeptalk about work a lot as he works in a high stress job. Am I absolutely nuts for worrying that this has something to do with me saying I had a sore down there and now he’s sleep talking about it because he’s done the wrong thing and cheated and now he’s worrying about it in his sleep? He has never cheated (that I know about) and we’ve never had issues in the past. But I just can’t shake this feeling. The term “no protection” in his sleep talking has really thrown me as it’s such a randomly specific thing to say after I’ve said I have a sore there… please help! Am I overthinking or is this weird? Also worth noting it’s not like a visible blister or sore lol just literally a sore spot on the labia FRIEND SHARED PRIVATE DETAILS I ASKED HER NOT TO My brother recently went to rehab and it was very much in secret - no one knows except for his very close friends who he chose to tell. I told my two best friends in complete confidence and one of them spilled the beans to some of my other friends, despite me making it incredibly clear to them not to tell anyone. This isn’t the first time it has happened, as my same friend also let slip that I had done IVF which my husband wanted kept a secret except for 2 friends so I could have my besties to vent to. I feel my trust has now been completely broken twice - where can I even go from here? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Today’s episode is one that has been so highly requested over the years, we’re surprised it’s taken this long to talk about it! We’re talking about all things skin, skincare and myths about longevity. Joining us is Dr Natasha Cook, one of Australia’s leading dermatologists and the founder of her own skincare range DrNC. Dr NC is particularly straight forward when it comes to breaking down the facts vs the fads of skin. We want to chat about the things we all want to know but are too scared to ask — like whether saunas are secretly ageing us, if collagen supplements are a waste of money, and why so many Australian companies had their sunscreens pulled from the shelves because they weren't what they said they were! We speak about: The 6 key skin concerns. Most of us want to treat more than one. Should we prioritise skincare or nutrition? Dr NC’s answer to this might surprise you How much sugar and alcohol affects skin and can cause pimples Are collagen powders or gummies worth our money? Sleep - what products and routines help our skin If you’re serious about skin, saunas/hot yoga & pilates aren’t good Skin barriers & barrier function. What’s compromising the barrier? Botox - whether you get ‘used’ to it Perception drift and ‘preventative’ botox At home devices like LED lights, rollers, gua sha etc The “SPF Australia Scandal” and how these companies are avoiding Australian testing. Dr Cook “It is deceptive and misleading conduct.” How aerosol spray sunscreens are really misleading What lasers are best and will give the best results Dr NC’s ‘non negotiables’ You can find more from DrNC at her website including her dermatologist designed skincare You can follow DrNC on instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! Laura’s whole extended friends and family have been taken down by various bugs and we all need to calm the heck down and stop socialising. Keeshia has another neighbourly gripe but also a new hobby and we just know you’re on the edge of your seat for the updates 😂What hobby did you succeed at and then bail on? Laura and Matt have celebrated their 3rd wedding anniversary by watching the finale of the Golden Bachelor. Laura shares some BTS of how you’re told to react if the Bachelor doesn’t choose you and she wants to celebrate Janette for not acting in the way that you’re ‘supposed’ to. Perhaps being in her ‘golden’ years has made her a lot wiser and have less f*cks to give when it comes to acting in the way that the public expects you to. Should you fire someone if they were found to be cheating on their partner (as their boss)? Natalie Dawson, who is a CEO, went on Diary of a CEO podcast and shared her controversial take on firing employees that were having an affair. Whilst it’s probably not legal in Australia, how much should a company’s values extend into the personal lives of employees? Would it change your opinion if it was TWO employees of yours cheating together? Can You Spot AI In Videos? Are We So Used To Seeing Fake People On The Internet That We Don’t Know What Real Ones Look Like Anymore? Body confidence content creator @em_clarkson posted a video with 9.6 million views where she is in a bikini on the beach but as the video plays out, certain parts of her body change back and forth between her actual video and the AI version. Her hips move in and out, her skin colour changes and the texture becomes softer, her boobs become bigger and more perky etc. We speak about how AI has progressed to the point that we can’t spot it and whether we are so used to seeing ‘altered’ people online that we’ve forgotten what real people look like. We also speak about an article by Mary Madigan titled ‘Baffled by natural breasts’: Men have forgotten what real boobs look like written about Millie Bobby Brown’s natural cleavage on a red carpet promoting Stranger Things. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions. First up, an Aussie celeb has said that he loves dogs so much, he had two of them that passed away taxidermied. They live in his current house alongside his dog that is still alive. Would you ever taxidermy your pet? What’re your thoughts about Scotty’s stuffed pets? Vibes for the week: Keeshia - @Emilydbaker Britt - Chilli and Charli PJs Then we jump into your questions! SOMEONE TOLD MY DAUGHTER THEY’RE HER HALF SISTER - HELP Ok strap in for this one. A little background I have a daughter, she’s 12 and in highschool. Her dad unfortunately was murdered and passed away 8 years ago, big trauma for both of us etc.. So fast forward to this week, my daughter has a friend at school. She's known her since primary school but they’ve gotten quite close this year. My daughter came home Wednesday and told me her friend told her a big secret and not to tell me or anyone else. This friend proceeds to tell my daughter that she’s her half sister because her mum used to be with my daughters dad’s best friend and when they were trying to get pregnant he couldn’t so my daughters dad “donated sperm”. Now while this sounds insane and like an episode of home and away, there were some key facts that were too correct to ignore, for one they knew the name of my daughters dad’s best friend so at a minimum they knew each other. After doing some digging I found out that this best friend had a kid with a woman who my daughter’s dad was friends with, and it was a girl and would be around the same age as my daughter. My question is WTAF do I do? I’ve given the school my details and asked them to pass it on to the mother because they won’t give me her details. Do I ignore this and move on? But I can’t, my daughter goes to school with this child. Also if it is true me and him would have been together at the time, either pregnant with our daughter or planning it when he “donated sperm” to someone and didn’t tell me. This has severely rocked my kid (she’s in therapy) but still. Help!! UNDERWHELMING PROPOSAL My partner recently proposed, and I wasn’t expecting anything big or over the top, just something thoughtful and meaningful. But the moment felt rushed, unplanned and unromantic, and now I feel disheartened and oddly disconnected. I dread when people ask the proposal story and I find myself embellishing it. I feel shallow for feeling this way, but I can’t shake it. Am I horrible? Should I tell him how I’m feeling, or is that unfair? I would really appreciate some guidance, because I feel guilty, confused and alone sitting with this. NORMAL TO THINK ABOUT EX? I am 32 and have been with my current partner for 5 years. We have always had a solid stable relationship and have a one year old baby boy together. I love my partner - he is very kind, loyal, and reliable. I feel safe and secure with him. He is a great dad and very committed to our family. However, our relationships lack intimacy/physical connection (has since before the baby) and it often feels like we are more friends and co parents. We rarely have sex and minimal kissing/cuddling. My ex and I were together for 6 years from 19-25 (so we broke up 8 years ago). I was deeply in love with him. We had a really strong connection and were absolutely crazy about each other. We had an amicable breakup because he had to move for work and we decided to go our separate ways. As hard as I’ve tried to move on, I still think about him often after 8 years (I’m so sick of it lol)! I find myself looking back on our relationship and longing for that connection we had. As much as I love my partner and our life together, I have this niggling feeling that my ex was the one/the loml /penguin etc and it makes me sad that I’m never going to feel that way again with my partner. Is this a common feeling to have? How do I finally get over my ex? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Today’s guest is someone who defined an entire generation. As one-fifth of the most iconic girl group in history, the Spice Girls, she helped shape pop culture, redefine girl power, and influence how millions of young women saw themselves. Melanie C or Sporty Spice as many of us first knew her is a dancer, singer, songwriter, author, and performer whose career spans nearly three decades. Today we wanted to chat with Melanie about what that journey was really like behind the scenes, how she carved out her own path with her solo career, the various things she is doing now and what it meant to her to have such an impact on our culture. We chat: Mel being recognised during a medical appointment Recording her 9th studio album here in Australia Why Melanie feels connected to the Australian culture How Mel met her Aussie boyfriend How the Spice Girls started The brutality of the UK media and all of their phones being hacked How being so young in the public eye affected Mel and contributed to her having an eating disorder How the Spice Girls didn’t choose their own nicknames They love like sisters and bicker like sisters How Geri choosing to leave affected them all differently The Spice Girl that Melanie is now closest to Starting her solo career Whether they could all live off of royalties now and if they ‘choose’ to work You can find everything from Melanie including her new song ‘Sweat’ at her website You can follow Melanie on Instagram 

Hey Lifers, Britt is struggling today. She’s come down with an illness and we are rolling the dice today. Laura’s on her first outing without Poppy at 6 weeks old and she’s learnt that she’s not the most considered or prepared parent. Laura and Keeshia have both been sent beautiful cards from listeners and we truly do have the best listeners in the world. However, Britt has checked with reception and nothing. No deliveries for Britt 😂 Britt had a sleepover at Keeshia’s house and has used products that were not meant for her. Is Oasis men’s Taylor Swift? The whole team was meant to go to the concert on the weekend but Keeshia ended up being the only one to make it and she’s never seen more affection or love be shared between millennial/Gen X men and she’s even been to football grand finals! The other day Britt shared how a friend of hers had accidentally text the guy she had been briefly dating instead of her friend telling him that there were "no hot men on the plane" and that she was disappointed. We asked what you accidentally sent and your stories did not disappoint! Shay Mitchell has launched a new children’s skincare brand called Rini that makes products like sheet masks for… 3 year olds. Shay has said that it was inspired by her own girls wanting to do ‘what mummy does’ with her face masks and that “Rini isn’t about beauty it’s about self-care.” We speak about whether we are living in the final stage of capitalism where children’s unblemished skin is an untapped market and the conditioning of beauty standards in kids. At what age do you think kids should be introduced to skincare beyond sunscreen and gentle cleanser? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions! Britt wants Laura’s take on the now viral ‘fart’ response that our friend received after letting a date down. Laura’s been gifted something so beautiful from a lifer but they’ve left no info for her to be able to say thank you! Vibes for the week: Britt - Watching You on Stan Laura - DoHonest Baby Car Camera Then we jump into your questions! I’M NOT IN HIS HYPOTHETICAL FUTURE Hey guys, just want your opinion on whether I'm reading too much into this! I've been with my bf for 10 months now. We met on Hinge and we're both in our early 30s. He is 2 years younger than me but we are both committed to a serious relationship. I've noticed that whenever he talks about future hypotheticals, he doesn't include me in them and often references a hypothetical woman in his future. For example, we were talking about my friend's upcoming wedding and he said "I think I would enjoy planning my wedding, I like being able to decide on things." I would've thought he would say "planning *our* wedding" since it would sound so much sweeter? Another example, we were talking about whether we wanted children and he said "I like the idea of kids but if hypothetically, I find out that my future wife is unable to have kids then I wouldn't be upset by it as I choose her over my desire for kids". Meanwhile I'm thinking so I'm not your future wife?? I'm worried that he doesn't see long term potential with me and hence doesn't include me in future scenarios. Am I overthinking this? I FOUND OUT MY BF IS SECRETLY WRITING A BOOK BASED ON OUR RELATIONSHIP AND I’M THE VILLAIN I was looking on my bf’s laptop recently for some old photos and I saw a file titled ‘Novel’. I was curious, so I obvs looked. We have been together for years and aren't overly protective of our devices so this didn’t seem like a big deal. What I found has really confused and upset me. It’s a book he is writing (I know he likes to write but I didn’t even know he was writing a book) and it is basically a detailed account of our relationship... but with some added drama/fiction but he's made me the villain! WTAF!? I’m portrayed as a manipulative, narcissistic bitch, while his character is this amazing hero. I feel weird and betrayed. Do I have a right to say something, be angry, or is this just creative freedom and it means nothing? CHRISTMAS GIFTS ON SALE We are in a family Christmas draw with the extended family, with the budget being $100 each. I always try to spend as close to $100 as possible, a few dollars over or under depending on what I can find. My question is…if you purchase something on sale (say Black Friday) do you pocket the savings or do you then buy something else to make up the difference? I think if I bought the person something that is originally $100 but on sale for $80 I should then buy something to go with it for $20 but my partner thinks because we have found the sale and the retail price is $100 that $20 savings is ours…what’s your thoughts on this petty argument?? THE REAPPEARING EX My ex and I broke up about 18 months ago. It was rough. I was pretty blindsided. We were literally looking at rentals the day before he ended it. We had no contact for over a year, both dated other people, and I genuinely thought we’d never speak or see each other again. Then about six weeks ago, he reappeared (classic Instagram follow request) and since then, we’ve been chatting here and there. We’ve slept together three times, and we’ve both said we don’t want a relationship, but we’ve kind of slipped into a rhythm of seeing each other weekly. I don’t love him like I used to, but I’m self-aware enough to know this could be a slippery slope as I was so deeply in love with him at one point. I enjoy the comfort and familiarity, but I keep asking myself is this emotional maturity, or just a disaster waiting to happen? I’ve had to hide it from most of my friends. They were there through the breakup and have said they’d be really upset if I ever spoke to him again. I told one, and she said she was disappointed that she’d never do something like this if she was single. That really hurt, especially with me being the only single one in the group and they all have partners to go home to, while I’m single and sometimes lonely. Since that breakup, I’ve done a lot of work on myself. I see a therapist weekly and have spent real time understanding my patterns, boundaries, and emotional triggers. I'm not sleeping with him to get him back although I’ll never say never to what life brings. I’m not waiting by my phone, I don't text, and he’s the one driving an hour and a half to see me each time. The ball feels although it is in my court this time and that feels strangely healing. How do I approach this with my friends without feeling shamed/judged for making my own choices? Do I just continue to keep it quiet? And am I being naïve to think I can handle this consciously and casually, or is it okay to embrace something familiar for now? I’m still dating and meeting people, but I worry that by spending time with my ex, I might subconsciously put less effort into finding someone new. Laura mentioned our episode with Matthew Hussey You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers, Today’s episode is a little bit of a gear change from our regular guest episodes. Britt got to interview some of the most amazing and famous women in the world! There’s a new Ryan Murphy series called “All’s Fair” out on Disney+/Hulu and our Britt was asked to interview all 5 of the leading ladies Kim Kardashian, Glenn Close, Naomi Watts, Niecy Nash & Sarah Paulson. Britt asks about working with other women and being ‘aged out’ in Hollywood. They speak about working alongside each other, what red flags Kim Kardashian now has when it comes to romance and which of them would be most likely to end up being arrested. Also, something Britt can now add to her resume is being called a c*nt by Naomi Watts and Sarah Paulson 😂😂 You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Britt has tried to unpack her ‘Roman Empire’ this week that has to do with her husband’s huge tattoo that is actually somewhat related to the Roman Empire. Have you ever seen a monument or a wonder of the world on a walk of shame? We know this is a niche call out but it will likely make more sense if you’re reading it after listening to us speak about it in today’s episode. When it comes to TV series or films, are you a repeat watcher or do you like to keep it fresh? Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now? Have Our ‘Symbols’ Of Success Changed? There’s been a very viral and very controversial article published in Vogue that argues that for many straight women today, having a boyfriend no longer carries the same status it once did. Rather than being a milestone or achievement, partnership can feel like something to hide or soften online. We weigh in on how the trends of content have shifted and how we feel about this author’s take. We also speak about how Keeshia feels completely indifferent about marriage and some of the reasons that she has never dreamt of the ‘marriage milestone’. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. Britt’s broken a nail, Laura’s had to put up with a screaming baby for 45 minutes on the way to work and Keeshia is MIA because she’s as sick as a dog. Britt has the sh*ts with a truck driver who decided to order coffees and do his groceries while she (and others) were waiting for him to clear the petrol pump. Whose side are you on for this? Laura has given the delivery man a lot more than he expected when it came to signing for their package. Vibes for the week: Britt - Luna Lane Laura - Wayward on Netflix Then we jump into your questions! DO I LEAVE MY FIANCE? I am 24 and have a partner of 5 years who proposed at the end of last year. We have always been a solid couple and never used to fight, however, twice this year he has broken up with me whilst drunk and twice we have agreed to work things out and gotten back together. Our relationship has been reasonably stable since and we’re both working on things to be better for each other. Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago when I went on a work trip and was flirted with at a bar by a stranger (this is very new to me). Since then, I have been in a spiral of wanting to invest in myself, live guilt free and have new experiences in my 20s or settling with the comfortable life that me and my partner have planned and what I currently know. I have tried really hard to move past his mistakes but I have a gut feeling that need some time to work on myself before I can be in another relationship but feel so guilty for thinking about possibly choosing myself. MY HUSBAND HATES MY TATTOO Recently I told my husband of 18 years that I wanted to get another tattoo. He expressed in the past that he doesn't really like my tattoos but I enjoy having them, so YOLO. I told him I was going to get another one on my forearm for something I have been thinking about for a while. He said that of course he won't stop me, but he thinks he will find me less attractive. He was pretty honest. Fast forward, it's been two months since I've had it. I know it is my body, my choice, he said the same, and he recently told me he now finds me less attractive. I feel as though it's more a punishment just because I went and did it. I am really hurt by this as you can't take that back, where do we go from here? And should it matter that much? CAN YOU SHARE IUD CONTRACEPTIVE COSTS? I need to get my IUD replaced and I suggested to my boyfriend of 2 years that we split the cost (I live in the US and my insurance doesn’t cover it). He is flat out refusing and is acting shocked like it is so bizarre that I would ask. I just think that we both need to be equally responsible for birth control and since I have to undergo the whole thing and deal with any side effects I think it’s only fair that he helps with something! He even said ‘well it’s your choice so if you want to do it then do it’ but best believe the man would kick up a fuss if I insisted he always used condoms. For context, we both earn exactly the same salary and split almost everything in our relationship. Am I being unreasonable? He is usually an understanding person but somehow he is not getting my point. HOW TO SPLIT TICKETS? 4 months ago me and my friend bought tickets ($75 each) to a live show where we are sitting together to hang out because we are super busy and never get to catch up. She just found out she has a wedding to attend on the night so can no longer go. I wouldn’t have booked tickets to this show if it wasn’t with her. What do you think her responsibility is? Should she pay for my ticket, give me her ticket so I can go with someone else, or is she free to give the ticket to a friend? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Today’s episode is on the more unhinged side of any of the previous interviews we’ve done. We guess it’s what happens when you put 3 yappers in a room together. Joining the podcast today is podcaster, radio broadcaster and dad Ryan Jon Dunn. Ryan is half of the Toni and Ryan podcast. We’ve had the pleasure of chatting with Ryan’s cohost Toni Lodge at one of our live shows and here on the podcast and we were well overdue to chat to Ryan, so when he slid into the DM’s it was a quick yes. Today we wanted to chat with Ryan about his career and building the mammoth podcast that is Toni and Ryan, Ryan’s search for his biological parents and the experience of being an adoptee, and becoming a dad himself! We chat: Being dot-comrads “friends of the internet” Ryan shares the story about himself that will haunt him forever His ‘past life’ as an accountant before radio Why Ryan isn’t worried about ever going back to a ‘regular job’ Being adopted at 10 weeks old and his feelings towards his biological mother How an ancestry DNA test found his biological dad What it was like meeting him Finding out that his biological mother had passed away before he met her The grief of losing the opportunity of something Ryan’s IVF journey Deciding whether they would share their kid on social media or not New guidelines with kids and content You can find more from Ryan at his: Instagram Tiktok Website We mentioned the AiMCO family influencer’s pack You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers and happy Halloween! Britt really put in the effort this year but we can’t work out if she’s Gandalf or God. Do you celebrate Halloween now or did you as a kid? We share some stories from our childhood about Halloween. Britt has had a beauty mishap and Keeshia has gone wagatha mode to try and figure out which neighbour stole her bin. Is it just sex or is there emotion? When it comes to cheating, is physical or emotional worse? Lily Allen has dropped the break up album of all time that has us feeling like we are reading her diary. In it, she shares how her and her husband David Harbour (of Stranger Things fame) had an unconventional arrangement where he could have sex with other people, as long as it was ‘discreet’ and ‘paid for with strangers’. Lily later found out through snooping that David had been having an affair where they in fact, played tennis! Today we wanted to unpack one particular line in her new music “is it just sex or is there emotion” and speak about how men and women seem to view emotional vs physical cheating differently. Researchers asked what kind of betrayal, emotional or physical, would hurt more. They found that on average, men report feeling more distress over physical infidelity whereas women more often said that emotional betrayal, when a partner develops feelings or emotional closeness with someone else, was more painful. Lily described the tracks as being "inspired by" what happened in her marriage, she says they are "not gospel" and that it’s “a mixture of fact and fiction.” We share how we feel about the woman who has been ‘outed’ in this and whether you can share so much that exposes other people without being clear on what’s real and what has been made up. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! Laura has left Lola traumatised with a video she’s seen on her phone! Britt has a new idea of what she wants done with her body once she dies. Vibes and Unsubscribes for the week: Britt -Victoria Beckham on Netflix Keeshia - Unsubscribe The Woman in Cabin 10 on Netflix Vibe - @mylawn_co Laura - The Traitors UK Season 4 Then we jump into your questions! SHOULD I HAVE A THREESOME WITH A COUPLE I JUST MET? Should I try to have a threesome with a couple I just met? I am currently on holiday and I have met an Australian couple who live near me back home. I really get along with them and my mind keeps wondering about the possibility of having a threesome with them. I’ve always been curious but not interested in having a threesome when I’m in a relationship. Should I go for it? And if so, how do I even approach this topic with them? (For context they are about 8 years older than me) FRIEND BOOKED OUR ACCOM WITH SHOPBACK- SHOULD I GET HALF? My friend and I are going on holiday together and we travel well together. We both are in good paying jobs however she has worked full time for around 2 years more than me. When booking our accommodation (which we looked for and decided together) she said she was happy to book and when I asked her to send the email confirmation to me for my records I could see that she used the shopback app. Now I love the app and use it all the time, but booking accommodation that’s approximately more than $1000 and getting 10% off that is a reasonable discount. Am I weird for finding it a bit uncomfortable that she will receive $100 cashback whilst I will pay full price? LOUD SNIFFER - CAN I OFFER A TISSUE? If someone is loudly sniffling incessantly on the train (and driving me f*cking insane), is it rude to offer them a tissue? Or is that taking passive aggressive one step too far? BESTIE IS DATING SOMEONE I USED TO HOOK UP WITH AND WANTS TO ALL HANG OUT My best friend matched with someone on Tinder a while ago. They spoke a bit and she told me about him. I worked out that we had hooked up a number of years ago. We spoke for a bit and got together a few times but nothing progressed. She originally said she wouldn’t pursue him because it was weird, but then asked if it would bother me if they hooked up. I was fine with it. She was very adamant that it would only be sex. Fast forward a few months later, they are now almost exclusive. I’m not upset or ‘bothered’ by it, but I do find it very uncomfortable and awkward. She wants us all to go out on a ‘double date’ but my partner and I find it to be very awkward. Am I bad friend for not hanging out all together? Do I need to suck it up because I said it was okay? Idk how I’m going to do friendmas with someone I’ve banged that’s not dating my bestfriend?? Help You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

We are the self help generation. There is so much access to information on how to better ourselves, work through all the sh*t from our childhoods, and break cycles. Today’s episode is going to be particularly interesting to anyone who is a parent, but even if you don’t have kids yourself, it will help you understand some of the psychology of your own experiences growing up and how those experiences show up in our day to day lives. Dr. Shefali is joining us today and she has been described by Oprah herself as “one of the most profound parenting experts of our time”. With a doctorate in clinical psychology, Dr Shefali is a New York Times bestselling author multiple times over, and the founder of the Conscious Parenting movement. Much of her work centers around healing a lot of the stuff that we are carrying with us from our childhood into our adult lives - and how it shows up in our parenting styles. She also answers one of the biggest parenting questions we tend to ask ourselves - how to build resilience in kids in today’s chaotic world. We chat: How Dr Shefali’s work was revolutionary at the time, but we are now immersed in it Our ego gets in the way when we are parenting How much of our experience as a parent is impacted by our own childhood The real reason children have tantrums Our kids don’t need the ‘heavily architectured’ lives we give them full of extra curricular activities every day Building resilience in kids and how to find the balance Unpacking our challenging relationships with our parents Is parenting actually a selfless act? You can get yourself a ticket to Dr Shefali’s tour Sydney Melbourne You can find more from Dr Shefali’s website and Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey lifers! First up, we address the reports that the future of the podcast is unknown. Britt has a friend that received a message from someone they went on two dates with. If Britt hadn't seen it with her own eyes she would have said it was a fake story! Last week we told you about the ridiculous reason Keeshia and Delilah ended up at the vets and today we share the silliest reason your pet made you have a vet visit. Halloween is around the corner. Do you get the treats for the kids or do you pretend you’re not home? Britt wants the kids to tap dance and Keeshia wants dog ‘trick and treating’ to start. Victoria's Secret ditches ‘woke’ rebrand and returns to 'unapologetically sexy' roots. Last week, the new and improved Victoria's Secret Fashion Show made its return to Brooklyn for the second year in a row. They have reversed their "woke" rebrand and they’re moving back to a more traditional, "sexy" image after a period of declining sales, after the reaction to the failure of its inclusivity-focused marketing. In 2025 is woke branding dead or just being recalibrated? We unpack how virtue signalling and brands undergoing impurity tests may have contributed to consumer fatigue. We speak about whether we still want advocacy for social justice issues in marketing and whether this ‘nostalgic’ return to advertising might have more to do with more conservative politics than anything else. We speak about the notion of ‘go woke, go broke’ and the more recent American Eagle campaign with Sydney Sweeney and Carl’s Jr with Alis Earle. We referenced a reel by @carlzjsoda You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions! Keeshia had a bit of a nightmare commute to work this morning and it led to her disclosing some of our BTS secrets. We somehow ended up speaking about trigger warnings and the research that suggests they’re not as useful as we have been led to believe. Vibes for the week: Keeshia - Emily Henry “Great Big Beautiful Life” Britt - @parkergetajob Then we jump into your questions! THINKING ABOUT MAKING A SEX TAPE FOR MY BF My partner and I are thinking about making a sex tape. He is FIFO week on week off swings. We can’t really talk on the phone or FaceTime. Because of his job he is around people all the time and sleeps in a swag with everyone else around him so people would hear if I call him for sexy time. I trust him and don’t have any fears that he will show anyone or anything bad will happen. However, am I being stupid because things live on the internet forever and it could always get out somehow. The person you date if not the same person you break up with, maybe it does get out one day. Do I do it or not? Also have either of you ever done it? I love you girls so much and couldn’t think of anyone else I could ask this question to. HOW TO DISCUSS FINANCES/DEFACTCO WITH NEW BF - I EARN MUCH MORE I’ve been seeing a guy for about 5-6 months. Everything is going great and he is a walking green flag. I’m starting to feel myself get a bit more invested but still not 100%. My problem is a financial one. I have a relatively successful business (I’m talking 7 figures) which he is aware of. I understand that there will come a time where we have to discuss what this looks like going forward and when we are classed as a de facto relationship, how finances will look. I know that there are some criteria that have to be met before being classed as a de facto relationship and what he may be entitled to, should we continue on this steady path. In my opinion, everything that I have earnt before him in my business and property purchases, is considered my own and I worry that he could be entitled to that when we are considered de facto (not that I think he would take anything from me, but you never know)! The thing is, I’m unsure of when I should broach this topic with him. Part of me wants to discuss it now so I know we are on the same page, rather than getting another 1-2 years in and he is unhappy about it. If he’s unhappy about it, that’s a big red flag to me. Is it worth having this conversation sooner rather than later, and if so, how would you go about discussing it ? We are quite open with everything else and we each know what the other owns and salaries etc. He also partially owns a property and is on a six figure salary. MY DAUGHTER HAD A SLEEPOVER WITH A STRANGER WITHOUT US KNOWING I'm married with a 6 year old daughter from a previous marriage. My new husband is amazing and adores my daughter. We are having another baby in November. My in-laws were great for the first few months but have had a few issues come up and I want to know what your opinion is of this particular scenario. My daughter was having a sleepover with my in-laws, who she adores. I found out whilst they had her that my husband's mum's nephew had come over and had a sleepover too. He is 9 and we have met him maybe 2 or 3 times. They slept in the same bed upstairs whilst my partner's parents were sleeping downstairs. We were incredibly uncomfortable with this. When we confronted them, it was basically implied that we were being over dramatic and they refused to accept that we weren't okay with it and did not apologise. Do you think we were being over dramatic? When my husband picked her up he walked in the room and they were watching movies and TV shows in the bed together, not supervised and the nephew didn't even recognise who my husband was so we are definitely not close family. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! Today’s guest is someone that Britt is completely convinced she manifested on to the podcast! Teddy’s voice has been the sound track to her relationship hard launch, her engagement and also her wedding first dance! Teddy is the superstar singer songwriter behind hits like ‘Lose Control’ which has over 2 billion streams on Spotify, ‘Bad Dreams’ and ‘The Door’. He also has a brand new song out with our friend Tones and I and David Guetta! He’s currently touring around Australia, playing sold-out arena shows! But behind the tattoos and the big voice is just a salt of the earth guy who really hustled his way into the music industry. We chat about: The first time Teddy ever heard his song ‘Lose Control’ on the radio from a service station bathroom where he had in fact ‘lost control’ Teddy’s upbringing with Christian pastor grandparents and great male influences Teddy’s mum crying when he said he wanted to stop playing football and do musical theatre Whether he was ever pressured by record labels to ‘be’ a certain way or change the music he was making The hustle and not being an overnight success Writing from heartbreak v writing from a place of happiness Teddy experiencing his first ‘slow burn’ love Becoming a father and it changing his purpose in life Teddy being into manifestation Teddy’s ‘made it moment’ being quite unusual and it involves spy kids What it was like performing at the NRL grand final What Teddy thought of Britt's wedding dance You can find tickets for his AUS/NZ show Follow Teddy on Instagram and Youtube You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! Laura is back and she’s brought Poppy in so we can all hear about how Poppy entered the world! But firstly, we had a really scary moment with Delilah and the vets last week. There were mixed emotions, preparation for surgery and even a souvenir. Laura shares how she was hiding a bit of anxiety about having her 3rd baby and how she was gearing herself up to be miserable for a year. She also speaks about how varied your experience can be based on the support you have around you and whether your baby sleeps and eats. We chat about: The difference between private and public birth The Push It Real Good playlist The song Poppy was birthed to Laura’s induction and what she didn’t know about epidurals How Poppy came out The most horrifying part - the post birth poop How Marlie Mae and Lola have adjusted to having another sister What’s changed in Laura’s relationship with Matt The difference in how mums and dads connect with newborns What Laura didn’t expect Not being able to swim post birth Whether Laura feels as though her family is ‘complete’ Britt also opened up about how frustrating it is that she has not felt the ‘maternal pull’ that everyone says you will feel when the people who are closest to you have a baby. She speaks about feeling broken for not having this thing that is apparently the ‘most natural’ thing for women to experience. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep and burning questions. Britt has an aeroplane/travel dilemma of her own - who owns the space UNDER the seat? Is it the person whose designated seat it is? Or is it the person behind whose legs go underneath? Vibes for the week: Britt - __mrsinthemaking Bridal & Hens Personalised Jewellery Keeshia - Great Company with Jamie Laing Podcast - Spencer Matthews Our First Honest Conversation About Our Friendship Then we get into your questions! ARE TOPLESS WAITRESSES NORMAL? I recently found out that my husband and his mates sometimes ‘order’ topless waiters during their Saturday night drinks. He says it’s only happened 2–3 times over our 6 years together, but I can’t help feeling like it’s a bit sleezy and icky. He never mentioned it to me before, and I only found out after poking and prodding when I could tell he was hiding something on the weekend. He insists it’s never his idea and that he just goes along with the group. It’s usually 4–5 friends, none of whom have wives or kids at home (unlike us), and I guess I’m wondering… am I overreacting for feeling put off by this? Would this bother anyone else, or is it something I should just let slide MY FIL IS A PIG BUT ALSO HELPS ME OUT Am I justified in being frustrated with my filthy father in law, or is it the price I have to pay for a reliable pet sitter? For context, my partner and I have been together for 10 years and are in our late 20’s. My partner’s father is much older, aged in his 70’s, and will pet-sit for 2-3 weeks when we go overseas for an annual holiday. He is always very willing to house sit as he loves the fur-babies, and he lives by himself in a caravan park, so he enjoys the space and company. We of course give him a bit of cash (usually $50-100) to use towards take out. Now here is my dilemma. Every time we return home from a holiday, I am extremely frustrated with the lack of cleaning and things I find around the house that give me the ick. Certain things are probably outside my FIL’s control - like his dandruff skin flakes all over the couch. However, there’s things that have frustrated me and I can’t tell if I’m being unreasonable. Examples include: Tobacco flakes spilt on the floor and kitchen bench. - Food spillage on the kitchen floor and down the cupboard doors. - Putting dirty greasy Tupperware away because he refuses to use the dishwasher. Drapping his wet bath towel on the bed instead of 1 of the 3 towel racks in the bathroom. - And here is my main cleaning frustration. My FIL has a stoma bag (which I of course am not judging him for) and he obviously has to empty it. However, on multiple occasions, including most recently, we’ve come home to find a little bit of shit splattered on the toilet seat or even dripping down the bowl onto the floor. My partner will always clean up the toilet because I’m disgusted, but I also don’t think it’s my partner's responsibility to clean up after his dad when he is still mobile and capable. I have tried to say things as they arise, for example, asking my FIL not to smoke directly next to the clean laundry outside. However, I don’t feel like I should have to say this to a grown man. I am trying to see the other side of it, including the fact that he lives alone, so maybe my FIL doesn’t realise how messy he can be. However, I would be mortified if I house-sat for someone and left shit on their toilet for them to clean when they got home. My partner it’s not confrontational and does not want to embarrass his father, but I think his father is a grown man and should have more respect for our home and cleaning up after himself, even if he is doing us a favour by looking after the pets. So - should my partner and I say something to him? Or do I just suck it up, bite my tongue and clean up when we return home from a trip? IS EVERYONE A LITTLE UNHAPPY IN LOVE? Is everyone struggling just a little bit in their relationship or is it just me?!? Lifers I need help. I love my partner, we have been together for 5 years and he is exactly what I was looking for in a lot of ways. He’s thoughtful, emotionally available, loyal, affectionate, hard working, funny and just generally a good partner. And although most of the time I truly feel he is my penguin. There are also times where I completely question it all, lately a lot more. I sometimes feel he’s a bit immature, with his favorite activity still getting drunk most weekends with “the boys”. He’s not very present (completely hooked on his phone) and is very snappy/impatient. And sometimes these traits really make me question it all. Do we want the same things (I rarely drink)? Do I want kids with someone who is so snappy and impatient? Anyways, I’m worried i’m just striving for a perfection that doesn’t exist, that i’ll always feel the grass is greener and I need to stop being so critical. So my question is, are most couples just slightly unhappy? Do we all question our relationships from time to time and just not talk about it? I feel like most couples I know are all struggling with something, but i’m not sure if that’s how it usually is/or if it’s just my circle HUSBAND WANTS TO ‘WET THE BABY’S HEAD’ AND I THINK IT”S UNFAIR AND JUST A PISSUP I want to know your ladies thoughts on a ‘wet the head’? For context, my husband and I are expecting a baby in April next year. We aren’t the first in our friendship group to have a baby, so therefore my husband has been to a few wet the head celebrations before. Here’s the kicker; it always turns into a huge piss up. I’m talking bulk beers and hours at the pub while the new mother is at home alone in the absolute trenches of having a new born baby and navigating postpartum hormones. My husband was talking about his ‘wet the head’ a few days ago when I mentioned I wasn’t keen on the idea. He was quite upset by this when I stated that I don’t understand why the men would get a celebration after childbirth when respectfully they’ve done nothing I understand their excitement around having a new born baby and them having a proud dad moment, but wouldn’t it be better received if they were at home being a supportive father/husband. What are your thoughts? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Why do we want to hurt the people that hurt us? Over the years we have spoken about so many different aspects of relationships but today’s topic is one we have never fully unpacked before and it’s one of the most destructive forces in relationships: revenge. We don’t always call it that in romantic relationships, but when couples fall into patterns of "getting back at each other", keeping score, or holding long grievances, they’re often trapped in what’s called a “revenge loop;” one that science now shows is addictive and deeply damaging. Today’s guest is James Kimmel. James is a lawyer, Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Yale School of Medicine and the author of The Science of Revenge. James has done a huge amount of research into how revenge quietly simmers inside all of us and how revenge triggers the brain’s reward system, much like a drug, and some of us might be revenge addicts without even knowing it. Today we chat: James wanting to get revenge on the teenage boys who killed his dog The neuroscience of revenge & how it can be addictive Could this ever be used as a ‘defence’ in court? Why we want the people who hurt us to hurt Justice v revenge How Hollywood has relied on revenge plot narratives How women and men experience empathy differently How forgiveness can rewire our brains You can find more from James Kimmel at his website You can get a copy of The Science of Revenge You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey lifers! Poppy has popped out! She’s just the cutest! Next week we will have an episode with Laura about Poppy’s birth. Britt is always *rooting for long distance relationships. She’s been over to see Ben in Italy and been reminded that she found herself a bit of a chefing unicorn! She’s also made a friend over in Italy despite one big difference between them. Do you have a friend who looks really put together and tidy on the outside of their home, but on the inside it’s a complete mess? That’s our girl Britt and she’s got a new air fryer hack for you. Keeshia was given 3 minutes to talk about the rugby league grand final and she’s calling BS on some of the headlines that are always printed after any grand final entertainment performance. Do you think having big international acts like Teddy Swims and Snoop Dog is a good thing or should we only feature Aussie artists? There are 5 new dating trends predicted for 2026: ChemRIZZtry Curveball-crushing Love-loreing Truecasting StAtuS-flexing We also share a story that we’ve kept private for 4 years about the very worst guy Keeshia ever dated. Hopefully she is alone in this experience. Victoria Beckham posted a photo from her Paris Fashion show that led to people questioning whether her 20 year old son’s relationship with a 29 year old woman was ‘weird’. We speak about whether the ‘issue’ is actually a timeline gap and if our views on age gaps are class coded. We also chat about which attachment styles are more likely to end up in age gap relationships and why society seems to freak out when a woman is the older partner. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions! Britt has been in Italy and Laura has had a baby! If you found out the gender of your baby when you were pregnant, was it correct? Google AI says it’s wrong in Australia about 5% of the time. We’d love to know if yours wasn’t right! Apparently if you’re really into true crime, you need to evaluate ‘why trauma feels comforting to you’. Britt feels a little attacked by this info and she also thinks it doesn’t make sense. Vibes for the week: Britt - Dexter Original Sin Keeshia - KW ceramics reusable cup Then we get into your questions! FRIEND HAS ACCESS TO HER EX HUSBANDS EMAIL AND I THINK ITS UNETHICAL I’ve just found out my good friend has access to her ex-husbands emails. She recently told me she saw something in his emails. It was a fleeting comment and I didn’t think much of it until I realised how unethical and inappropriate it is. They got divorced 2-3 years ago and it was quite toxic and their relationship is still very toxic. I’m really close with both of them, I don’t want to ruin our friendship by telling him but I think it’s extremely inappropriate and potentially illegal that she has access to his emails. I have no idea how to approach the situation. Please help. MUM WON’T GET WHOOPING VAX FOR MY NEW BABY Hi ladies, OG listener here. I’m stuck in a pickle. I’m 17 weeks pregnant. Here’s where I’m stuck - during COVID my mum became really anti-vax. She was never like this previously, my siblings and I got all our childhood vaccinations. I work in healthcare and always get flu shots, got my COVID boosters etc. I’m really nervous about asking her to get vaccinated for whooping cough before the baby comes. Originally she only cared about the Covid vax but since has gone down a lot of conspiracy rabbit holes in regards to healthcare in general and I’ve heard her make comments about other vaccines. I admit no one will be holding or touching my baby without one and I know my partner and his family would back me up on this. How would you approach this conversation? She is known to be rather reactive so I don’t want to make a drama out of it, rather approach it gently. DO I DELETE PICS OF EX FROM IG BEFORE NEW PARTNERS FOLLOW ME? Should I delete photos with my ex on Instagram before I let the new people I date follow me? I broke up with my ex 3 months ago, and I have one in-feed picture of him and I sitting on a boat (not super coupley but coupley enough) I love the photo - I am so happy in that photo, and nothing bad happened between me and my ex. The photo was from late last year. I am not sure to remove it in case it makes my (potential) future partners uncomfortable? I wouldn’t care if they had a photo of their ex on their Insta. Not sure what to do here (and neither do my friends!) FOUND OUT MY SISTER CHEATED ON HER HUSBAND AND NOW I SEE HER DIFFERENTLY I recently found out that my sister cheated on my brother-in-law last year. We’re a very close family—it’s just the two of us, and our kids and partners are all really connected. I knew about the man she had been flirting with and often warned her, reminding her of how good her husband is and encouraging her to work on her marriage if things weren’t going well. Now that I know she went through with it, I feel devastated. Her husband knows and, while deeply hurt, he wants to try and work things out. For me, loyalty, trust, and respect are core values, and I feel like she has not only let her husband and kids down but also me and everyone close to her. She struggles with mental health and was drinking a lot at the time, but I still feel conflicted. I can’t help but see her differently now, and I feel hurt that she could lie about it for so long while looking us in the eye. How can I move forward from this? What can I say to her to express how upset and disappointed I am, without damaging our bond forever? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Today’s guest is a special repeat offender to life uncut! She first joined the podcast back in 2021 and has also been a special guest at 2 of our live shows. There are only a few people that we refer to with the description of ‘human sunshine’ but Em Carey is absolutely one of them! You can listen to Em’s episode from 2021 here. Em Carey is a survivor of a 2013 skydiving accident in Switzerland, which resulted in a paraplegic spinal cord injury, leaving her with no feeling from the waist down. She is now a bestselling author of The Girl Who Fell from the Sky, a keynote speaker, an artist and potentially a future marathon athlete! A lot has happened in Em’s life since we last spoke publicly. Some of what Em has been up to has been shared on social media but a lot of it hasn’t. Em has, in her own words, clocked off from social media in the last two years and so today we wanted to speak with her about why she decided to enter herself into the New York Marathon, an uncommon form of parental estrangement, dating with a disability and finding an identity outside of being the girl who fell from the sky. In today’s episode we speak about: Why Em feels so detached from being the ‘girl who fell from the sky’ The guy who dumped Em ‘because she had a disability’ Em’s dad cutting her off the same week that her book came out Struggling with strangers loving and admiring her when her own parent didn’t want anything to do with her Most estrangement is adult child cutting off parent, but Em’s situation is the reverse Why Em lost her confidence and turned away from public life Why she chose to attempt a marathon when she can’t physically run Em’s ambitious goal of raising $100k for “Who” Em is now in her 30s and her identity feeling different You can follow Em on Instagram You can find more from her website You can donate to the Perry Cross foundation You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! You’re with Britt and Keeshia today because Laura has officially had her little Poppy! We’ll be bringing you an episode all about Poppy’s birth soon! Britt has been reunited with Ben and is back to enjoying marital life. Britt has been seesawing on the decision of whether to have kids or not for a while now, and this experience with breast milk has surprisingly not brought her any closer to the decision. Did you/do you feel an intense ‘maternal pull’ or are you still ‘waiting’ for it to ‘kick in’? Do you have ROMO (relief of missing out)? Or is there a part of you that misses some of the chaos that used to be in your life? We speak about Cillian Murphy’s new ROMO phase and how our new joy in life comes from high pressure hoses. There’s a new reality TV show where “true crime meets true love and judgement meets redemption.” We speak about whether we’ve gone too far with reality TV. Would you date someone with a criminal record? Would it depend on what the record was for? We unpack a video posted by Emma Paige; “your toxic traits are the opposite of your love languages.” It seems to check out in our lives! We also speak about a substack written by Lauren Talulah titled What The Cool Girls Are Quietly Doing Right Now . There seems to be a shift in the way people are showing up online especially with LinkedIn, wearing outfits that don’t try to be flattering, romanticising platonic dependence and posting much less. Have you felt a shift in what is “cool” online? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions. Laura may or may not have her 3rd child by now so we recorded this a bit in advance! Do you have a ‘legacy contact’ (the person assigned to access your phone if you were to pass away)? Would you make your legacy contact your partner or are you trusting a best friend/sibling to scrub that thing clean of anything you don’t want anyone seeing? Vibes for the week: Britt - Egg in the air fryer for 8-10 mins Keeshia - Tapo TP-Link Smart Security Wi-Fi Camera Then we jump into your questions! IS IT WEIRD TO ADD A FRIENDS BF ON IG I'm in a new relationship and I have never been in one before so I'm trying to understand what is normal and what isn't. I've known this guy for 2 months. My friend wanted to see me, and I asked if this new guy could join and she said yes. We hung out for a couple of hours that day. This was a month ago, fast track to now and she's just added him to Instagram. My new bf is very transparent and said he's not accepting her. After a few hours of him not accepting, I then got a message from her saying he came up on her ‘suggested’. Her one and only photo on Instagram is quite provocative. She's a friend I trust, but I just thought this was a bit odd as I've never added my friends bfs on Instagram. Most of my friends think it's weird, but one of them and ChatGTP seem to think it's showing signs of just friendliness. I'm also on my period, I just need help to know if this is normal CAN I ASK A HOOKUP TO PUT DEODORANT ON? I recently went out for drinks with a distant work colleague who was tall, scruffy with a beard and overall very attractive. He was an amazing kisser and things got hot and heavy quickly. We went back to his hotel room and when he took off his clothes, I noticed he had a strong BO smell. I’m very sensitive to smells and would have liked to ask him to put deodorant on but it would have killed the mood. I ended up not saying anything but if this situation were to come up again, what is the protocol here? Is it inappropriate to ask a man to put some deodorant on? Or do women usually just put up with this? IS PAYING SOMEONE FOR SEX BETTER THAN BEING CHEATED ON? I’m at a bit of a loss. My partner told me tonight that he has paid someone to have sex with him three times and to make matters worse, he thinks he may have caught something… he reckons the chick took the condom off and was really kissing him. (Writing this makes me feel like I’m going to be physically sick). I really didn’t think that he would ever do something like this to me and I just feel numb, I feel disgusting. We have been together for almost 7 years, we have a daughter who is almost two, I work full time, help him run his business as well as all the house stuff. I don’t mind doing all of this stuff as I want the business to be successful and I support him both best I can emotionally and financially. I’m always up for having sex with him and usually I’m the one who initiates it. I’m just curious on your thoughts, is this still betrayal. SHOULD I TELL MY PARTNER HIS SISTER IS GETTING AN ABORTION? My longterm partner has a sister who I am quite close to. She has revealed to me that she is pregnant and is getting an abortion next week. She does not want her parents to know. This feels like a pretty big thing to keep from my partner. I know he would not tell his parents, should I tell him? UPDATE: I spoke to her about the awkward position I am in and she said if I tell him she will not trust me again. But I think my partner’s trust is more important to me. I feel so torn. There is a chance he will never know about it anyway but what if he finds out and what if he finds out I knew all along? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Today’s guest will probably not need much of an introduction unless you are quite new here. Mitch Churi is one of our closest friends, he is our former radio cohost and he’s one of the most entertaining people in Australian media. We said in our last podcast episode with Mitch last year that he would be coming back to life uncut and we’re really stoked to have him back now when he has such an exciting new chapter to tell us about. For anyone who doesn’t know Mitch’s origin story, we recorded a full episode back in March of 2022 In today’s episode we chat: Two of the most rogue accidentally unfiltereds we’ve ever had on the show The first time we’re all back together on mic Recovering from the betrayal of being cheated on The components of a ‘glow up’ Mitch “f*cking up Britt’s wedding” The awkward connection we all have with Britt’s bedroom Being made redundant when your job is a big part of your identity Mitch’s brand new chat show A BTS of how podcasting/radio/entertainment in Aus works You can follow Mitch on Instagram & follow his new show The Mitch Churi Chat Show You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! It’s officially Laura’s last episode for a few weeks! What ‘pet’ term do you hate? Babe, bub or hubby? Did you ever say one ironically and then it somehow entered your vocabulary? Do we have a ‘maternity leave’ plan for Laura? No, no we do not. In a move that will be very unsurprising, we are just going to roll with it and see how Laura feels! Laura has a bone to pick with Matt about their health insurance. Britt is constantly asked how married life is going but she doesn’t really know because she hasn’t seen her husband in 12 weeks! She’s over in Italy now and shares some of the tricker parts of being in a long distance relationship. We then jump into all of Laura’s birth plans. We speak about whether Laura has a birth plan, how she’s feeling quite unprepared and how the baby is in a bit of a complicated position. Laura also speaks about her previous ‘traumatic birth’ with Marlie Mae. We ask her who is going to be in the room, what she’s doing with the placenta and whether they will live stream it/post on socials? Please add your favourite songs to our push playlist Push It Real Good You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your dilemmas and give our enthusiastic advice! Laura may or may not have had her baby so we recorded this one just a bit in advance in case she goes into labour! It might be pretty clear because we are all a bit loopy today! If you’ve/your partner has been pregnant, did you keep having s3x all the way to the birth? If not, when did you stop? Vibes and unsubscribes for the week: Britt - World of Secrets. The Abercrombie Guys Podcast Laura - Unsubscribing impulse purchasing of silicon lymphatic massager Keeshia - Kate Bowler Substack Feeling tired? Try giving up your “purpose.” Then we jump into your questions! WILL SEX BE BORING BECAUSE I USE MY VIBE SO MUCH? My last relationship (which was also my first) lasted for 2 years and didn’t end badly at all. During that time I never finished which was a bit annoying but we were both young and at the time I had never experienced an orgasm so didn’t even know if I could. Fast forward to now, I am currently single, and my vibrator has since proved to me that my body is most definitely capable of it! But I’m a bit worried that using my vibrator so frequently (I’d say 3-5 times a week) is going to make sex in the future kinda boring/I’ll get lazy/won’t be able to finish during sex without it if I get so used to using it? I guess my question is, do I need to stop relying on it and find other ways so I don’t become reliant on it and lazy during sex in the future? FOUND AI PORN ON NEPHEWS COMPUTER - TELL HIS FOLKS? While providing tech support to my 12 year old nephew, I have found out that he has been accessing porn websites including AI porn games and an AI girlfriend generator website. I am unsure what to do (if anything at all). I acknowledge the raging hormones and curiosity in pre-teens, but want to make sure he is not accessing content that encourages misogyny. I have no children of my own and I don’t know how best to deal with this. Should I talk to his parents or let sleeping dogs lie? I don’t feel comfortable talking to him directly as it may embarrass him. BF GETS TURNED ON BY CRYING SO NOW I CAN’T GET EMOTIONAL OR CRY! My boyfriend and I were discussing our turn ons one day in our early days. He told me how when his partners cry it gets him a little aroused. He says he can be empathetic and he NEVER has or NEVER will act on it. I am someone who likes to discuss my mental health struggles with my partner, cry, chat about it and move forward but I find myself now unable to cry in front of him which is now leading to an issue because I’m bottling things up when around him. Any help or suggestions would be great because he’s incredible and my penguin, someone I’ve gone through a crappy marriage and many toxic relationships to find and I am not viewing this as something that will break the relationship I just don’t know how to move past this so I can let the floodgates open up and move on before it seriously affects me. Help pretty please! IS MY MOTHER IN LAW POISONING ME? I’ve been with my partner for 3 years and he has been nothing short of amazing! He’s taught me the real definition of love and could see him as my life long person. The one thing I really struggle with is his mother in law who can be very opinionated and I’m slightly convinced has it out for me. I was recently sick with a cold and couldn’t seem to shake it off so she mailed me through some “vitamins” along with a list of when to take them and how many each day. I took them without hesitation and after about 4 days of taking them I was at work with horrible stomach cramps and was vomiting. Turns out the vitamins she had given me were actually medication that doctors use to treat scabies and ringworms and she was giving me 4 times the dosage of what doctors prescribe to people with these things. The doctor said I was very lucky to have only been vomiting as it could have been a lot worse. Once she found out how sick I was she kept trying to contact me to discuss my symptoms but I kept declining as I was extremely upset about everything. My partner told me I should ring her and apologise for ignoring her to keep the peace. Am I in the wrong for not wanting to keep the peace with my MIL after something like this? And is it worth being with my partner when I can’t stand his mother? PS my MIL isn’t a doctor and I have no idea where she got these medications from in the first place. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Postpartum depression affects between 15 and 20% of Australian women during the first year after birth which translates to thousands of new mums and about 100,000 families every year that experience this often invisible condition. For anyone who has experienced it, you’ll likely know that it is more than a short wave of sadness. It can have lasting effects on mums, on their relationships with their babies, on their friendships and their relationships. So we wanted to create this episode not just for the mums who have experienced PPD, but for their friends and partners so that we can all better understand the condition and be able to support someone we love who is experiencing it. Joining the podcast today is Kat Wyeth. Kat is a registered and practicing psychologist, the Senior Psychologist of the Psych Collaborative and host of the Psychology Sisters podcast. Kat also experienced postpartum depression. We chat: ‘Baby blues’ v postpartum depression Signs and symptoms Who is likely to develop PPD? The unspoken guilt of struggling because it implies you aren’t grateful for your baby Being ‘on the other side of it’ How it can impact your relationship with your partner Postpartum resentment and rage The perfect mother myth Intrusive thoughts and new ‘emotions’ when you enter motherhood ‘Regret’ is often yearning for your old life or identity Kat mentioned two services that offer free counselling The Gidget Foundation And Panda Organisation You can find more from Kat, and seek some psychological help at her website You can listen to Kat’s podcast The Psychology Sisters And find Kat on Instagram and the psychology sisters on instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey lifers! Laura is begging for her labour to start so she can…have a day off 😂. What helped bring on your labour? People have really tried almost everything. Would you rather s3x or a stair run? Neither is an option. Britt is in her *spiritual era. She has been saging her house for a pretty unusual reason. Are you a sager? What have you saged to get rid of? We have created a ‘push playlist’ for Laura. She wants a pumped up mix. We kicked it off with Diana Ross “I’m coming out”. We’d love for you to add your songs to the playlist!! PLEASE ADD YOUR SONGS HERE - PUSH IT REAL GOOD PLAYLIST Everyone on TikTok is reclaiming what they “unfortunately love" and we created our own list of guilty pleasures. Some of these things we should probably be ashamed of and not admit publicly. We take a bit of a shift in gears and chat about an “Am I The A-Hole” we saw on reddit. Do you think it's wrong to tell someone that you're worried about having to cover the cost of their deaths? Have you had those conversations with your loved ones? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your dilemmas and Laura has had a dilemma of her own on her way into work today. She’s hoping that all of the speed and phone cameras were not working… Vibes for the week: Britt - Stalking Samantha on Disney Plus Keeshia - Survivor Aus v World Laura - CheekyGlo Glass Foot File Then we jump into your questions! DO I RISK THE FRIENDSHIP FOR SOME FWB? Five years ago, I met a man at work and the chemistry was instant — like, sparks-flying, butterflies, ‘this is my future husband’ levels of chemistry. We ended up dating exclusively, but I freaked out, got cold feet, and ran straight back into the arms of my toxic ex (rookie mistake, I know). We cut contact for about a year, I moved interstate, and life went on. Then at the end of 2023, he unblocked me on socials and slid back into my life… and honestly, it’s been like no time has passed. We’re best friends, he’s my ride-or-die, my confidant — but the elephant in the room is that the attraction never actually went away. It’s not just platonic, and we both know it. Here’s where it gets spicy: I recently told him I’m demisexual and haven’t had sex in over a year. His response? He basically volunteered as tribute to ‘help me get back in the game.’ On one hand, I trust him more than anyone, and the idea is… let’s just say, not unappealing. On the other hand, I’m scared of wrecking what we have. But then again, people drift as life moves on anyway, so part of me thinks — why not have a little fun while we’re here? So here’s my dilemma: do I risk the friendship for some (potentially mind-blowing) benefits, or keep things safe and platonic? Is this a terrible idea, or is it exactly the kind of terrible idea worth trying? HUSBAND HIRED MATE FOR WEDDING PIC- THEY ARE AWFUL AND IM DEVO My husband and I got married in Italy last year, he booked his friend to be our photographer before discussing it with me. Once he told me I told him that the photography style wasn’t my style and I actually didn’t think he was a good photographer. I asked my husband to cancel his friend but he didn’t, my husband assured me that we would have beautiful photos, anyway after the wedding we got our photos back and I genuinely hate them. Half of our shot list is missing, terrible angles/ shadows/ lighting/editing. I cried for one week straight. It’s been one year and I can’t look at them, I don’t have any printed around the house, none are saved on my phone, none were posted on socials. How do I move on from this and how do I forgive my husband? Those 30 people will never be in Italy together again. We can’t redo them. I’m truly devastated. It’s been one year and I still hate them. Please help, I get so upset when I see someone else’s wedding photos because ours fucking suck. FRIEND WANTS ME TO PLAN 2 BRIDAL EVENTS FOR HER, I THINK IT’S TOO MUCH AITA? I am a maid of honour for my best friend who is getting married in November. This friend is typically unorganised/ leaves things until the last minute. I had to consistently follow up for details to be able to plan the hens. She said she only wants friends invited but wants to do a second hens for the parents. She said she doesn’t want the parents at the hens because she would be worried about the mums having a good time the whole time and not enjoy it herself. For context the mums don’t get along when they drink. We decided to just have the hens without the parents and have no other events. (I said I would not plan two hens as it wouldn’t be as special the second time). Now with two months out from the wedding she has asked me to plan a bridal shower for the mums to attend to have a special day for them. AITA for not putting in the same effort or money into the bridal shower as I am for the hens? PARTNERS MUM SUPER CLINGY AFTER WE MOVED OUT My partner and I have just moved into our first home and I am definitely sure he is my penguin. The only issue is his mum is super clingy, she’ll constantly come over and want to fold our washing, clean our house and will not stop. At first it was nice but now it’s too much and I feel like she has just completely taken away the chance for us to be adults and actually do stuff for ourselves. I’ve mentioned this to my partner and he doesn’t seem to care as he is an only child and he feels like she is just doing this as a way to stay close to him. Am I overreacting, how do I approach this? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

We all remember the Netflix hit Adolescence. Jack Thorn, the writer of Adolescence is adapting the incredible story of Suzanne Heywood into a new 4 part series. Suzanne is an author, a business leader, and child survivor of an extraordinary and scary life at sea. Suzanne spent nearly a decade (ages 7 to 17) living on board her parents’ boat Wavewalker, following her father’s dream of recreating Captain Cook’s third voyage. But, what was meant to be a three year family adventure actually became a childhood of captivity. Suzanne was isolated, unable to receive a proper education and at one point she spent weeks with a fractured skull that required multiple operations without anaesthesia on a tiny remote island. Suzanne survived shipwrecks, emotional neglect from her parents, and eventually battled her way to Oxford and a career at Cambridge. Today we talk about: Suzanne’s childhood in captivity on the boat How life at sea felt like a cult The neglect and ‘jealousy’ of her mother Having multiple surgeries for her fractured skull on a remote island without anaesthesia Suzanne’s determination to get an education Being abandoned at 16 in New Zealand without a visa and their attempts to deport her Her relationship with her parents now No authorities intervening and why we should question these situations when kids are involved You can get a copy of Wavewalker from Suzanne’s website You can find Suzanne on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! Britt would like to thank all of the blocked … duct girlies who reached out in solidarity. She’s also realised that ride share drivers can now upload profiles about themselves where they may or may not tell you that they’re saving all of the animals. The halo effect is back! Laura’s 2 weeks away from giving birth and Britt is still really trying to claim her place as the stretch and sweeper/birth partner. Lola has been testing the boundaries and made a very expensive mistake in Laura’s house! Britt’s fringe is back much to Ben’s disliking. She’s convinced that women like fringes but men don’t. We’ll take it to a poll! Can Hollywood Stop Selling Us Showmances? Everyone has been speaking about the ‘are they or aren’t they’ Pamela Anderson and Liam Neeson relationship after co-starring in The Naked Gun and whether it’s a real romance or a showmance. We know that chemistry off-screen helps sell chemistry on-screen but are we exhausted from these ‘fauxmances’ being almost a check box of a publicity tour? We also ask if publicists create love stories because we demand them and whether we are more or less into the movie if the actors appear to be in a relationship? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions! Britt is living in regret of mocking one of Keeshia’s recommendations (once again) after having a run in with a huge, very rusty nail! Vibes for the week: Keeshia - Thursday Murder Club on Netflix Laura - Unknown Number The High School Catfish on Netflix Britt - Mermade M Ionic Hair Dryer Then we jump into your questions! DO I ORGANISE FATHER DAY GIFT FOR HUSBAND IF HE DIDN’T DO ANYTHING FOR MOTHERS DAY? Should I get my husband a Father’s Day present or organise a day for him if he didn’t bother getting me a Mother’s Day present or planning anything? I had to really show how upset I was for him to eventually (weeks later) buy me new PJs that I had already asked for. He barely made an effort to do anything; we went for a walk to get a coffee at the cafe, no planned brunch or anything. I was furious. I ended up doing the groceries with my toddler by myself and she had the biggest meltdown in Coles. I was so embarrassed and upset. My daughter is 2.5 (too young to know what Mother’s Day is), and I’ve been pregnant with our 2nd. He didn’t even tell our daughter to wish me a happy Mother’s Day!! I’ve told him that the bare minimum I expect is that our children know that it’s Mother’s Day, that I get a present and that something is planned. I don’t want to stoop to his level and not make an effort as I hope that leading by example will make him make an effort. But I’m fucking angry. SELFISH FRIEND STRUGGLES TO BE HAPPY FOR OTHERS, BUT HAS HAD A TOUGH TIME My best friend is also my colleague. She’s had a really rough 18 months — a divorce just 6 months into her marriage and then a miscarriage. Since then, she struggles to be happy for others. She refuses to contribute to colleagues’ wedding or baby gifts and when another colleague tried to organise a present for our pregnant boss, she told her, ‘I’m not paying you money, you can all f* off.’ She also makes comments like, ‘I wish I got treated like that,’ “I’m Not contributing to that after what I’ve been through!” when others are celebrated. The thing is, when she went through her divorce, miscarriage and birthday we all supported her with meals, presents, and care packages. But she’s never once gotten me anything — not for my birthdays or even when my Nan passed away. I’m finding her selfishness and expectations really hard to handle. How do I deal with this as her best friend without being cruel about what she’s been through?” FRIEND WANTS A SECOND BABY SHOWER JUST TO GET GIFTS- BUT I GAVE FOR THE FIRST BABY! One of my girlfriends within our friendship group announced she is pregnant with another child. The age gap between her youngest will be 6 years and was the first of our group to be married and having babies young. Whereas the rest of us are now having our first baby. She has advised she’d like someone to throw her a baby shower given the years gone and no longer having any baby items. We all contributed to the first baby shower. A few of us have expressed that it’s the first child you have a baby shower and the rest you can celebrate as a baby sprinkle without expectations of any gifts or restock of items they originally had been given from the first child. She has expressed it is a shower she wants and not just a celebration. Is it bad for me to not want to attend knowing it’s purely based on wanting gifts and having a strong expectation from guests? ARE WE GIVING BLOWJOBS? Ok girls, blow jobs…. Are we giving them? My partner and I have been in a relationship for 8 years now. A common issue that often arises is around aligning with what we want sexually. I have quite a low libido and could quite happily go months without sex. He has quite a high libido and would love to have sex every couple of days. We have compromised on once every 1-2 weeks. That is working for us, apart from when I am on my period. My partner expects that I should give him blow jobs in the week of my period. It is something he really enjoys (says every man ever). However, I do not find it enjoyable. Instead, I find it quite uncomfortable, and it feels like a chore to me. I have told him that I do not like doing it, and this is a constant issue that comes up. Every time he asks for a blow job, I am conflicted between not wanting to cause conflict and not wanting to do it because I do not enjoy it. We have had a big discussion about this, and we are going to try to incorporate other things into our sex life to meet his sexual desires without blow jobs. My question is, is this a common issue that couples face? I feel like no one really talks about it, but surely it is! Are people giving their partners blow jobs? And if so, do they enjoy it, or do they find it a chore but do it because their partner enjoys it? (Can we poll this) x

2025 seems to be the year of taking on the trolls! A few weeks ago we spoke about exposing the founder of the online gossip cesspit ‘tattle life’ in the same week that today’s guest announced that she was on her own mission to change the way trolls feel about their anonymity online. Today we're joined by the wonderful Indy Clinton. You may know her as TikTok’s “favourite mum,” with almost 3 million followers. She's a mum of 3 kids under 5, a business owner and a very savvy content creator. Today we speak about why Indy felt compelled to get a private investigator to find out the real identities of her trolls. We also talk about Indy's regrettable nose job and what happens when plastic surgery goes wrong. We also chat about privacy, internet culture, and the future of online bullying. We chat: The early days of creating content during school Being a young mum and having no ‘community’ in the same stage How Indy feels about the ‘exploitation of kids’ conversation How Indy feels about the excessive trolling that she experiences Why she got a private investigator that cost $8k to find the trolls! How the private investigator got the information about the trolls Whether Indy will prosecute the trolls - she has both civil and criminal grounds Indy’s regrettable nose job and needing reconstructive surgery to repair it Indy’s big business announcement You can find Indy on Tiktok On Instagram https://www.instagram.com/indyclinton/?hl=en You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey lifers! We all have a lot going on at the moment. Laura has some new veins but definitely hasn’t had lip filler. The comedian who spoke about her avatar/smurf labia walked so Laura could run! Britt’s sense of smell is out of order; but it might be for the best after this particular experience with Delilah. We had a lifer reach out after listening to an old episode where Britt said that she wanted to birth Laura’s 3rd baby if she ever had one. Now it’s got us thinking about whether Britt should be in the room and cut the umbilical cord. It’s a great photo op! Lola has come across something that she absolutely shouldn’t have and it’s given Matt and Laura quite a surprise. Keeshia has adopted a new dog named Bonnie from the same place that Buster came from Maggies rescue! She had a rough start to her life but things are looking a lot better with her new best friend Delilah. Britt is about to go through another round of pre skin cancer treatment. Her face will be undergoing a type of chemo cream treatment. We have a chat about our sun habits and how each of us have had brushes with skin cancer. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep, burning questions! There’s a new dating term called ‘shrekking’ and we feel as though it’s mean but it also has us questioning if we have ever been shrekked! Vibes this week: Britt - Hostage on Netflix Laura - Tom organic maternity pads Keeshia - 70s Easy Listening Mix on spotify Then we jump into your questions! SON NO LONGER CELEBRATES MOTHERS DAY WITH ME ON THE DAY BECAUSE OF HIS WIFE I have been a mother for 35 years and we have always celebrated Mother’s Day on the Sunday that mother’s day is … but now my daughter in law has hijacked it and now I have to meet my son and other kids on the Saturday before , because now Mothers Day is all about her. I have put up with it and haven’t said anything to my son , because I don’t want to put him in a bad position, but I’m really hurt by it. I think it’s really selfish that she doesn’t see how the situation would make me feel. We should be celebrating the day all together. Do I speak to them about it or just let it go? NEW BF LET ANOTHER GIRL SLEEP IN HIS BED FOR 3 WEEKS I was recently dating a guy (in the very early days, 6-8 dates in) & he had a German nanny/au pair staying with him & his mates for 3 weeks to help a friend out. He has 3 female housemates, and this German girl could have stayed in any of their 3 beds, or on their massive 5 seater lounge, but instead, he let her share his Queen bed with him for the 3 weeks. He claimed it was ‘purely platonic’ and that I had nothing to worry about. I found this quite odd though, and it made me question his intentions (with both of us). When I went over to his place on our 5th or so date, he had to text her asking her not to come into his (/her) room while I was there. All of her stuff was in his ensuite & on his bedside table. I made a ‘joke’ about how weird it was. He got defensive & accused me of being insecure, saying ‘this isn’t going to work if you get jealous every time I talk to another girl.’ He also insisted that this was a normal thing to do, to allow someone to share your bed without having sex with them. I don’t think it is, but I felt almost gaslit when I questioned him. What are your thoughts? I know we were not technically in an exclusive relationship yet, but we’d established from the get go that neither of us were casual daters & that we were dating for a life partner. DOES MY FRIEND WANT TO BE ME/ALWAYS COPYING ME So I have a situation where one of my good friends keeps copying everything that I do. At first it was cute and I tried to see it as a little bit of flattery but now it’s getting to the point where it’s incredibly irritating. It started off with small things like she started doing reformer Pilates because I was doing it, she then started with the exact same nutrition coach that I am using, she purchased a Stanley cup because I have one, she joined the exact same gym that I go to even though there are multiple closer to her, she got Botox in her jaw the same day that I told her I was getting mine done and more recently has planned a trip to New Zealand three days after me telling her I was going to New Zealand. At what point is this just fucking weird and how do I stop myself from losing my shit every time I find out she’s done something identical to me? For context this is just a few examples there are way way more. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Climate is something that we know people care about. It’s something I think a lot of us have anxiety about and feel somewhat helpless around. It’s also not usually the most sexy or humorous topic; but today’s guest has somehow found the ability to interconnect all of those things in her brand new book “Nature’s last dance”. Today we are joined by Natalie Kyriacou! Natalie is an award-winning environmentalist, writer, public speaker, and company director. She was awarded the Medal of the Order of Australia and the Forbes 30 Under 30 honour for her services to wildlife and environmental conservation in 2018. Today we wanted to speak about our environmental footprint, some misunderstandings in how we view nature, and whether we are completely f*cked when it comes to climate. But we actually start this chat by Nat telling us that it’s likely the current prime minister thinks she vaginal steams… We chat: Why younger generations seem to be more passionate about climate change and nature destruction The big organisations and systems that point the finger and tell you to use a reusable cup The fashion industry’s impact on our environment Conspicuous consumption - the peacocking of social status Are the damages to our environment too far gone to ‘correct course’? How climate disasters disproportionately affect women What we can all do to help “Greenwashing” and being brand aware Why the price of chocolate is going to skyrocket because of nature Animals and the cute curse The ejaculation helmet Bonobos and their giant clits You can get a copy of Nature’s Last Dance Follow Nat on Instagram Join her on Tiktok You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey lifers!! Laura had a surprise baby shower and both Britt and Keeshia were terrible friends and missed it! Last week we offended some of y’all by saying that it was ‘weird’ to have a photo of just yourself as your own phone background… we’re sorry not sorry. If you’re in the dating world it’s likely that you’ve got an opinion on dating apps. It’s likely that that opinion is “I hate them and I’m exhausted by them”. But would you hand over the reins to AI to try and find your person? We are joined by our friend and colleague Claire, described as ‘one of our many single friends’ who has joined the AI dating app. We speak about what it’s like and the unusual way that the app gets you to go on dates. Do you know someone who likes both hiking and the idea of having a dog?? Where is the line between ‘transparency’ of weight loss medication and celebrity endorsement? Serena Williams is sporting a new look. Last week she shared that she had lost 14 kgs by using weight loss medication. She is the new ambassador of a telehealth company that prescribes GLP-1s and her husband is a board member of the telehealth company. We ask: Can you talk ‘transparently’ about weight loss medication if you’re being paid? Should ‘personal struggle’ narratives be used to promote something that feels very emotional to all of us? Does this destigmatise weight loss medication? Is providing ‘easy access’ to prescription medication ethical? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep and burning questions. We start with one of our own today! Firstly are you the type of person who is specific and actually gives an answer when you’re asked “what would you like for your birthday?” If you have told a partner/parent/close friend what you’d like for your birthday and they get you something else, is it okay to feel disappointed? Maybe one of us is an ungrateful shrew. Vibes for the week: Britt -eLIESebeth podcast Laura - Tonies Keeshia - @danny_sandhouse instagram account Then we jump into your questions! FIND MY HUSBAND SUPER SEXY IN GROUP SETTINGS OR WHEN HE’S AWAY- BUT NOT WHEN JUST US? I’ve been married to my husband for nearly 2 years and together for 9. I have been struggling with sexual chemistry for awhile now, my desire to show any intimacy in any form is basically non existent. BUT here is the thing, everytime I see him come home from work in his business uniform I literally want to jump him, everytime he walks in late to our family/friend catch ups I genuinely think he’s so bloody attractive and I feel like a teenager again seeing my crush. Everytime he’s away for work I instantly want him back, and all my sexual desires return. Why doesn’t this transpire to times that it’s just me and him? Or when we’re in bed together? It’s like he’s a completely different person to me. Help! BEEN EXCLUDED FROM FRIEND GROUP Hey girls, am I being over sensitive or is it completely ok to feel devastated? I found out that the group chat “left the group chat” except I wasn’t invited. One of my best friends has gone away for her 40th to Port Douglas with two of our other girlfriends and I had no idea about it, I hadn’t been invited and I only found out about it when I asked where she was when she didn’t turn up to our kids football game. She told me on the day that she had spoilt herself with a trip to port Douglas however she didn’t mention who with. Only that it was for her 40th. I asked who she went with and she never replied despite having a huge conversation via text. I found out from another mum that she’s gone with my two other friends. This has absolutely devastated me as I thought our friendship was on that same level and would never have thought that I was an exclusion or that it wasn’t even mentioned. I feel like it’s been hidden from me, I feel like completely shutting down. What should I do? I just don’t trust them anymore. Am I being too sensitive or is this a valid feeling? SCABBY BIRTHDAY PRESENT Help! I’m feeling so confused and a little devastated about a gift from one of my best friends for my 30th. She “bought” me an unknown brand childlike makeup set — I’m talking pink sparkles and a foundation at least five shades too dark. The thing is, she’s super into the finer things in life and would never use these products herself. I’m not a makeup girlie at all, so it felt especially strange that this was the present she chose for me. If I’m honest, I think it’s a regift. After some casual digging, I realised it’s from a niche brand her mum follows on Instagram that frequently do free giveaways. They have 100 followers. I know gifts aren’t everything, but for me it’s not about the present. It’s about the complete lack of thought or effort. It feels like a reflection of where our friendship is at for her. We’ve been a bit tense over the last couple of months after a small communication breakdown, but I honestly thought we could work through it. This isn’t the first time I’ve felt let down by her lack of effort, and now I’m seriously considering distancing myself. I’m usually all for having the hard conversations if it’s worth salvaging the friendship… but over a bad gift? It feels petty and I don’t want to seem ungrateful - how could you even bring that up?! Do I bring this up, or do I just take this as a sign it’s time to let go? IS MY HUSBAND A FULLY GROWN SNACK THIEF? I need you to help me settle a minor domestic dispute. My husband is obsessed with our kids’ snacks: Le Snaks, pouch yoghurts, choc chip muffins, Tiny Teddies… the full primary school lunchbox starter pack. This is a grown man in his mid-30s heading to work with a Paw Patrol yoghurt pouch… packed in one of our kids’ old dinosaur lunch box, despite owning a perfectly good RipCurl cooler bag. I buy him “adult” snacks, but he inhales them in two days and raids the kids’ stash like a sugar-crazed raccoon. I should add, I make us delicious lunches most days, so it’s not like he’s going without. Recently, he stormed off without saying goodbye because I questioned why he needed (or wanted) to take one of the kids’ juice boxes. Am I being unreasonable, or should my husband stop being the biggest baby in the house and leave the kiddie snacks alone? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Clare Stephens is a writer, screenwriter, editor and podcaster. She’s the former editor-in-chief at Mamamia and host of the podcasts Cancelled and But, Are You Happy? Clare also worked as a writer and producer on the Binge series Strife starring Asher Keddie and is about to publish her first novel, The Worst Thing I’ve Ever Done! It tells the story of Ruby Williams, a young woman working in digital media who publishes an article that sees her at the bottom of an online pile-on. More broadly, it’s about shame - the way it never truly leaves you, and how we bury it. Clare is here to speak about the psychology of pile ons, cancel culture, what type of people handle being cancelled better than others and the media narratives surrounding public shaming! Today we speak about: Why Clare chose to go out on her own after almost a decade at Mamamia Public shame and ‘metacognition’ How the psychology of online debates and conversations is different to in person How it feels to be at the bottom of a pile on How and why some influencers cause pile ons of other people and use outrage to grow their own platforms There’s no good response to a pile on; silence is interpreted as guilt, speaking back causes more headlines and fuel on the fire What makes someone more likely to be cancelled? You can pre-order The Worst Thing I've Ever Done (out September 30) here. Follow Clare on Instagram Subscribe to Clare’s substack You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx