When it comes to politics, it can be particularly tricky to navigate political conversations with the people you love — especially when they sit on the opposite side of the fence. We have a very important federal election coming up on May 3 so we’re expecting these conversations to increase more and more in the next few weeks. Today we wanted to dive into how pop culture has become increasingly political, why the divide between left and right feels so extreme, and perhaps most importantly, how do we actually vote for what matters to us, beyond what’s trending on Instagram or TikTok? Today we’re joined by Zara Seidler — co-founder of The Daily Aus. The Daily Aus are particularly tapped into what young people are asking and what they care about in the political landscape. Zara has experience in the political world and also has a degree in political science. We cover: How politics has become embedded in pop culture Why there is a push towards independents What the upcoming election actually means for us Cost of living is the number 1 thing people care about now The issue with receiving political info from just one source Algorithms, outrage culture and how it’s impacted politics How to have conversations with people who have different politics Tools to help you find what you align with You can find the resources Zara shared here: Build a ballot Vote Compass You can find more from Zara at The Daily Aus Instagram And Zara's Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey lifers! Did you grow up in a house where you could openly chat about things like s3x? We’re on opposite ends of the scale on this one! Britt has reverse manifested and ended up with a pretty grim case of food poisoning. We end up having a chat about how we each feel about manifesting and goal setting. If you have kids, do you experience ‘mum guilt’? Laura has a work commitment that means she can’t make something that is important to Marlie Mae. We speak about the expectations on parents these days when they’re also trying to juggle work. Fleurine Tideman recently wrote a substack titled 'Enough with the boundaries; losing my stepfather showed me the community we're sacrificed for our so called 'boundaries'. She told the story of her step father who was battling terminal cancer when she noticed how much the neighbours and friends stepped up without even being asked to. We spoke about our shift towards outsourcing everything so we don’t feel indebted to others and how we all seem to focus more on convenience. We asked: Do you think our inclination to set boundaries has removed our sense of community? Does the idea of someone dropping over unannounced feel warm or anxiety inducing? Do you know your neighbours? Do you agree that in order to have a village, you have to be a villager? You can read Fleurine’s substack here. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! Did you have a terrible haircut? Em Rata is rocking what she’s labelled as ‘the worst haircut in the world’. Laura repped the shaved undercut bob and Britt looked like a mix between Lego Man and Lord Farquaad. We have a follow up on how many of you are in long term relationships and are still making out without having it lead to anything more. Some of our team have homework. Vibes and Unsubscribes for the week: Britt: Number 1 On The Call Sheet Keeshia: DOAC - Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever! Laura: Unsubscribing April Fool’s Day DATING GUYS WITH IG PRESENCE I’ve freshly started dating again but after being treated pretty poorly in my last relationship I am unfortunately a bit scared and always preemptively looking for reasons why a relationship won’t work out (before we even have a first date). One thing that I find really strange is men who have quite public profiles on social media * are very into creating content and curating photos. it’s weird because the traits I am attracted to (motivated, inspired, outgoing, active etc) tend to be the kind who post lots on social media so it feels like something I may need to get over. I wonder how Laura found navigating her relationship in the public eye at first and if she ever felt the ick from any of Matt's posts when they originally started dating? Does having an Instagram/Tiktok presence imply anything about someone that I should avoid? MY HUSBAND BOUGHT A D*LDO I've been with my husband for 3 years. A couple of years ago he opened up to me about enjoying prostate stimulation and told me he'd never told anyone or done it with a partner. He said he wasn't comfortable doing it with me at the time. A while later he told me he decided he was ready to try it. I was really happy that he felt comfortable and was really open to do anything that made sex even better for him. He said he'd like to go to a sex shop to get a toy but I didn’t push it. Last night when we were having sex, he suddenly brought out quite a large dildo (about 6 inches and a replica of a penis and balls). I was quite taken aback as there wasn't much warning but I was still okay for him to use it while we had sex. Afterwards, he told me he went by himself to buy it a couple of weeks ago because he felt more comfortable going to a sex shop without me and he was open about trying it out a couple of times by himself. There is a lot I'd like to ask him about; like why would he select a dildo that is quite phallic as opposed to an anal plug or plain dildo? But even asking him about when he bought it made him quickly get shy and uncomfortable and I don't want to undo any of the progress he's made to do something that I imagine would have been difficult for him. What would you do in this situation? I DON’T LIKE MY PARTNERS PARENT’S BEHAVIOUR How much should I take into account my partner’s parents in my relationship? I love my partner and feel like he’s the one, but I’m concerned about his father, who he’s very close with and we see often. My partner’s father is a misogynist—constantly making derogatory comments about women, supporting Trump, being homophobic, and commenting on people’s bodies/weight. This is particularly triggering for me, as I’ve struggled with an eating disorder in the past. My partner doesn’t make these comments, but when his dad says these things, he doesn’t respond, and it bothers me. He never brings it up with me afterward either. I’m worried my partner might have similar views deep down because that’s how he’s been raised, but I’m scared to bring it up because he’s close to his dad (close Greek family) and I don’t want to be offensive. Am I overthinking it/what should I do? HOW SOON IS TOO SOON? How soon is too soon. I just came out of a 6 year relationship with my ex. We ended it on good terms as it was a mutual agreement things weren’t working. He is definitely more upset about it than me. I’ve known for over a year we should end it but was just holding on hoping things would improve. Now 1 month on from our breakup, I met someone who I’ve instantly clicked with. And I get the feeling he is “the one”. But is it too soon? Should I take more time to heal and move on? I was not expecting to find someone so soon and I met this guy completely by accident, I had no intention of seeing anyone so soon. No one ever felt so perfect for me. But I’m worried it’s happening so fast after my breakup. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

When was the last time a friend asked you how you’d been and why do I think that a part of your response was that you’re feeling a bit fatigued, overwhelmed or exhausted? Surely it’s not just us! The way our lives are constructed these days and the life stage most of us are at leans into chaos. Today we are speaking with one of the world's leading experts on how to reduce stress, improve our energy levels and feel a lot better in really simple and free ways! Dr. Rangan Chatterjee is a leading figure in lifestyle medicine and a trusted voice in health and wellness. With over two decades of experience as a practicing medical doctor, he has a particularly simple approach to help us all make small changes in our lives to improve our health and wellbeing. He has written 6 books,hosted TV shows for over a decade and he hosts one of the most popular podcasts in the world "Feel Better, Live More." We speak about: Our victim mindset How women disproportionately take on stress Can we rely on willpower? Emotional eating Guilt and relaxation What areas of health are different for men and women The menstrual cycle; how it affects hormones and stress Do women need more sleep than men? Links for Dr Rangan Chatterjee's website, podcast and Aus tour You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Britt’s peacocking has gone horribly wrong. She’s blaming the laser therapist. The laser therapist is blaming her… She’s going to be a unicorn at the wedding. She also might be banned from a different laser place for a different reason. Laura has reached a truly incredible career milestone with ToniMay. We are here cheering her on as *influencers, *business partners or friends.😂It’s been 15 years in the making and we’re all so proud and chuffed of their hard work. Plus your spiciest confessions are back! Again, we are galvanised by how cooked everyone else is. Are you on the ‘morning shed’ or the ‘5 hour morning routine’ algorithm? We speak about the standards that keep evolving for what we are ‘meant’ to be doing to prevent ageing and wake up ‘beautiful.’ The lines between beauty and wellness seem to be blurred and it’s a bit bat sh*t that they’ve run out of things to market to us when we’re awake so they’ve moved on to products to use when we are unconscious. Are morning routines a competition? Who are they really for? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and dark dilemmas. Today’s first dilemma is the type that a bodysuit and a bathroom visit brings you. If you know, you absolutely know. Keeshia went to a hens party with a certain type of male entertainment. There was almost full nudity, but the parts that remained covered were not the ones that you would expect them to be. Vibes for the week: Britt - Colleen Hoover Verity Laura - Yoto Player Keeshia - Maybelline Superstay Teddy Tint Lipstick Skinny Dip Then we jump into your questions! REFUSES TO GO DOWN OR KISS WITH TONGUE?! One of our best friends has gotten into a new relationship (about 6 months) and is head over heels for this guy! She’s never been happier, so she says….. She has always been the girl in long term relationships and her last long term boyfriend was toxic as hell and really ripped her friendships apart. Regardless of who she is with, she is VERY defensive of them, BUT once she breaks up with the boyfriend she admits everything. She recently told us on a girl‘s weekend that her new boyfriend has not and WILL NOT eat her out. He also will not kiss with tongue. When we questioned why, she said “he has super weird hygiene habits” yet he is obsessed with her feet. We asked if he would try and she said he flat out refuses! Our question is, is this normal? We get there are always certain things people do not like doing in the bedroom but the fact he flat out refuses to even try concerns us! In her previous relationships she was VERY kinky and loved her sex life, but now she makes concerning comments like “they only do it once a week, rarely” and she is always keen for him to leave for work so she can use her vibrators. Keep in mind she is only 25 with no responsibilities. HOUSEHOLD SHOES DEBATE Super contentious issue, but also ridiculous and first world problem between my husband and I. 4 years on and we still have heated arguments. He hates me walking inside with my work shoes on (I'm a teacher). Yet on every other day we are a barefoot family and walk outside for hours without shoes, then he will walk through the house no worries. Is this double standards? I think wearing barefoot then walking it inside is worse! We are fine just agreeing to disagree but he's loving listening to ask uncut with me so I thought it'd be interesting. I CAUGHT MY HUSBAND ON A GAY DATING APP I’m in serious need of some advice. I can’t tell anyone so you guys are it. I found my husband on a gay dating platform. I went to look up something in safari on his phone because mine was upstairs and it was there when I clicked on the app. I didn’t know what it was at the time and just moved past it but something made me look further later that evening. I found his profile on there quite easily. I don’t know how to approach the subject with him. P.S the amount of married men on this platform is insane. It’s called Sniffies and is completely anonymous unless someone recognises the body parts posted like I did. I do not know what to do. WHEN TO START MATERNITY LEAVE This one’s for you Laura!! I am due to have a baby boy in August and am currently talking with my partner and employer about when I will finish up in my full-time role. For context I’ll be 36 weeks by the 27th July, as you would know, I could go into labour anytime from then. Should I work closer to my due date as I would be robbing myself of practically another full month's pay. Or do I need to take more time off as I need to get ready and rest before this big change? For context I do not have a physically demanding job, but I am on the road travelling via car and in and out of meetings. Do I take extra time off and says fuck the money, as it’s my last ‘solo’ moments. Or should I work as close to my due date as possible for the good money? Ps my partner will be supporting me on mat leave financially. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Have you ever been in a relationship where you asked “am I settling?” What about am I losing myself, what if I’m not good enough and is this type of relationship normal? Sometimes, particularly if you might be a bit of an anxious person already, it can be really hard to tell the difference between relationship anxiety and genuine red flags or signs that you might actually not be compatible. Today we have anxiety therapist, host of The Anxiety Reset Podcast and author Georgie Collinson joining us to speak about the work she’s done for her new book ‘Master your relationship anxiety.” Georgie’s previous book, The Anxiety Reset Method, reached international success when it was picked for Oprah’s Book Club in 2023 and was featured on Oprah Daily. We’re going to be speaking about why exactly are you feeling anxious in love, what anxiety is trying to tell you, the four types of relationship anxiety and how it may prevent us from being our best selves in relationships. We speak about: How relationship anxiety differs from generalised anxiety The difference between actual red flags and anxious tendencies Why we keep having the same relationship patterns and how to break them The 3 stages of love: base love, chaotic love and expansive love How to stop being attracted to people who are bad for you What ‘learned helplessness’ is A healthy relationship is not boring, settling or dull You can find more from Georgie like her new book ‘master your relationship anxiety’ and her Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! It's Laura's birthday!!! She had a beautiful message from the most special two girls (definitely her kids and not Britt and Keeshia)! There are revelations about our years on this Earth and we want to wish our happiest birthday the most wonderful human we know! Laura's home has had a visit from the dummy fairy and we've all entered a new chapter! Britt has found herself in some hot water with the law which has led to a lot of surrendering and the need for a screw driver. Who is truly at 'fault' is still up for debate! Hilaria Baldwin and Alec Baldwin had an awkward exchange on the red carpet. They've gone on to joke about this being 'manturrupting' 'correctile dysfunction'. How do you feel about celebrities owning businesses and adding to their already existing wealth? Tina Fey recently sparked debate by criticising the trend of ultra-wealthy people launching their own businesses, particularly in industries where they lack expertise in industries like skincare, fashion, wellness, or alcohol. We share our thoughts and where we think the line is! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions! Britt is apparently giving Stiffler’s mum vibes and Laura feels very validated about everyone’s hatred for exhaust/extraction fans! Vibes for the week: Laura - Lucky Boy Podcast Britt - Adolescence on Netflix Keeshia - Inherited Podcast with Michelle Andrews Then we jump into your questions! WHEN TO TELL DATES THAT I CAN’T HAVE A BABY I’m venturing back into dating as a single girl in her early 30s after a very toxic relationship ending a few months ago. I also found out last year that I’m unable to have my own children due to some bad health issues. This was devastating as I always saw myself being a mum one day. My question is, at what stage do I disclose this to potential partners? A couple of dates in? It feels really heavy and most people I meet seem to want kids so I’m mindful of wasting their time but I’m unsure how to approach this. COUPLE FRIENDS PRETENDING CHEATING DIDN’T HAPPEN My boyfriend’s best friend has a great partner and three kids who have become a big part of our life. We always saw them as the perfect family—until two months ago, when we found out he’d been cheating for a year and got a girl pregnant. His partner was the one who told us and asked us not to say anything (she’s a very proud person and was obviously a mess) I supported her of course trying to say all the right things, but nearly three months later, she’s still with him, seemingly in denial, while he acts like nothing happened. My boyfriend and I are struggling with all the lies as he used their friendship to cover his tracks multiple times. Do I keep being friends with them and pretend this didn’t cause so much hurt? I’m worried we will lose these kids because we have hardly seen them since and we really just don’t know what to do! Advice please! CAN WE SUCCESSFULLY HAVE A HALL PASS? My partner of 7 years has asked what I would think of having a ‘hall pass’ for one night with a random. We are 25 and he says he would like to experience another sexual partner since we’ve been together since we were 18. I am not opposed to the idea and have thought about it before. He has said it would be a stranger and only once and we would never tell each other when/where/who once we’d done it. I am leaning towards a yes but have an underlying fear that our relationship wouldn’t be the same afterwards. He is 100% my penguin and I believe we will last a lifetime for sure. I guess my question for you is, is this a reasonable request and what boundaries would you put around it? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group

Is confidence the key to effective communication? How are you meant to respond when someone says something incredibly rude? How can we use silence to out a liar? Jefferson Fisher is a trial lawyer who you might know as the guy who records videos from his car all about how to communicate during life’s everyday awkward situations and arguments! Jefferson amassed 5.8 million followers and has a new book out titled “the next conversation” and it’s his tried-and-true strategies to deal with difficult people and tough situations. Our favourite thing about Jefferson is that he provides word for word advice on how to navigate a lot of conflict and having the tool of ‘if someone says this to you, respond with this’ is incredibly helpful! In today’s conversation, we unpack: Where Jefferson learnt the art of storytelling How storytelling can determine the outcome of a court case Why you should never try to win an argument How you can park your ego and emotion during an argument so that you can get your point across in a way that will be listened to Jefferson’s tips to make a liar out themselves (remember he’s a trial attorney) How to spot a liar! What to say when someone says something rude to you Fluffy emails, filler words and over apologising are harming how we are perceived How to combat defensiveness You can find more from Jefferson on his instagram At his website And grab his new book “The Next Conversation” You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! We’re all rev heads now. Officially on the F1 bandwagon; real housewives or documentary, you can decide. We have a quick catch up on our weekend! RIP Keeshia’s toe and Britt’s dignity after a trip to chemist warehouse and a case of mistaken identity. Laura has a small health update of something she’s been putting up with since last September. We desperately need better options when it comes to women’s health care and this is a little reminder to advocate for your own health. Is there a double standard when it comes to full frontals on our screens? Jason Isaacs is sick of being asked whether or not he wore a prosthetic penis in The White Lotus where his character, Timothy Ratliff, had his penis hanging out of his bathrobe while in front of his children. He said “It’s interesting that there’s a double standard for men. But when women are naked, Margaret Qualley, in ‘The Substance,’ nobody would dream of talking to her about her genitalia or her nipples. So, it's odd that there’s a double standard.” We speak about: Whether he has a point How women’s nudity has been used on screens How the media has approached female on screen nudity The difference between romantic/seductive full frontals and shock/comedic nude scenes Our thoughts about prosthetics being used on screen You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we discuss your deepest and dizzy dilemmas. We’re all feeling uncomfortable about Timothée Chalamet and Kylie Jenner’s tennis affection and we’re just hoping Timmy’s tummy is feeling better. Vibes for the week: Britt - Running Point on Netflix Keeshia - Salted Matcha Powder from T2 Laura - Similar Web - Competitive Landscape Analysis I WANT TO DO A NUDIE SWIM - BF AGAINST IT I live in Hobart and every year there is a big nudist swim to celebrate the winter solstice. You have to register, there's no photography allowed, you all wear robes and swim caps and drop them when you run into the water. Of course there's lots of nudity but it's absolutely freezing so not everyone is hanging out stark naked. I told my partner I want to participate in the swim this year and it did not go down well. He believes that it's a perverse event, full of voyeurs and doesn't understand why it has to be nude. I believe it's a celebration of the body in the basest form, and an act of rebirth in cold water. He doesn't understand why I would "put myself in a situation with pervs, and to parade myself like meat in front of lions". I find this language incredibly shaming, and it furthers the sexualisation of female bodies in a negative way. Am I the asshole for going ahead and doing it, regardless of his attitude. OVERTHINKING IG ‘FOR YOU’ PAGE FOR BF? My partner and I have been together 5 years, engaged, very much in love and happy in our relationship. We have an open phone policy meaning having no issues with being on each other's phone for whatever reason. On road trips, which have been frequent lately, my service cuts out regularly and I love a doom scroll through reels on Insta to pass the time. He’s happy for me to do this on his phone while mine is out of service. Everytime I open his insta, his ‘for you page’ is flooded with women who hold only fans accounts, posting pics of their enormous, wonderful tits/body. I say good for them in that regard and I have no shame on women who choose to do this. I have joked/bantered to him in the past about this and he has mentioned it is because Instagram has formed his algorithm based on the ‘average 30 year old male’. When I look on my ‘for you page’, my algorithm is formed by stupid reels, memes and animals that I engage in daily. Does Instagram form an algorithm based on age and gender or for what you show interest/consume in most frequently? I have no issue with him watching porn, however, for some reason, the idea that my partner may be frequently scrolling through or searching for posts related to only fans or women with body types that are polar opposites to my own leaves an unsettling feeling in my stomach and perhaps shatters my ego slightly. IS A SURNAME IMPORTANT? I’ve been my partner for six years and we have two beautiful kids. He’s the last one in his family to get married, and I always said to him that I would like to at least have the same surname as my children before my eldest goes to school. Our eldest child is enrolled to start school next year , and I don’t see us getting married this year. It makes me sad that we don’t all have the same surname because that’s always been something I wanted coming from a divorced parent family. Is it too much to put an ultimatum on him? Am I overthinking this? Does a surname really matter? I know how many women want to keep their maiden name however I don’t have a solid relationship with my dad so I’ve never really wanted his surname anyway. A surname to me solidifies the family unit. I also don’t really want a big wedding. I would be very happy to just sign a piece of paper. Thoughts? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Have you ever wondered “If I wanted to change my personality, would I be able to?” Or have you ever wondered if it was possible for someone else to truly change their personality? This was a question that today’s guest wondered about herself and so she went on a journey to find out whether it was really possible to change your entire personality! Joining the podcast today is Olga Khazan. Olga is a writer for The Atlantic, and the author of the new book Me, But Better: The Science and Promise of Personality Change. Olga spent a year experimenting with her own personality to see if she could become more extroverted, a lot less neurotic, and a little more agreeable. We speak about: Exactly why you might like to change your personality How much of our personality is ‘hard wired’ The ‘big 5’ personality traits: extroversion, neuroticism, agreeableness, conscientiousness, openness. How different aspects of our personality affects our relationships Making friends when you’re not particularly extroverted Can you change someone else’s personality? Do certain life stages encourage a personality change? What things can you do to change your personality? You can get Olga's new book Me, But Better You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! Straight off the b̶a̶c̶k̶ bat, how do you feel about the sound of exhaust fans? Are they the bane of your existence or are you normal? We have a devastating update about Britt's hens entertainment and checks notes it is not appropriate to ask if the entertainment should come to our workplace. Noted. Ben has had his bucks party and it was a little less of a rager than what Britt anticipated. We ended up having a bit of a deeper conversation about what the 'rules' of hens/bucks parties are, the length of the 'leash' and being in a relationship with genuine trust and how that feels really different to previous relationships. Why are people hate-watching Meghan Markle’s Netflix Show Love, Meghan? Why do we hate watch or hate follow anyone? We unpack the how these factors play into why we might consume content from people that we really don't like: Confirmation bias. If you already think someone is awful, watching their content (and finding more reasons to dislike them) reinforces that belief. The need for comparison. Hate-watching gives us a way to feel superior. Schadenfreude—the joy of watching a train wreck Participation in a bigger conversation Algorithms LOVE outrage! We'd love to know if you hate follow or hate watch anyone/anything? Are they a celebrity/public figure or someone you know in your own life? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep and burning questions. Britt is broken from dancing and we decided it was the right time to have a bit of an intervention with her. She is upset by Laura and Keeshia going behind her back but they're sticking to their nostrils. Vibes for the week: Britt and Laura - Devil in the family on Disney plus Keeshia - Koala Luxe Mattress Then we jump into your questions! HOW DO I GET MY IDENTITY BACK AS A MUM? I want to start off by saying I absolutely love being a mum and I am grateful everyday that I have two beautiful girls. This didn’t come easy for my partner and I and had a few losses along our journey. My question is how do you find your identity after becoming a mum? My youngest is 12 weeks old and oldest is 2 and right now my life is consumed with being a mum. I feel a bit lost and find myself missing who I was before. I avoid mirrors when I can because I don’t recognise the person looking back at me. I want to be the best role model for my girls and I’m worried if I can’t find myself again I won’t be able to do this for them. During the labour of my second I was listening to random episodes of the Podcast to take my mind off the contractions. I didn’t realise I still had my headphones on when I started to push and my daughter was born to the sound of Britt's laugh! SHOULD I HOOK UP WITH HIM AGAIN AFTER I SH*T DURING SEX? My ex and I broke up in October. Recently, we’ve been reconnecting for a bit of company and casual fun. Last weekend, I popped over to his place for a chill lunch hangout, which of course eventually led to some steamy playtime. It was one of those really hot days, so we decided to have a shower session. Things got hot and steamy, and he started touching me in all the right places with his hand. As things really started to heat up I said “Fuck me!” He replied with a cautious “babe,” but when I turned back - I was hit with a shock I’ll never forget. His finger was covered in a thick smear of gooey, brown diarrhoea. It was my first time experiencing such an unsexy disaster, and needless to say, I was mortified. We quickly washed off, agreeing that “we can’t come back from this one.” Now it’s become a core memory I can’t shake. So here’s my dilemma: should I put the brakes on our casual escapades, or might a second round (with a strategic bathroom break this time) help us wipe the slate clean? HOW TO TELL MY HUSBAND HE HAS NEVER MADE ME COME? I’m a female, married and am in my late 20’s. I’ve always enjoyed sex, but as I’ve gotten older, my sex drive has declined. This has become a point of tension in my marriage, as my husband has always maintained his sex drive. In an effort to reconnect with my body and bring some excitement back into our sex life, I recently bought my first vibrator. While exploring, I made an embarrassing discovery—I’ve never actually orgasmed from my husband or most past partners, and I’ve always wondered if I even could. However, I did experience it once with a previous partner, which has made this realisation even more confusing. Now, I’ve learned that I can do it myself, and I don’t quite know how to process that. I love my husband deeply, and I know this revelation would hurt him. I don’t want him to feel inadequate, but I also want to be honest so that we can improve our intimacy together. How do I approach this conversation? HOLIDAY WITH FRIEND OR SEE LONG DIST POTENTIAL LOML? Last year I went on a uni exchange. In the last few weeks there I met a British guy who I genuinely believe could be my person. Since then we have kept in contact, and have met in Bali and again back in the uk for a few weeks later in the year. My dilemma now is that I have agreed to go on a cruise with my friend in April. For context with this friend: she has been my best friend for a few years but because of some things that happened last year, she now lives with my ex boyfriend (of four years) and a few other people who don’t run in my circle anymore. This has made our relationship challenging recently and this cruise (with her entire family) could really be a make or break situation for us. HOWEVER - I have just found out that this is the only time in the entire year (he studies med and gets little holidays) that my British boy would be able to come out and visit for a few weeks. Having the cruise smack bang in the middle of these weeks means that the trip wouldn’t be worth the money for him if I’m only going to be there half the time (we’re broke uni students!!!). SO my question is: how terrible of a friend am I, and/or will this ruin my friendship if I prioritise seeing the potential love of my life over this cruise with my best friend?Also a bit more context: she was SO excited when I told her I was going to come on the cruise, and has not been overly supportive of this British man I’ve been obsessing over. So I really feel like me doing this would be taken very personally and I’m worried that we potentially won’t fully come back from it. But it also feels like if I can take the opportunity to see him then I should. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Quite a while ago now we put a call out for who you’d like to hear on the podcast and the name that came through the MOST was the woman sitting in front of us Holly Kingston/Nicholson! We initially got to know Holly when she found love with Jimmy on the bachelor and they’ve gone on to get married and break the bachelor girl baby spell with their son Lenny! “Once you have a baby, your relationship will never be the same” seems to be a tale told to a lot of expecting mums. And it’s true, but there are a few parts left out of that narrative. Holly and Laura ran into each other not long before Holly had Lenny and she told her ‘no one tells you how much fun it’s going to be’. We speak about: Life before bach How her and Jimmy decided to pivot careers What the first year of their relationship was like Maintaining friendships after the bachelor Their challenging pregnancy journey Being both very grateful that you’re pregnant but really not liking pregnancy What the baby blues can feel like The counter narrative of motherhood being all doom and gloom The shift in identity that becoming a mum gives you How their relationship has changed since becoming parents Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 6:17 Accidentally Unfiltered 13:23 Post Bach Relationship 17:37 Road to Pregnancy 24:44 Positive Test 25:50 Pregnancy and Postpartum 32:25 C-Section Birth 36:50 How Babies Change Relationships 43:45 Unsolicited Parenting Advice 51:13 Strange Pregnancy Symptoms You can find more from Holly on her instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! Britt is unexpectedly jealous of someone very close in Ben's life and what's a girl got to do to get to enjoy some cannoli? Britt is still *undecided about whether she wants an adult performer or not at her hens party. Is it okay to want a particular one? The pet content creators are truly taking over as not just the winner of their cat-egory but the entire content creator awards! Laura thinks it's purrfect but Britt thinks they've got to be kitten! (I will stop with the cat puns...) We've previously really enjoyed MAFS for the social commentary that it creates and the ability to dissect toxic behaviours and speak about them in a public way. But, it seems as though it might be time to draw a line in the sand of what we are not willing to accept from contestants on our screens. After an act of violence from one of the contestants was brought up on the show, there has been a huge backlash from the public calling for the show to be cancelled after the experts did not remove the contestant. The company who creates the show has come out saying that their 'first priority at all times has been the wellbeing and safety of the participants'. But is this true? We speak about some of the unethical practices that happen behind the scenes of reality TV and the acceptance of violent people on our screens that exists right now in Australia. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep and burning questions on a *checks notes* Monday! Britt shares a story so embarrassing that we had to promise we wouldn’t make a social media clip out of it. Lola has reached a new milestone. Vibes: Britt - Monster BTK Podcast Keeshia - New season of Australian Survivor - Brains vs Brawn Laura - American Murder - Gabby Petito Then we jump into your questions! HOW LONG DO I GIVE HIM TO MAKE THINGS OFFICIAL? I have recently re-kindled a relationship with my previous on and off f-buddy of 5 years on. We’ve been talking for about a month, going on dates and getting to know each other at a deeper level to what we have in the past. This time feels different, we are both opening up a lot more about how and what we are feeling. He says we are “feeling things out” which is true but realistically I have always had more of an emotional attachment regardless of how casual we kept things. So, my question is, how long do I allow him to make a decision? After 5 years of on and off, I don’t want to put a timeline on things but also don’t want to potentially allow myself to be strung along. DO I ASK HIM TO TAKE HAIR LOSS MEDICATION? Can I ask my husband to take anti-balding medication? We have been together more than 10 years and have 2 kids. He’s always been a silver fox with thick salt and pepper hair, which I love. However, his hair is now starting to thin and I want to ask him to take measures to prevent this - there are sooo many easy and safe options for men to do this these days! My question is whether I have the right to ask him to? I’d be offended if he asked me to alter my appearance or have anti-Aging procedures, is this the same thing? Thank you for your wisdom. HE SLEPT IN THE SPARE ROOM AFTER FINDING OUT I HAVE A VIBRATOR I have been with my partner for almost 5 years. We recently got married. We don’t have a particularly regular sex life, maybe a handful of times per year, and when we do it’s pretty vanilla (which is fine). Recently, after one too many drinks we started getting steamy and I with my liquid courage asked if he wanted to incorporate my vibrator in the mix. Until then, he didn’t know that I had or used a vibrator. I had some shame about it when I started using the vibrator years and years ago (before I met him), but I slowly realised how normal it was. Fast forward to when I asked my partner if we should try using it during sex, he was immediately shocked and shut down. He got quite upset (I’m not sure whether about the fact that I have a vibrator or that I caught him by surprise), but he said he felt “a bit attacked”. I was really upset by it as all I wanted to do was spice things up. Am I in the wrong here? He was upset enough to sleep in the spare room and the next day we just went on like nothing happened. IS MY PARTNER CONTROLLING? I think my partner is controlling but I’m not sure if I’m just being dramatic… he said once if I go on a girls trip he’ll break up with me. When I work at a mine site (which is around 80% male) he makes me feel bad for having a drink with them. He makes me feel bad after doing anything fun aka drinking with friends. He always expects me to say excuse me after burping… like sorry I’m a barbie girl. He liked Andrew Tate… plus there’s a lot more. Do you think it’s time to leave… My friends think yes but I don’t have a large group of friends to lean on for this advice. Is this something people can work through and what if I don’t want to waste my time and work through it? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Lucille Shackleton is a sexologist and relationship therapist who has just released her debut book titled “All In”. When Lucille was working with couples as a therapist, most of the training that she had done said ‘if the friendship is good the sex will be good’ but this didn’t seem to be the case in practice. So Lucille went and did a masters of sexology to figure out what some of the missing pieces to the ‘good sex’ puzzle were. One particular puzzle piece that we wanted to unpack with Lucille was how much conflict affected libido and desire. We unpack: The love lust split Why referring to your partner as ‘mummy’ or ‘daddy’ (not in that way) can make you both stop desiring each other The question of ‘do you not want sex?’ or ‘are you not having sex that you actually want?’ Figuring out your sex values Relationship satisfaction goes up when people learn that their ‘problems’ are normal, even if they aren’t having more sex The ‘narratives’ that we create about our partners & ‘core negative’ images Does intention matter when it comes to conflict? How much our ego comes into play during conflict Sex life after giving birth When one partner has a dry spell or ‘shuts up shop’ and doesn’t want sex anymore You can find more from Lucille at her Instagram Grab her new book You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! Captain Keeshia is filling in for Britt today as she is busy carving up the dance floor at Dancing With The Stars! Laura thought they were going to have a comparable experiences but now she feels gaslit by Britt. If you haven't yet had the chance to listen, you can find our new mini series podcast Cloud here! If you get given a scratchie by someone as a present, is there an expectation if you win that you will split the winnings with the person who has given you the scratchie? Laura shares a story about a family feud that lasted decades. Confessionals are back and... yeah wow. You can continue to send them in to us at life uncut podcast on instagram. How would you feel if you found out that the person you were newly dating had hooked up with an acquaintance of yours within the week that you met? Would you not care at all or would it make you question whether they were 'ready' for a proper commitment? It's a situation that's playing out on Love Is Blind and we asked whether it's different because it's reality TV or if we would react in the same way. Are you guilty of 'Someday Syndrome'? Are you deferring life goals or things that you want in your life to 'someday' down the track? We unpack the excuse trap, the right time and the fear of failure. Laura questions whether deferring goals is always a bad thing or whether it's more about prioritisation and inherent sacrifice. Keeshia questions whether it's the 'goal' or the feeling that the goal brings us that we actually want. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we unpack all of your deep dark and burning questions. Laura is a bit f*cking rooted today apparently! There are no sick days here at life uncut! First very important question: which colour snakes (lollies) do you like the least? Is it orange? It's probably orange right?? Second very important question: what flavour is the orange lolly? The answer to this still hurts my brain. Keeshia has been reunited with Britt's dad Tony and there's a lifer who now gets where our obsession with him comes from! Vibes for the week: Keeshia Cloud podcast Britt It's All Over. The Kiss That Changed Spanish Football on Netflix Laura White Lotus Season 3 Then we jump into your questions: DO I LET IT GO TO PROTECT MY DAD? Growing up, I always looked and felt really different from the rest of my family. It was always a running joke that I was the “adopted” child because I don’t resemble anyone. When I was 14 and really into science, I learned that my blood type wasn’t a possible combination of my parents. I brought it up with my mum, but she completely shut me down and made me feel silly for even questioning it. Fast forward to late last year, and my sister and I did a heritage DNA test for fun. When the results came back, we found out we’re only half-sisters—meaning we have different dads. I have no idea what to do with this information. I’ve always had suspicions that my mum might have had an affair over the years (I’ve even seen some texts on her phone to another man). The thing is, my dad is the sweetest, most pure-hearted man. He’s retired now and living his best life, and I know that something like this could absolutely shatter him. I don’t know if it’s my place to bring it up or if he would be happier living in ignorant bliss. I don’t care about finding out who my “real” biological father is—I just care about what’s best for my dad. Is it my duty to dig deeper and confront my mum? Or do I let this go to protect him? I’m completely torn. CONCERT ETIQUETTE Can you stand up at a concert when in a reserved seating area? If you want to stand to pop along, should you book a GA standing? DO I REKINDLE THINGS AFTER SHE HAS THE BABY? I’ve just started talking to a new man for the first time after being cheated on in my last relationship. We went on two dates, and I really liked him. We slept together, he stayed the night, it was great! This man ticked all of my boxes. All of a sudden, after staying the night, he stopped replying! I thought he’d ghosted me and things were done. Then three days later, he came back and explained that he and his ex had hooked up in October last year and SHE IS PREGNANT! She’s now just started her second trimester. He said he wants to prioritise the baby and her, and he and his ex agreed on no dating/communication through the pregnancy, which is completely reasonable. He said he wants to keep talking to me after the birth because he really enjoyed spending time with me and wants to see where things go. My question is, do I rekindle things in 5 months, or is it just too messy? CAREER OR MOTHERHOOD? My partner and I are trying to work out when we should have kids. I’m 30 and he is 39. His career is well and truly set up and he is happy where he is. I however am not! When I was younger I always wanted to be a mum, but as I get older my priorities have shifted to being career focused. I am a pilot and I want to progress in my career a little more before we have kids. I am not happy where I currently work (very toxic workplace) and want a bit more of a stable job, especially one to go back to after having babies. I’m not sure this new job will come in the next year or so, so my husband and I have been talking about prioritising babies first, due to my husband approaching 40. As much as I want to be a mum, it breaks my heart that I may not get my dream career that I’ve worked years for and spent $200 K to train for (does this mean I shouldn’t be a mum?😢). I don’t want to put off having kids for too long, but I also feel If I take a break now from my career that I’d be setting myself back years compared to my male colleagues. I feel so stuck and lost and I keep getting told that I’ll know when the time is right but will I? Is 40 getting too old to be a first time dad? Also - the income I earn would not be enough to support a family, so my partner (also a pilot) would have to be the one to continue working and I’ll be the one to take time off You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Today’s guest is one of the most funny, relatable and completely open people we’ve been lucky enough to chat with. Tanya Hennessy is a comedian, radio announcer, TV presenter, multi-bestselling author and content creator. We kick this chat off by speaking about something Tanya recently wrote about called the ‘catch up trap’. It’s where we all seem to be just ‘catching up’ with our friends and recapping our lives rather than actually creating new memories together. It can be reflective of the stage of life that we’re in, but it can also make you question whether it’s a good use of our time to just be relaying what we’ve been up to since the last time we spoke. When was the last time you created ‘new’ memories with your friend? Tanya is now all about creating these new memories and seeking deep joy from her friendships. Tanya has been very open with her long ‘journey’ with challenging fertility. The main difference is that Tanya speaks about it in real time, not hindsight. Tanya is currently going through the process of her 7th round of IVF and has tried quite literally everything that you could imagine. Something we are often asked during Ask Uncut is how to speak about kids, pregnancy or trying to conceive with a friend that you know has been struggling with their own fertility. Unfortunately there is no one size fits all answer of how to do it right. But, we ask Tanya how she navigates her friendships with her loved ones that have kids, how she responds to social media announcements and things like baby showers etc. Tanya also speaks about the things that we need to address on a systemic level like pregnancy loss care and removing the deafening silence of fertility struggle stigma. You can find more from Tanya on her instagram and tiktok You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! Today's episode is with our favourite cast away. Matt is back from the jungle and he's dishing the tea on the behind the scenes of what happened in camp. To summarise, it's not been sunshine and rainbows and special reunion times between our mum and dad... Britt is actually the therapist of today's episode. We speak about: The real reason Matt didn't quit Matt's bone to pick with Britt Who Matt expected to win The part that Laura hated of Matt on screen Laura's travel with the kids and filming the finale How Lola has responded to Matt being away What Matt and Laura have been bickering about since Whether Matt *self pleasured in the jungle (this one will shock you) You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions! We had to record this episode a few days early because we didn’t know if Laura would be on a plane to South Africa to be reunited with Matt after I’m a Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here! By this time, you’ll well and truly know the outcome of whether he made it to the final and whether Laura survived the 30 hours of flying with two kids! Vibes for the week: Britt - Netflix Apple Cider Vinegar Keeshia - Mid Amanda Keller and Anita McGregor Know How Lucky They Are Laura - Case-Mate Stick It! Then we jump into your questions! CAN I DATE MY LATE HUSBAND’S FRIEND? My husband passed aways in an accident nearly 3 years ago, he was 29 and we had been together since we were 16. After years of heartache (which will live with me forever) I’m finally feeling open to the idea of dating again. I’ve recently reconnected with an old friend who was a friend of my husbands too. He has the most grounded, secure, kind energy and I have found myself having feelings for him. I have no idea where he stands on this situation and whether or not he just sees me as a friend. I want to ask him/ tell him how I’m feeling but I don’t want to get it wrong and potentially uplift our friendship. Help THEY NAMED US GODPARENTS WITHOUT ASKING US FIRST A couple of weeks ago, my husband and I attended my cousin's baby's dedication at church. All was going well until they announced in front of all our friends and family that my husband and I were the Godparents to their child....We were shocked. There was no previous conversation surrounding this topic, and my husband and I agreed that if they asked us, we would politely decline as it's a serious role to take on as we already have 3 kids of our own (and wanted to try for another). We stood there awkwardly smiling and didn't know how to react. We were never "asked" to be their child's Godparents and were announced with the title in front of everyone with no prior discussion. Is it rude of me to have a conversation with them and explain that we thought it was unfair of them to announce that in front of our family when we were never even asked if we would take on the role, or should I say nothing and pretend like we aren't bothered by it? SHOULD I HAVE MY PARTNERS PHONE PASSCODE? I have a lot of trust issues… I’ve had a rough time with relationships and trust. I always go through my husband's phone (once a day I would say) not necessarily finding anything just “making sure”. About a month ago I asked him to change his password so I couldn’t go through his phone anymore. What do you ladies think about this; not having your partner's phone password? Do you think it will help my trust as I have to keep reminding myself he is a good guy and my past is still haunting me or do you think it’s unhealthy? I did counselling for a long time after my previous relationships but now it’s too expensive with two children. COULD MY PARTNER BE GETTING A FREE RIDE? I have been with my partner for 5 years and we are expecting our first child. I already owned a house before meeting him and have since sold it so we can buy something for our growing family. The issue is, I am the only one contributing to the deposit and it is a large sum of money from the sale. He is older and has no assets of his own. How do I navigate this so I don’t resent him for ‘getting a free ride’ to a house which I’ve worked so hard to have for myself? I can’t help but resent him for not getting his shit together earlier. For context, we had similar upbringings and occupations so there isn’t much of a salary difference between us. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

When it comes to topics like pleasure and sex, we all have different biases and shame that we carry and it’s difficult to distance ourselves from the conditioning and societal values that we’ve grown up with. But this episode is definitely going to make you evaluate your thoughts on sex, shame and empowerment. Joining the podcast today is sexologist and academic Dr Hilary Caldwell. Hilary was a sex worker in secret for 20 years and kept her double life from her friends and family. She didn’t have any of the stereotypes that seem to surround women for their reasons of getting into the sex industry and she certainly didn’t need to be saved from it. Hilary has used her experiences in the industry alongside her research to unpack why we feel so much internal shame when it comes to sex. Dr Hilary Caldwell is an academic with a Masters in Health Science and Applied Science. Her doctorate, ‘Women Who Buy Sex in Australia’ was the first study in the world to explore women buying sexual services and was informed by her professional career in the field of sexology. We chat: Hilary’s reasons for entering the sex work industry and whether they’re the same as everyone who enters the industry Hilary’s experiences entering the industry that oppose preconceived ideas and the things she regrets Why Hilary continued nursing at the same time Why she kept her other work a secret from friends and family What made Hilary want to enter academia and infiltrate the system The different experiences that women have around sex in comparison to men Emotions like jealousy and how poly relationships navigate jealousy Some of the things that sex workers collectively keep secret Why sex workers are fighting for decriminalisation rather than legalisation of their industry You can find more from Hilary at her website And instagram You can find Hilary’s book “Slutdom: Reclaiming shame-free sexuality” You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers, First up, please vote to save Matt in the jungle here! Laura is slightly concerned about Lola's 'spontaneity' if they end up being sent to South Africa to be there for the final of I'm a celeb. She's developed a new way to release her rage 🌙. Britt has asked one of us to be a very important person involved in her wedding, but it's not Laura... Laura knows exactly why she wasn't asked. If you had the option of seeing your friend's wedding dress before their wedding day without their permission, would you take a sneak peak? Be honest! It's valentine's day this week. We're here to celebrate all of the Valentines, the galentines, the palentines and the ... dogentines. Would you rather a 'traditional' valentines gift like flowers, chocolates etc, or something more 'practical'? Do you think it's okay to vent to your friends about your partner? We unpack what Jake said to Ashleigh on MAFS about 'breaking the trust' after she went to speak with one of the other contestants about some of the horrible things he said about other women during the photo ranking challenge. We speak about what makes it okay to vent and what makes it a bit of a betrayal to your partner. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deepest, darkest dilemmas. Did you have a good 'theme' for your hens? We might all be going as the different versions of Britt. There are a few to choose from! We have spoken about Laura's revelation about how chickens reproduce for the past few weeks but today we list the ridiculous things that you didn't learn until far too late. Vibes and unsubscribes for the week: Britt - unsubscribing from fake real estate photos Keeshia - Prof G Markets Podcast Laura - The brand - Kinga Csilla Then we get into your questions! DO I GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE BECAUSE SHE IS? One of my closest friends has a toxic relationship with her toddler's father. He abandoned her around the time of the birth, and for the first year of the child's life. He has a drinking problem, has cheated, has said some really vile things and even got her pregnant again while having another girlfriend on the side. As you can imagine, I've been there for all of this, and stepped in during his absence a lot. I obvs hate his guts. After being away from him for some time and getting her life back together, he has come crawling back, and now they are back on and LIVING together. I physically cannot bring myself to support this, and I feel awful because I have distanced myself entirely for months. Am I being selfish, and should I give him another chance because she is? I haven't told her how I feel but my silence and absence I think would speak volumes - and hers does too. How to handle this? DO I TELL MY HUSBAND MY PAST DATING LIFE INCLUDED WOMEN? My husband and I are happily married with kids. We’ve been together for about 8 years. He’s a pretty open guy generally speaking but we are from a conservative city so I do sometimes hear comments from him and his family to suggest otherwise. I listened to your episode yesterday about talking about your past relationships. My husband has never wanted to hear about my past relationships, nor share much about him. So here’s the thing… My past few years of relationships before we got together were with women (one of which I lived with). I have no issue with my sexuality but the years of not sharing these details with him have made this into a bigger deal in my head and I feel like if he found out now, it would be a bit of a shock to him. So my question is, should I tell my husband I like pussy or leave it? COUSIN’S HUSBAND SAYS HE HAS FEELINGS FOR ME My cousin “Shelly” and her husband “Dean” have been together for 14 years and have 3 kids. Recently, they’ve joked about separation and divorce. My husband and I also have kids and often catch up with them. Over the past few weeks, Dean started messaging me, saying Shelly didn’t want him to talk to me but he needed to tell me something in person. I ignored him at first, thinking it was strange, but he kept insisting. I assumed he’d found out something about my husband as our relationship has also been very rocky. Today, when we caught up, Dean told me he and Shelly were essentially separated but staying together for the kids. He said he’d been unhappy for years but felt happy and comfortable around me, repeatedly complimenting me and saying he likes being around me. It was clear he has feelings for me, so I tried to shut it down, reminding him that he and Shelly have been through a lot and we are family. Should I tell Shelly what happened? I don’t want her to think I’m betraying her or have ill intentions. I feel blindsided and thrown into their drama. Our family can be intense, and if this gets out, it’ll likely cause a huge mess. I don’t want to hurt my cousin. MY FRIEND’S BOYFRIEND FOLLOWS PROBLEMATIC ACCOUNTS My really good friend has this boyfriend who I have been a bit wary about because of some of his political views. He follows some far right, almost conspiracy level accounts that are hectically pro trump, and other dangerous men like Ben Shapiro etc. He also follows a LOT of onlyfans girl’s accounts. Here's where it also gets a little complex- my friend is Asian and has joked about perhaps her (white) boyfriend being with her only because she is Asian and wondering if he has "yellow fever" (a derogatory term for men who like to date Asian women because of the kink of submissive behaviour). All of the women were Asian creators on his follow list. My friend doesn't have instagram so she won’t check to see who he is following. Should I tell her about his instagram account or just stay out of it? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

We’ve said it a hundred times; communication is everything. But we aren’t really ever taught how to actually communicate. What makes someone a good communicator? And why is it so important? People aren’t just born good communicators and it’s something that we can all improve our skills on. Joining the podcast today is Pulitzer prize winning reporter and author Charles Duhigg. Charles’ most recent book titled ‘supercommunicators’ investigated the simple and tested methods for communicating and connecting with anyone. Charles went deep on what exactly makes someone THE person that everyone wants to have conversations with; whether it be in your romantic relationship, at work, with friends and even with strangers. We speak about: How having ‘different types’ conversations with partners is likely why you feel misunderstood or not listened to Becoming ‘neurally entrained’ and using the ‘matching principle’ to be a good communicator How to ask the right questions The communication of conflict and how to avoid it - ‘when you’re feeling furious, get curious.’ Can you ‘learn’ to use communication in a manipulative way EQ, unlike EQ is learned, not born with The difference between true vulnerability and fake vulnerability You can find more from Charles at his website You can follow Charles’ Instagram His book “supercommunicators - How to unlock the secret language of connection’ is available in hardcopy and audiobook on audible and spotify. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! Lola turned 4 and Matt would apparently prefer a mango than... intimate time with Laura. Mangoes are particularly juicy at this time of the year though. Britt has been very busy for the last few weeks working on a secret project that she can finally reveal! We speak about how Ben felt when he first found out, why the show has such a spicy reputation overseas and how she's been going with her partner! Are celebrities 'renting' wombs? Surrogacy is nothing new to the celebrity world but the response to Lily Collin's baby arrival was quite unusual. Comments like: "Surrogacy becoming a trend between celebrities is one of the finest expressions of capitalism," and "You are so rich that you think you can use a woman as an incubator and you can purchase a baby." We unpack whether we feel differently about surrogacy if a surrogate is commissioned for non medical reasons. In a world where women are told they can 'have it all and be it all,' do we have a problem when a woman outsources her pregnancy? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deepest dilemmas! Last week we learned that Laura was in her mid twenties when she realised how chickens procreated. It turns out, she was absolutely not alone! Which voice do you like your robots to have? Are you into the simple factory setting Siri or would you prefer a bit of hot guy ASMR? Vibes for the week: Laura - The Six Triple Eight film on Netflix Britt - The Telepathy Tapes Podcast Keeshia - The Traitors US on 10Play Then we jump into your questions! USED CONDOM I was with my ex for almost 3 years when we had a baby. The baby was 1 and things in our relationship went downhill. We called it off due to my partner needing space. 3 weeks after breaking up we had a chat and agreed that we would see each other again and not see anyone else. I have now found a used condom in the bin. Some background context; he got asked to be a sperm donor by a friend and has said that he masturbated into the condom to save it. Am I wrong in not believing why the condom was used? FAST MOVING RELATIONSHIP AND THEFT I have been seeing a guy for about 6 months. It’s one of those romances that moves quite fast and feels so perfect. I have not had many adult relationships, never felt this loved so it’s all full steam ahead. I’ve had a few comments from friends and family about the speed we are moving but that’s probably expected. We are currently applying for houses so we can live together. He has kids from past relationships that he has a lot of the time. I love kids so no problem here. My question is I have just found out that he has some legal proceedings coming up this year. He used someone else’s bank details to purchase items for himself, so effectively stealing/fraud but he stands by that he was told he could spend the money on himself even though he thought it seemed a bit odd at the time. He will be pleading guilty as his lawyer advised this will be the best outcome for him. I am so conflicted as I have never felt this loved by someone and felt like I was really finally getting my fairy tale ending after watching everyone else get theirs. Is it a bad idea to stand by and support him while he goes through this knowing he has stolen from someone? I can’t even fathom having to try and find someone else at this point as I really want kids of my own in the next few years and it took me 10 years to find someone. WE ELOPED AND MY PARENTS ARE ANGRY My husband and I recently eloped overseas. We made the decision to keep it a surprise and tell everyone at the same time with individual messages to our immediate families and social media informing all other family and friends. Everyone so far has been extremely happy for us and shared that excitement, mainly my husband's family. My parents however have not contacted me since we told them over 2 weeks ago, absolute radio silence. I preempted this reaction from my mum seeing as my MIL was actually on the holiday with us and was able to be at the elopement. I knew this would upset her, however I still hoped she could put aside her personal hurt to still be happy for us. I am angry at my parents for their lack of interest in such a pivotal point in my life and am adamant that I am not the one who needs to reach out at this time. Am I right to leave the ball in their court to reach out? Every day that goes by seriously affects how our relationship looks in the future. Please note my mum is often a selfish person who is always the victim. My dad hurts more though as he appears to have sided with mum in not messaging me even personally. DEALING WITH MY MIL My MIL plays a minimal role in our daughter's life, but recently we have asked her to mind our little one for an hour each week. When the MIL comes over, she is always calling me a ‘mean mum’ to my daughter. For example, we were heading off for a big swim in the river, the furthest I would have ever swam and I had made myself some food which was different to my daughter’s dinner as I have lots of food allergies. Of course my daughter wanted some of mine, but I was trying to encourage her to eat her own food. My mother in law then called me a ‘mean mum’ over and over again. Our daughter is 18 months and will probably begin to understand the animosity here soon. I always play nice and laugh it off. She NEVER does this when my husband is around, so when I tell him about it, as much as he believes me, it makes it tricky to bring up. I have tried saying things like, ‘Hey, that’s not very fair or kind’, but she continues. Any further suggestions? My family lives 4 hours away and I really need that 1 hour break so I can go exercise with my husband and we have time together. Our second baby is on the way and I can’t afford to damage the relationship further. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Toni Lodge is a comedian, the author of ‘I don’t need therapy’ (and other lies I’ve told) and half of the Toni and Ryan podcast! The perfect way to sum up today’s episode is ‘dark humour’. Toni is truly one of the funniest people we’ve ever met and she shares two of the most ‘vulnerable’ accidentally unfiltered stories we’ve ever heard. We speak about Toni’s rise to being one of the most popular podcasters in the country after being told that she wasn’t quite the right fit for the microphone when she was in radio. We speak about the different ways that people reach success in media these days and not having to check the same boxes that people used to. We take a bit of a behind the scenes tour into how podcasting actually works, how it’s monetised, who owns what etc. We speak about: The dynamics of relationships when you work with one of your closest friends Choosing to be child free and finding peace with that decision Grief can look different to what we expect it to Feeling like it was really hard to casually speak about her mum after she passed away Toni wants people to stop saying “sorry” when someone passes away Achieving things after losing a parent and wanting to be able to tell them Handling grief and sad things in general with humour creates a split crowd Writing down your non negotiables - 5 things that you will not leave this life without achieving You can find more from Toni on her Instagram and her podcast You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Ciao Bellas! Britt has some very exciting news! She knows how to order ice cream, wine and ask where the toilet is of her new 'home' and frankly, what more do you need? Matt has done a 'tucker trial' in the jungle and Britt is revisiting her worst memories of the jungle that include spitting a half chewed pig's nipple at Robert Irwin's shoe... Vote to save Matt here! MAFS is back and we unpack the over production and whether you'd give someone a second chance! It brought up some questions about whether people can actually change, whether timing is a factor or whether some people are just manipulative and reality TV literate. We've realised that after so much self development over the course of this podcast, we've still got some lessons to learn. Have you ever heard of something called 'cash for comment'? It's a bit of an industry phrase that we all have to abide by but today we're questioning whether this particular example was worth 'cracking' down on. We discuss some other examples of when it’s happened but there haven’t been repercussions for other media personalities, and whether those situations were actually more shady and manipulative. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers! Laura's past is coming back to haunt Britt and this time it's in the form of 8 legged creatures! Also just a reminder that this is not a national geographic podcast and you should take our animal facts with about a 50% accuracy assumption... Vibes for the week! Britt: Nektech Massager Keeshia: Diddy: the Making of a Bad Boy on Binge Laura: An Update On Our Family Docuseries on Binge Then we jump into your questions! MY TWO HOUSEMATES ARE SLEEPING TOGETHER We recently found out that two of my housemates are sleeping together and I can’t help but be a little pissed off at them. The guy recently had a messy breakup in the first week of our lease where his partner (one of my best friends) had to move out. The house is only just recovering from this. The girl he is sleeping with (our other housemate) has lived with us for two and half months so she was also living with the guy's ex. I’m finding it hard to be nice to them around the house but have been told by my partner for the sake of the house to be pleasant. What should I do? FINGER UP THE BUM This was a hot topic out for dinner with my girlfriends…. if you man sticks his finger up your butt during foreplay/sex what does it mean? Is it for your pleasure? Because he wants the same in return or could it be that he wants to try anal? Or is it just a simple finger in the butt that shouldn’t be questioned? ROOMMATES CATS DAMAGING PROPERTY I live in a shared house with two other girls. One of the girls has adopted two cats that now live with us. The cats are damaging property in the house that belongs to me like countless houseplants and scratching/making pulls in the couch. Am I within my right to ask for financial reimbursement for damages to my property or asking her to replace these items? She doesn’t apologise for the damage or destruction/death of plants and instead blames me. How should I approach this and is it fair to ask for financial reimbursement? BOYFRIEND DOESN'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT EXES Is it ok For your boyfriend of 3 years to not want to talk about his exes ? I feel like for me it’s not a big deal. Your past is your past, which is something you should be able to share with the love of your life: It’s part of who you are and why and how you’ve grown? Why should it matter if you have moved on? Why can’t or doesn’t he want to talk about it? He is 32 and I’m 28? Any suggestions or thoughts? We spoke about the episode with Haven Shepherd that you can watch here! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

New Year, New You is a bit outdated, but in January many of us are looking for ways to improve our lives—whether it’s forming healthier habits, becoming more focused, or simply feeling happier. But how often do we think about how our brain chemistry plays into all this? Today, we’re joined by neuroscientist, international speaker, and author of The DOSE Effect, TJ Power. His work focuses on small, practical habits that can help us regulate our brain's key chemicals: dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins. Today we chat about: How the modern world affects our brain chemistry. Quick fix and crash dopamine - porn, sugar, social media, alcohol. Why we hate being bored and why boredom is good for us. The new 5 minute morning routine that will change the rest of your day. How different types of communication affects oxytocin - texting = 0, calling = some. How porn is affecting our brains and our relationships. Whether we have control over our willpower or not. Kids and entertainment vs boredom You can find more from TJ from his website Find his new book The Dose Effect And instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers!!! We hope you're in the mood for a bit of a chaotic laugh! We are catching up on the highlights and 'vibe' of our summer break. Laura's attempt at spicing up their sex life ended in a hard, terrible way... Britt had an overseas sauna experience that she will not forget anytime soon. Tiktok came back from cancellation quicker than we've ever seen a celebrity recover. Thinking that the app would be closed for business forever, some American tiktokers confessed their lies that helped them go viral! Some were innocent, others were a lot more on the nose. Are we surprised that creators lie in order to go viral? Not at all. But is it questionable when they've financially profited off the back of deceiving people? We speak about Trump's inauguration and how Melania's outfit choice sums up the mood. We also speak about the tech bros that attended and their attempts at rebranding their personal image. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers! WELCOME BACK! We missed you so much! We're kicking off 2025 with our new schedule so Ask Uncut will now be dropping on a Monday morning (Aus time). Britt's year did not get off to the best start and Keeshia is in the naughty (plant) corner. Vibes for the week: Keeshia: Jerry Springer. Fights, Camera, Action on Netflix Laura: Mudbound film on Netflix Britt: I'm Not a Monster - The Shamima Begum Story Then we jump into your questions! NEW BF JUST HAD A BABY WITH PREVIOUS ONE NIGHT STAND I have been seeing a guy for the past 8 months. One of his previous one night stands reached out to him a few months into dating and said that she was pregnant. We decided to continue seeing each other and it was going fairly well. The baby was born a few weeks ago and I am struggling to be positive and supportive. Do you think that it would be best to let a new father sort out his relationship with his baby and baby mum before we focus on a relationship? Or could it happen simultaneously? I THINK I SLEPT WITH MY NEW HINGE MATCH’S BROTHER I have matched with someone on hinge and in my pre-stalking I’ve realised I actually have slept with his younger brother about 8 years ago....do you think it’s a big deal? They are a close family so don’t know whether to just stop talking to him now or keep pursuing and hope he doesn’t care when it comes up eventually? I THINK I HATE MY PARTNER’S CAT I’ve been with my partner for 2 years now. We live together and I know he’s my penguin. However there is just one problem. His cat. Don’t get me wrong I am the BIGGEST animal lover, and I would like to think of myself as quite a patient person, but I have tried for our entire relationship to bond with this cat and while there have been some moments, the majority of it has felt transactional and filled with a lack of unconditional love that you’d get from a dog - which I’ve grown up with. He also constantly meows and often when I try to show love he scratches and bites. It’s actually at the point where I become anxious from the constant meowing. It’s eating well so that’s not the issue, and the cat is 3 years old and well trained. My partner absolutely adores this cat and it’s recently become apparent to him that I don’t quite feel the same. However I am at the point where I actually cannot stand it. Idk what to do? Pls help! FRIEND HAS BEEN LYING ABOUT SOMETHING – IS THIS A BIG DEAL? My best friend of 5 years has just told me that ever since we’ve been friends she’s been lying and that her ‘younger brother’ is actually not her brother. She told me he was her biological brother, he has the same mum but he didn’t speak with their mum and lives with his dad and step mum. This whole time she has referred to him as her brother and even when I have asked about their mum she would say something along the lines of “he prefers to be with his step mum”. She said she told me when she was drunk and just kept the lie going but it got too far to say anything so she never did. He is now apparently just ‘like a brother’. She said now that she is about to get married she doesn’t want me to question it at the wedding and thought it was time to fess up. I don’t know how to feel. It doesn’t feel that deep but at the same time, I’ve been lied to by my best friend for 5 years so it feels quite icky and a bit weird. So my question is, should I be mad/upset about this or is it not that deep? In the past I feel like she does tend to lie a bit as I have caught her out before about something else. Keen to hear what you girls think! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers!! Merry Christmas you wonderful things! Can we start by saying that if you’re able to watch this on youtube instead, we highly recommend it because we have videos of the entire year and you’ll witness about 17 different hair styles from Britt in 2024 alone! Laura really wanted us to sing some Christmas carols and she…kinda got her way. We might have discovered one of the weird audio duality sounds where ‘pumpkin pie’ can sound like something else! Here are some of our favourite bits from the year, and you can listen to the whole episodes by clicking on the links! Funny bits Britt eating someone else’s calamari Laura checking a nappy like a dipstick Britt’s wedding dress code Laura welfare check Britt’s Engagement Surprise Britt and Ben share their engagement details Interviews Elizabeth Gilbert Tones and I Angela White Ask Uncut Does your partner greet you at the end of the day? Is it okay to wank at work? She Cheated With Her Second Cousin We hope you have the BEST Christmas imaginable. We love and appreciate you! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey lifers! We are coming to you cross continental! Britt is in Romania and has met her brand new niece! We get some updates on how her reunion has been and whether meeting her dream, unicorn niece has shifted the needle on her decision around having a baby herself. Laura confesses to rage baiting us all and she's high on the power. Will her house end up looking like Dr Seuss? Most likely! Vibes for the week: Laura: All in the mind. The design tricks brands use to get you to buy Keeshia: Search Engine - What if ayahuasca made you stop podcasting? Britt: Just Married. The Anthea Bradshaw Mystery Then we jump into your questions! HUSBAND DOESN'T LIKE ME WEARING G STRINGS Been together 12 years (since I was 17), married with 3 young kids. When I was younger, I never wore g-strings and thought they were uncomfortable. Fast forward to my late 20s, and in the past year I've started wearing them to the gym for comfort and more of a seamless style. My husband does not like this. He thinks I'm disrespecting his boundaries and that I'm not being a good wife because I'm 'parading' myself by wearing that kind of underwear with shorts/leggings running or to gym, while he is working hard to provide for our family. I think the request to control the type of underwear I wear is over the top, and it was a decision I made for my own comfort and not to parade to others. I don't want to disrespect him or his boundaries though. What should I do? SHOULD I BE OFFENDED THAT I WASN’T ASKED TO GO TO THE CHRISTMAS PARTY? My partner works in a professional job and is employed by the government. I’ve met only a few of his colleagues. For their work Christmas party, they were just going out for dinner to a restaurant that is about an hour away from where we actually live (it’s 20 minutes from their workplace). He initially said that he wasn’t sure if he was going to go but his colleague had said that he should. I asked if partners were also invited and his response was ‘yes’. I was a bit taken back because he did not ask me if I wanted to go. When I mentioned this he responded “well you wouldn’t want to go to that surely?” It’s true; it’s not my idea of a good time but I’m feeling upset that I wasn’t actually asked. Is it normal to not ask your partner to go to a Christmas party when there is the option for partners to be included? HUSBAND ISN'T HELPING WITH HOSTING CHRISTMAS FUNCTION Each year, my cousin, her husband and my husband do Christmas dinner. We plan it in January as December is hectic and we plant it a year out. This year my husband and I are hosting. The problem is that my husband has just been invited to a work mate’s bucks party and it falls on the same day as our Christmas tradition night. He has said yes to going to the bucks for bottomless lunch, but here I am having to clean, prepare the food, decorate and get everything sorted all on my own. On top of this, the day before is my husband’s work Christmas function. So I’m fully on my own riding this beast. I’m annoyed that I’ve been lumped with all of the responsibilities. What can I actually do about this? Do I just ‘suck it up’ and try to not allow the dates for next time to clash so much or do I cancel our Christmas dinner? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

We’re all aware of the societal pressures and expectations put on us to have achieved certain things by the time we reach certain ages, but what about the questions we ask ourselves when a new decade looms? Whether you have or haven’t ticked off the traditional expectations of buying a house, getting married and starting a family, it seems as though we are all collectively asking ourselves more questions about who we are and what we want to be as we reach our 30s. Joining the podcast today is Bridget Hustwaite. Bridget is a presenter, an author, a podcaster and a content creator. Going into 30, Bridget looked as though she had it all figured out: she was well established in her career, she was in a 5 year long relationship with aspirations to settle down, she was financially independent and had found purpose in her advocacy for endometriosis. And then shit hit the fan and the expectations of what Bridget thought her future would look like crumbled. Bridget has a brand new book coming out called “figuring out 30” and chats with us about all of the unexpected lessons we learn when we question who we really are and what we are led to believe we ‘should’ want. We speak about: The strange internal feelings we can get around milestones Going through a significant break up just before reaching 30 We all fear ‘starting over’. Is this the best it’s going to get? Family dynamics and estrangement and how it shaped her understanding of herself The way people react when they find out that you aren’t in contact with your own family members vs how common it actually is Maternal desire. Figuring out the kid equation in your 30s How Bridget’s endometriosis affects fertility Can you be a feminist and support marriage? What modern marriage means What it’s like reentering the dating world in your 30s You can find more from Bridget Hustwaite on instagram You can pre order Bridget’s new book “Figuring Out 30” here!! Bridget previously joined the pod for an episode about endometriosis You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! It's Laura and Keeshia today for the last Tuesday episode of the year (or maybe ever...)! Britt is over in Romania visiting Ben but she'll be back on Thursday for Ask Uncut. Christmas is really freaking soon and Laura is banking on the local RSL meat raffle to make up for her disorganised state! Laura and the family had a blast at the carols and met her new girl crush Emma Memma. If you’re an iPhone person, do you stick to even or odd numbered iPhones or are you just updating it whenever you feel you need? We have some big changes coming to next year! We speak through the results of our last survey and how we are mixing things up next year! There's a documentary that is going viral on youtube at the moment titled "I Slept With 100 Men In One Day". It follows Onlyfans star Lily Phillips and the aftermath of Lily's challenge where she is quite distraught after completing the challenge. We speak about the complexity of these types of conversations when so much has been done to shift the narrative of sex work and highlight how platforms like onlyfans can be empowering, when the reality of this situation blurs those lines. We ask: Why is it that this documentary made us feel uncomfortable? Whether the stunts continue to become more and more outrageous to keep attention and subscribers? If the concern for her wellbeing is faux care/ shame dressed up in a different costume? You can watch us on Youtube If you have an ask uncut question or an accidentally unfiltered, send it to us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Have you ever wondered what life would be like living with not one but two partners? Joining the podcast today are the wonderful Alana, Kevin and Megan who are a throuple! Kevin and Alana were in a relationship for 3 years when Alana expressed that she was bi curious and had thought about experimenting with a woman. They met Megan on a dating app skewed towards non monogamy. Fast forward a few months and the three of them were in love and started their journey as a throuple! There’s so much curiosity around how relationships that don’t follow the traditional dynamics work and often a fear of the unknown or the unfamiliar. We spoke about: How other people in their life reacted to their relationship after they had kept it a secret for a year How their relationship is often over sexualised and viewed as a ‘kink’ How Megan adjusted to coming into an established relationship Navigating insecurities, communication, inside jokes and conflict Their unusual sleeping arrangement Finding out that some of their friends and family had been in polyamorous relationships in secret for a long time! Their advice for people interested in exploring being polyamorous You can find everything from Camp Throuple here! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey guys! This time of the year feels like chaos and most of us are crawling to the finish line but today's episode matches the chaotic vibes! We chat: Hair loss, transplants and visiting Türkiye Alternative therapies using placentas What's in store for Christmas & Christmas traditions Having very 'curious' 5 year old asking about Santa Your best talent quest memories There's an Aussie comedian named Steph Broadbridge who created a musical parody 'Raygun the Musical' and was going to launch the show over the weekend. However, Steph was forced to cancel the show after Raygun's lawyers sent a cease and desist letter saying that Raygun owned the dance moves and that they were committed to protecting her intellectual property and ensuring that her brand remained strong and respected. There are a lot of opinions online (and within our team) about who is in the right and the wrong in this scenario. We speak about the optics, owning your brand, being tired of being mocked and cultural appropriation. You can watch us on Youtube If you have an ask uncut question or an accidentally unfiltered, send it to us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers, Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions with our best but technically unqualified advice. Britt is nudging for an honorary doctorate! Laura can have orgasms in her sleep. We're aware that this is likely a unicorn and very fortunate skill but have you ever had one in your sleep? Britt has an unfortunate injury and somehow zooper doopers have entered the chat. Vibes for the week: Keeshia The Later Daters on Netflix Britt Meet Cutes NYC Instagram Laura Pink Santa by Tanya Hennessy Then we jump into your questions! BUY XMAS GIFT FOR NEW BOYFRIEND OR TOO SOON? I’ve been dating this guy for about 9 weeks now, it’s going great, amazing communication, sex etc etc. From the get go we’ve been straight about not dating anyone else, pausing the apps etc. With Christmas coming up, I’m wondering do you think it would be too full on to get him a small gift? It will have been ~3 months of dating by then, he’s really easy to buy for and I know what I’d get him but also am aware of him being spooked in the past when he hasn’t felt 100% sure. He’s said numerous times how much he’s enjoying this and wanting to continue seeing me and see where things go. I’m worried if I get him a Christmas gift he might freak out? I don’t expect one in return but have seen a few small things I know he’d love. Too much too soon? Or okay? IS IT NORMAL FOR BF TO SAY HE WOULD SLEEP WITH FRIENDS IF SINGLE? My boyfriend has been talking to a girl who he met online. He said she is only a friend but he would sleep with her if he was single. He tried to justify this by saying he would sleep with any of his friends if he was single and they wanted to as it is just sex. He said that all men think like this. My question is… is this true that all men think like this and he is just being honest, or is it a strange comment? KEEPING PHOTO ALBUM OF EX My fiancé recently got some of his old belongings from his parent’s home as they’re currently going through a move. In the items was a photo album of him and his long term ex who we happen to have had issues over in the past. I found the photo album hidden in a wardrobe after he told me “yuck, they can go in the bin”. My question is, do you think keeping photos of an ex is a red flag and why do you think he’d want to keep them? SIBLING WANTS TO USE SAME MIDDLE NAME AS MY KID So I had my baby in May and he’s the first grandchild of the family. His middle name is my dad’s first name. My brother‘s wife is having a baby in January and he told me he wants to give their baby the same middle name - after my dad. Thoughts? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

What if everything you think you know about addiction is wrong? Johann Hari's personal journey into the heart of the war on drugs led him to ask this question and to write the book that gave rise to his viral TED talk, viewed more than 62 million times. Johann Hari is a best selling author of many books like Chasing the Scream, the War on Drugs, Lost Connections, Stolen Focus, and Magic Pill - The extraordinary benefits and disturbing risks of new weight loss drugs.” We previously released an episode with Kate DeAraugo about her personal experiences with addiction and today we wanted to look at addiction a bit more broadly and unpack how it comes about and why so many of our loved ones are battling with addiction or substance abuse issues. We spoke about: The difficult narrative of loving an addict and not knowing what to do to help The story of what causes addiction isn’t accurate Why blaming it all on biology isn’t helpful, nor is blaming it all on personal choices Policies based on shame and punishment make addiction worse How much control we actually have over our own willpower People with ‘addictive’ personalities The money-happiness trap; the hedonic effect You can find all of Johann’s books and further information at his website. You can follow Johann on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey lifers! Did you ever compete in the school talent competition? Britt and Laura share the talents that they were proud enough to share with their friends and family. They were subsequently mocked for them! Have you ever accidentally posted something to social media that was meant for close friends or a group chat? British actress Betsy Blue English 'called out' Tammy Hembrow for copying her wedding cake; except she didn't mean to call her out, she meant to share it on her close friends story! We read out some of the funniest accidents that you have caused yourself. A few days ago, Tones and I shared a heartbreaking post with a caption explaining that she had suffered a miscarriage during the rehearsal of her recent Melbourne show. Tones went on to perform the following night, with very few people knowing the pain and the loss that she was experiencing. Today we have a chat about miscarriage and discuss: The pressure women may feel to 'get back to it' and act as though nothing has happened. Laura's experiences of having multiple miscarriages. The feelings of loneliness that miscarriage can force you into feeling. Tones bravely sharing this to reduce the shame, guilt and stigma women feel around pregnancy loss. Whether we should re think 'not telling anyone' until 12 weeks of pregnancy. You can watch our whole chat with Tones and I on Youtube You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers! Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. There's a woman who found out her partner was cheating on her, so she took the urn that had his grandmother's ashes in it! Is this the ultimate bargaining tool or kind of cruel? We then asked you for some of the funny things you've taken during a break up. Vibes for the week: Keeshia Simple Interval Training app Laura Mco Beauty Instant Contour Cream Bronzer Britt Buy Now! The Shopping Conspiracy on Netflix Then we jump into your questions! PARENTS GAVE MORE MONEY TO MY SIBLING A couple of years ago, my sibling got married and my parents gave them a substantial monetary gift for their wedding (I got a 1/3 of the amount for my wedding the year before, but was still so grateful for anything). A few months after their wedding, they wanted to buy a house and were loaned the entire deposit from my parents to pay back. A couple of years on, they have not paid a cent back and my parents haven’t asked for it either. I have received approximately 50k less than them over the past 3 years and now that there’s been no repayments or discussions about this, I’m starting to become bitter. They seem to be living a comfortable life and can certainly afford to do more than my parents can. I’m frustrated at both my sibling and parents but don’t want this to seem like I am only chasing money- I want there to be accountability. How would you handle this with your family members? GETTING FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE ELSE WHILST ENGAGED I am in a relationship of almost 9 years and we are engaged. He is the most amazing person ever and ticks all the boxes but the sexual attraction and lust has left for me. I’m starting to have feelings for someone else which is controlling a lot of my emotions at the moment and it’s clouding my judgement!! My fiance and I have just bought a house and have a 11 month old puppy. His parents have gone guarantors for our place too. I feel like I’m stuck in a rock and a hard place with which way to go about it. Do I stay with my current fiance because he is the sweetest guy who would do anything for me or follow my head and heart and take a chance on this other person or even just try it out being single for a while? I’m in my late 20s and just scared I might be stuck in the mentality that I have a lot to lose but also might not be in love anymore. HOW TO RECONNECT AFTER HAVING A BABY I am a first time mum, our baby is now 10 months old. I have been really struggling with connecting to my partner in the last 6 months or so. He's a great dad and I love seeing him with our son but it feels like we've just lost the spark. I don't feel special or 'wanted' anymore. It doesn't help that he injured himself pretty badly in July and hasn't been able to carry his weight around the house - this has left me doing all the cooking, cleaning, bath and bed with the baby, etc. We live in a small rural town away from family so I don't have any help around the house as well, which adds another layer of stress. Months ago Laura mentioned something about just 'getting through those early years' when you have a baby in terms of staying with your partner. She said it gets a lot better once babies grow up a bit. I would love to hear more about this and I suppose my question is, how can I try to reconnect with my partner

We initially got to know Kate DeAraugo in 2005 when she won the crown of Australian Idol! She was just 18 years old. But her post Idol journey was anything but a fairytale; it spiralled into addiction and legal troubles. In 2017, Kate was convicted of drug possession, drug driving and weapons possession. This conversation with Kate is a deeply honest recount of what it can be like when you live with addiction. Kate has what a lot of us would describe as an addictive personality, someone who took everything to the extreme. She says that when she drank, she drank too much. When she ate, she ate too much. When she loved, she loved too much. These behaviours took Kate to some fairly dark places. Kate shares: After winning Idol, the only thing anyone spoke about was her body Record labels saying she needed to lose weight and having full body liposuction at age 19 The narrative of addicts being from ‘broken homes’ isn’t realistic What led her to seeking out drugs in the first place and how that spiralled into more heavy substance abuse The toll it took on her family How families can help support an addict & what her family learnt that ‘worked’ How addicts think and what happens inside their minds Addiction is a lifelong condition, but sobriety is a responsibility You can find more from Kate at her website You can listen to Kate’s podcast Why Do I Feel This Way 

Hey Lifers! We had the Australian podcast awards but the real take away in the media is how unhinged Laura is and that she (and I quote) "leaves fans questioning her lifestyle habits". Britt is having a bit of a mid wedding planning crisis. Actually a big mid wedding crisis. If you've planned a wedding, did you chop and change your mind on things like your dress in the lead up to your wedding? We discuss the paradox of choice and decision fatigue. It's sledging season! A new term for how people are strung along over the Christmas/New Years period, delaying a break-up or continuing dating someone they know they're not interested in. We chat about when "is" the right time to end a relationship around this time and the reasons why so many couples break up around this time of the year. New Year, New Relationship!

Laura has had to go on a 'fishing' expedition in the grossest of places all thanks to Lola! Has your kid ever 'dropped' something valuable in a place that they shouldn't have? Britt tried to replace the shrine but failed epically and has had to employ a man who woke up in our friend's bed to fix the problem! Vibes for the week: Britt - Picking up a new hobby. Basketball Laura - India Oxenberg's book 'Still Learning' Keeshia - By Maay Brooklyn work bag Then we get into your questions! DO I START SLEEPING WITH STRANGERS OR JUST HAVE NO SEX LIFE THANKS TO MY PARTNER? MY HUSBAND GAVE ME MONEY AS A BDAY PRESENT DO I GIVE HIM ANOTHER GO AFTER HE DUMPED ME FOR ANOTHER GIRL?

Ever feel as though you’re not quite able to ‘do it all?’ During the past 2 decades, there has been a huge push into the world of ‘hustle culture.’ So many of us feel like we are constant hot messes, rushing around to try and get a million things in our day done. Joining the podcast today is Israa Nasir, New York based psychotherapist and author of the new book “Toxic Productivity.” Israa is here today to help us let go of the belief that our value is defined by how busy and successful we feel. Israa speaks about this as someone who currently has skin in the game, not from a place of hindsight. We are all having to manage this idea of toxic productivity now! We chat: Productivity no longer just applies to work. It’s infiltrated our romantic relationships, friendships, parenting and personal health Productivity guilt; the guilty feeling when we ‘relax’ The need for external validation can look like people pleasing or a workaholic Chaotic state of a dysregulated nervous system becoming familiar e.g. ”I do my best work under pressure.” “I thrive in chaos.” Dynamics that keep us constantly busy, but never satisfied such as; self-worth, shame, social comparison, burnout, and perfectionism Cultivating a healthier perspective on achievement to understand, manage, and shift our intense emotions 

It's officially Britt's bangiversary! She's tried to dupe Ben into a fancy gift but Ben's aware of her antics. We speak about the advice we got from our grandmothers. Some of it hasn't aged particularly well. We might have found the world's most conflict avoidant man; the man who *likely has faked his own death to ditch his family and go to a woman in Europe. There was a video filmed back in June (two months before Ryan Borgwardt's disappearance). It shows a man on a bike asking if he should go to Uzbekistan to meet a woman, despite being married. After the video went viral, authorities say that the video isn't Ryan. Also, how do you like your labia? We've spoken about symmetry, length and comfort when it comes to labia but labia puffing seems new. We ask: Is our generation more obsessed than ever with labia? Do you think this trend highlights empowerment or unnecessary pressure for perfection?

Hey Lifers! Britt has had an extremely embarrassing moment at the hairdresser. We would want the ground to swallow us whole. Has your dog ever caused you to be in the most embarrassing moment of your life? Laura is having a bit of trouble getting Lola to give up something that she loves. Lola is in negotiations and Laura is struggling to reach a mutually agreed upon solution! Vibes for the week: Britt: Martha on Netflix Laura: Marigold’s Magic Stars book by Samantha Wills Keeshia: RecipeTin Eats Tonight Cookbook Then we get into your questions! I CAN'T SLEEP WHEN WE ARE IN THE SAME BED BOYFRIEND SUPPORTS TRUMP HOLDING IN MY GAS AROUND HIM

Do you have a ‘type’? No, not a physical type. What do the people you’ve been in relationships all have in common? It’s time for us to fully unpack why we tend to go for the same types of people over and over again, and how to break the cycle. Sabrina Zohar is a relationship expert, entrepreneur and podcast host. Sabrina breaks down a lot of the ‘therapy terms’ and neuroscience to focus on doing the internal work and recognising patterns to chase the right kinds of connections and build healthy relationships. She’s known for her no bullshit relationship advice and telling you what you need to hear, rather than what you want to hear! We chat: Identifying the patterns and taking accountability for what we are doing to contribute to them Bullshit blueprint - the core beliefs and things that were ingrained as you as a kid Becoming better ‘buyers’ in the dating world Can you trust ‘the spark?’ Looking at ‘what is’ rather than ‘what if’

Hey lifers! Laura and Matt both forgot their 2nd wedding anniversary. Do you celebrate each year?Are you the person who remembers 'dates'? We're talking anniversaries, birthdays, 'firsts' etc. How about your partner? What happens if one of you is a date celebrator and the other isn't? Britt has picked her wedding dress and Laura wants to see it! Did you share your wedding dress with your friends before your actual wedding day? The government has announced proposed legislation to be introduced to parliament that would ban kids under 16 from using social media, even if they have parental consent. Initially we thought this was great. But once we scratched the surface we realised that maybe it wasn't as good as it initially appeared. We speak about the pros and cons of implementing age restrictions on social media, whether it's a bit of a performative action, how it would be implemented and if there are alternative ways to protect kids online. Britt got to enjoy Coldplay and Laura got to enjoy Chris Martin walk solo down Bondi beach looking very, very 'cool'!

Hey lifers and welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! First question of the day is who is your 'hear me out' character (which fictional character are you attracted to)? Laura revealed her attraction to Barney the dinosaur by accident the other day and Britt is quite the fan of the ninja turtle Leonardo who would be in their 40s/50s now... Keeshia has a question about tipping etiquette; how do you feel when the tip is automatically applied when it comes to pay and if you don't want to tip, you're expected to select to remove it? Then we answer your questions! HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO USE OUR EMBRYOS CHRISTMAS WITH PARTNER’S FAMILY THE SEX ISN'T GOOD. HOW DO I NAVIGATE THIS?

Elizabeth Gilbert is one of the most brilliant authors of our time. She authored ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ which sold over 12 million copies and was then turned into a movie starring Julia Roberts. She’s also written books like ‘Committed’, ‘Big Magic’ and ‘City of Girls’. Elizabeth shares so many teachings around vulnerability, connectedness, living a life that is led by love, and now how to become ‘a relaxed woman, pushing back on the expectations of what society wants from you’. Today we spoke about: Being an award winning writer who wrote about men and was sympathetic to the male experience, until she wrote the number 1 ‘chick-lit’ book of our time. Funnily enough, the award nominations dried up. The shared experience of having everything that we are meant to ‘want’ and feeling so deeply unhappy. How Liz used to drain herself by giving her everything to relationships, and how free she now feels being emotionally autonomous The facts about how marriage affects women: married women don’t live as long as single women, they’re more likely to report being depressed and anxious, they are more likely to have autoimmune conditions, more likely to be addicted to substances etc. How all of our lives could be titled ‘not exactly what I had in mind’ The complexity of falling in love with someone knowing it will hurt other people that you care about Learning about loss through grief

Britt and Keeshia have spent the entire weekend together and they're the friends that ask you if you can come to Africa tomorrow. Laura shared a story about some of the early days of Marlie's life that aren't quite her best moments! Laura would love to know how many times your kid accidentally rolled off the bed? We unpack the goss from the Wicked premiere! We were interested in how they would approach the PR of the film given the reputational damage that Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater suffered after having a rumoured 'affair.' We wondered whether they would take a 'Don't Worry Darling" approach (Harry Styles and Olivia Wilde) where they kept space from each other in public, or if they would lean in to their romance! There was one line in the movie that we are shocked they kept in! Plus, what would bring you to 'loyalty test' your partner? We speak about the 'how' and the 'why' you may get to a place where you consider conducting a loyalty test. Is the entrapment just as bad as the potential cheating?

Hey Lifers! Happy Halloween!! Some of our team are more into it than others and you can come to us for all your budget, last minute Halloween costume needs! Are you a Halloween person? Laura's kids are super excited and have been counting down the days, while Britt has outed herself as a bit of a grinch. Vibes for the week: Keeshia - A Man Called Otto film (on apple TV) Laura - Jailbreak. Love on the Run on Netflix Britt - Dessert Little Moons Mochi Balls Then we get into your questions! DO I TELL HIM ABOUT MY PAST AS A SEX WORKER? MY BOYFRIEND IS MOVING IN WITH A WOMAN CAUGHT BROTHER CHEATING

Haven Shepherd was born in Vietnam. When she was 16 months old, her biological parents, who had had an affair, detonated a bomb that was intended to be a family suicide. It instantly killed her biological parents but Haven survived. Haven was thrown 10 metres from the family hut and driven for 2 hours on a motorbike to the local hospital where they amputated both of her legs. She hasn’t had surgery since! 4 months later, she was adopted into an American family and gained 6 siblings! Haven is now an elite paralympic athlete who competed at Tokyo 2020. She also happens to be a laugh and a half with some of the most outrageous ‘double decker’ date stories we’ve ever heard! In the chat we speak about: What Haven remembers about her early years Whether she holds resent for her biological parents How strangers ask inappropriate questions about how Haven lost her legs How Haven’s parents initially weren’t going to be her parents and the serendipitous way they found each other Why swimming was the best option for her How parents should teach their kids about disability You can find more from Haven's Instagram! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers! Britt has potentially found a new life... as a trad wife! Either that or she's going off grid more often. Laura has had a bit of a mishap spreading her beautiful grandparent's ashes. How do you feel about sharing your kids online? Where is the line when it comes to kids being paid to create online content? You might remember the horrible story of the mum, Ruby Franke, who was charged with 4 counts of child abuse earlier this year. There is a brand new film called 'Mormon Mom Gone Wrong' that came out on Oct 26 that details the story of the Franke family and their youtube account that had 2 million subscribers. Shari Franke is now 21 years old and has shared her testimony in court about her experiences of abuse and family vlogging. She states that there is no such thing as a moral and ethical family vlogger. We unpack these questions: Should children have a say in family vlogging content? What are the ethical implications of involving kids in content? Can you get informed consent from kids? How should kids be ‘compensated’ if they are making content that makes money? Does it matter if they make money? Does it change when it becomes a significant income source? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! There is a lot of weird news in the world today... mostly the guy who chose to put 15 hard boiled eggs in his backside. Britt's partner Ben has had a hair makeover. Did you 'plan' your hair look for your wedding in terms of colour/length etc? Did you opt for something that was your 'look' rather than going for a short term hair change? Vibes for the week: Keeshia: Sweet Bobby on Netflix Britt: Instax camera Laura: Fallen Angel Podcast Then we jump into your questions! DID WE DO THE RIGHT THING BY THE DRUNK HEN? I DON'T LIKE THEM CALLING HER GRANDMA CAN I TELL HIM TO NOT GO?

Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert. She is the author of ‘Boundary Boss’ and ‘Too Much’. This is the third time Terri has joined us on the podcast! The first time was to speak about cheating, the second was to speak about boundaries and today Terri is joining us to unpack codependence! But, not the standard idea of what codependency is. Today we speak about what Terri refers to as ‘high functioning codependence’ and how we are able to recognise when we are doing ‘too much’ for other people, and need to prioritise ourselves more. Spoiler, none of us identified as being codependent… until we learnt what high functioning codependency looked like and the alarm bells RANG! We speak about: High functioning codependency isn’t what we typically think of a a ‘codependent person’ They’re highly capable, the person everyone depends on, the problem solver, the ‘fixer’ Resentment inventories! We all need to identify where we are ‘over giving’ and ‘over functioning’ Being hyper independent, “I got it” and not wanting to ask for help or owing other people anything How it all contributes to burnout and cognitive overload Do you identify with any of these labels? They might be new to you! -approval seeking, -auto fixing/auto accommodator -self sacrificing -hyper helping

Laura has had a weekend away with the friends that she hunted down on Linked in (it's hard to make friends as adults right??). Something that happened on the weekend raised the question for her of when to intervene to protect your kids from something vs when to let them work it out for themselves and build resilience. We're curious to know what you would have done in this situation. Is a more inclusive rebrand enough to save Victoria's Secret? Last week we saw the first Victoria's Secret runway show since 2019. They've tried to be more inclusive with different body shapes and sizes. We speak about the past controversies that Victoria's Secret has been involved in and how the messaging of the company was so problematic. Should companies with a history of exclusion or problematic practices be given the opportunity to evolve and change, or is it too late for brands like Victoria’s Secret? Plus we speak about the friends of Dave Grohl's wife Jordyn Blum threatening to end their friendship if she goes back to him after he has fathered a kid outside of their marriage. Have you ever had to cut off a friend because you were so sick of seeing them go back to a problematic partner? Have you ever felt really exhausted from being the emotional support to a friend, kind of playing therapist, when they seemed to never take advice on board?

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions. Laura has endured one of the most awkward experiences we could imagine. It involves a naked French man on a stage, a crowd and tears in the front row. Then we jump into your questions! MY PARTNER DOESN'T WANT TO WEAR CONDOMS BUT I DON'T WANT TO BE ON CONTRACEPTION HOW MANY DATES BEFORE I HAVE TO MAKE A CHOICE? DO I INVITE MY DAD'S GIRLFRIEND WHO HE CHEATED ON MY MUM WITH? HE'S GOING TO PROPOSE ON HER BIRTHDAY

Today’s episode is all about migraines, a debilitating condition that affects millions of people worldwide, including our very own Britt. Britt has struggled with migraines her entire life. We’re joined by Dr. Kaitlyn Parratt, a neurologist who specialises in headache disorders and epilepsy. We speak about: Why women experience migraines more than men Periods of our lives when you might experience them more How hormones and other triggers affect migraines The genetic component of migraines The physical and psychological toll they take Treatment options, first and second line therapies The process of qualifying for migraine ‘botox’ Chicken or the egg? Anxiety, OCD, depression and migraines Do orgasms help relieve migraine pain?

Britt and Laura won a big, fancy radio award for best podcast hosts!! Laura is finishing off sailing the high seas on her first cruise so producer Keeshia is filling in for her today. Both her and Britt have unexpected and uncalled for hangovers from the awards night. Britt's whole family think Keeshia is a huge creep! Last week we spoke about Monica and Stephen on Love Is Blind and Stephen’s use of ‘therapy speak’ in the pods to make him seem more emotionally intelligent and in tune. More episodes have been released and... it's not good for Monica and Stephen. But, something happened when they were 'breaking up' and it had us questioning whether you should or shouldn't ask an ex to pay you back for any money they may owe you. Have you asked for someone to pay you after you've broken up? What was the amount? Two shows are currently trending about the Menendez brothers on Netflix. One is a documentary that involved the brothers who are currently in prison serving consecutive life sentences for the murder of their parents. The other is a dramatised TV series based on 10 different perspectives and directed by Ryan Murphy. Ryan Murphy is known for his controversial true crime dramas like Dahmer - Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story, the People vs. O.J. Simpson, and The Assassination of Gianni Versace.` We discuss: Whether it’s ethical to create a series that includes traumatic events without consulting with the people most affected by it, Whether sensationalising true crime stories has gone too far, How the public perception of victims of abuse has evolved, and The power of social media in turning attention to these stories.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions! Britt's sister Sheri has had her juice go missing from her fridge and the culprit is not a character that you'd suspect!! Have you had a tradie do something that they weren't supposed to at your house? WHEN IS IT APPROPRIATE TO MEET UP WITH MALE COLLEAGUES? DO I GIVE THE FAMILY SOME MONEY OR RESPECT MY GRANDMA'S WISHES? CAN I GET A 4 YR OLD MAKEUP FOR CHRISTMAS?

There is a lot of discussion around women's empowerment in general, but women's leadership in particular is a topic that we are still defining and understanding. We’ve spoken before about gender pay gaps, glass ceilings, sticky floors, opportunity cost and the expectations on women to ‘do it all’ before. Megan Dalla-Camina is a three time best selling author and award winning women’s leadership and gender diversity expert. She is also the founder and CEO of the fastest growing women's ed-tech platform ‘Women rising’. Today’s chat is about understanding the reasons behind why ⅘ women feel as though they are not thriving at work and the little voice in our head tells us we just aren’t doing a good enough job. Megan calls this the archetypes of the inner critic: The perfectionist The beauty queen The sceptic The imposter The people pleaser The outsider The comparer The good girl The overachiever The self doubter The chameleon The empath The ideal mother We also speak about: What mini burnout looks like and how you feel when the mini burnouts happen one after the other Motherhood paradox of the expectation to work like they don’t have children but raise kids as though they don’t have work responsibilities People pleasing, trying to be an agreeable, easy to work with person and how that leads to you not getting what you deserve at work How we can utilise this information to help us feel more comfortable in finding what is going to be ‘success’ to us and make us genuinely happy Feminine vs masculine ‘traits’ in leadership

Britt looks like Dwayne 'The Rock' Johnson today, but the dress code for her wedding has caused an unintentional stir. The Europeans think she's a bit of a creep! Last week Laura told us how much she loved the reptiles at the reptile park and in a relatively ironic turn of events, she might have 15 of her own coming to her new home! A few days ago, Love Is Blind US (Netflix) released season 7 of the show. There was a particular moment where one of the contestants, Stephen admits to Monica that he has emotionally cheated in the past. He then went on to say “we went through therapy. We worked it out” and “I’m actively in therapy to talk about these things.” We spoke about how speaking about therapy in the dating landscape can be great, but it can also be used as a tactic to manipulate their date into thinking they're more emotionally intelligent than they are! Many women now say they prefer to date men who’ve been to therapy. Do men now use therapy as a badge of emotional depth? We also spoke about "therapy-speak" and the overuse of certain labels or phrases like triggering, trauma, narcissist, gaslighting and sociopath. Do you think the overuse of these terms dilutes the experiences of people who have endured genuine abuse or trauma? We also spoke about how we can spot when therapy-speak is being used manipulatively versus when it reflects genuine emotional growth. 

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions! We're all a little scattered today driving past turn offs and forgetting entire road trips! Then we jump into your questions! SHOULD 'FAMILY PLANNING' BE ASKED BY MY BOSS? WORKPLACE GIFTS HOW DO I GET THIS GUY OUT OF MY DMs AND INTO A REAL DATE? DO I INVITE MY EX BEST FRIEND TO MY WEDDING?

Michelle Bridges is a fitness icon, TV personality, and bestselling author of 17 books! Recently, she developed a new program specifically for women navigating menopause, combining her personal experience with her expertise in fitness to help women stay strong and healthy during this life stage. We previously released an episode on perimenopause and menopause with Dr Louise Newson that you can listen to here Dr Newson gives us a really important medical insight into the changes that can happen during this time, and we wanted to extend this conversation and speak with Michelle about her lived experience and some of the lifestyle factors that can impact this time of women’s lives. In this episode we speak about: The lesser known symptoms that Michelle experienced during perimenopause The steps Michelle took to work out what was going on in her body The importance of finding a GP who specialises in women’s health Being offered antidepressants when Michelle didn’t identify with being depressed Feeling really empowered during this stage of life How exercise, nutrition and supplementation can impact menopause

Laura went to the reptile park and had a brilliant time. She's also planted a new fear in a friend's child by accident. Are there activities that you feel like you can't do unless you have kids with you? Do you think you can recycle and reuse nudes? Do they have an expiry? Does it matter if they're taken while during the current relationship? Britt and Ben are on different sides of the fence for this one! We break down the new 'dating terminology' coming to 2025. Are you meant to say anything to a woman who is pregnant? There is currently a huge amount of commentary about Margot Robbie's pregnant body. But, is this type of commentary only for celebrities and pap pics or do most women receive comments on their body when they're pregnant? We speak about how some comments are received in a different way to what they may be intended and how inappropriate some of the common types of comments are. We also spoke about Kate Winslet being labelled as 'brave' for being okay with her 'belly rolls' being on display during a topless scene in a new film that she stars in. 

Have you ever developed an allergy later in life? Laura may have developed a new one and it's impacting every aspect of her life and every pore in her body! Then we jump into the questions: IS IT BETTER TO TURN A BLIND EYE? HOW TO CHOOSE WEDDING LOCATION WHEN FAMILY ON OPPOSITE SIDES OF AUS DO I TELL HER THAT HER HUSBAND IS CHEATING?

Dr. Louise Newson is a leading expert in the field of menopause and perimenopause. She's a GP, menopause specialist, educator, podcaster and author. She’s the woman in the know of menopause and today we would like to break down the misunderstandings, myths, misconceptions and medical misogyny surrounding menopause. In this chat we speak about: Changing hormones & how it affects our brains and behaviour The tendency for medications like antidepressants or sleeping tablets to be prescribed How the labelling of menopause doesn’t really mean anything How the loss of ‘zest’ for life impacts their relationships What type of hormones are safe to take for HRT and contraception What lifestyle factors largely affect hormones Whether other conditions like PCOS, endometriosis or diabetes can change the onset or ‘severity’ of menopause

Britt's jet lagged after her trip to Romania. It was somewhat eventful and she's now an experienced quake girly. Laura's daughter Marlie is about to graduate from preschool and we're curious to know what your graduation song was. Was it Green Day or... eye of the tiger? Now that Laura has had a week off and Marlie Mae is about to go to school, she's back considering having another child. A dating app has brought in a new feature to try and reduce dating fatigue and avoid analysis paralysis. Hinge will now stop you from matching with someone new if you have 8 or more messages waiting for a response from you. The idea is to make it a more conscious effort and only have a few conversations going at a time. If you're in the dating world, is this good news for you?

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. This episode was recorded a week in advance as Britt is visiting Ben in Romania. Britt opens up about some of the challenges of long distance and what she’s really struggling with at the moment. Do you think it’s okay to be in a relationship if you know that the person isn’t ‘the one’ (or end game) for you? How long is it okay to be ‘working’ this out? Does it depend on the age of the people in the relationship? Then we get into your questions! HE WON’T GO DOWN ON ME & DOESN’T MAKE AN EFFORT TO PLEASURE ME HE LIED ABOUT HAVING AN STI FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS WITH A COLLEAGUE

Before being known as Danielle Laidley, she was a hugely successful AFL player and played 151 games for West Coast Eagles and North Melbourne football clubs, and winning premierships and going onto be the youngest senior coach ever at 36, coaching North Melbourne for 149 games across seven seasons from 2003 to 2009. For decades, Danielle kept her gender to herself and threw herself into sporting success and became a workaholic. Eventually the pain of keeping this secret led to some dark coping mechanisms like substance abuse. In May, 2020, a police officer took a photo of Danielle in an interview room at a St Kilda police station while wearing a wig and make-up. This photo was shared in a group chat before it was leaked to the media & the public. Now, following her diagnosis with gender dysphoria, Danielle works extensively as an advocate for transgender people, raising awareness in a quest for acceptance of diversity.

Today we take a deep dive on what friendship means to us and whether we're too quick to deprioritise friendship when other responsibilities rear their heads. We spoke about Simon Sinek and his conversation on the Prof G Podcast and his Youtube with Trevor Noah What are you currently looking for in friendship? Has that shifted over the years as your life has gone through different chapters? Is there too much pressure to maintain friendships when there are all of these other things that we are trying to do well? 92% of you have experienced a friendship breakup. Most of you think about the breakdown of a friendship more than the breakdown of a romantic relationship. We speak about our own experiences of friendship breakdowns and whether we would ever be able to reestablish those friendships.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. Laura and Matt are having some *creative differences* in their house reno visions. Laura wants to live under the rainbow and is anti beige brigade. Matt wants a bright blue laundry. DO WE STILL HAVE TO GET THEM A WEDDING GIFT DO I DOUBLE MESSAGE HIM? PUBIC HAIR

Jeff Guenther AKA TherapyJeff is here to help you take control of your dating life, by tuning into who you are, what you want, and how you can get there. Therapy Jeff has over 3.8 million followers on socials. He is a licensed therapist with twenty years’ experience in private practice. Today we are going to unpack a bit of the psychology behind why we are the way that we are in relationships and how that impacts different aspects of our dating lives! Today we chat about: Growing up with a mum who is also a therapist. Is that good or bad? Can we blame our parents for who we are attracted to? Why is dating so hard right now? If you’re on dating apps, you could be dating an AI avatar of the person When we ARE the problem and how to take control of that Patterns: are you after chaos and drama or a healthy stable relationship? No, but really what are you actually searching for? How much can you change someone to help them meet your needs? How to spot the difference between love bombing and the honeymoon phase Can you survive cheating? What determines whether you can or can’t

Unions are pushing to keep bosses from 'trawling' social media and reprimanding employees because of what they're getting up to on the gram. It could be a faked sickie, or a perspective that doesn't align with the values of the business. Do you think employers should be able to reprimand their employees for things that they post on social media? We also speak about the brave woman Gisele Pelicot, who has chosen to waive her right to anonymity after her husband drugged her and allowed her to be sexually abused by 70+ men. We speak about the shift in the way that society views victimhood and the strength that it takes for victims to publicly share their stories to advocate for justice. We also look at the role the media and legal systems play in shaping the choices of survivors.

This is ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions after we've had a bit of a gasbag about our own personal dilemmas! PARTNER WATCHES PORN BEFORE WE HAVE SEX FAMILY NOT COMING TO KIDS BIRTHDAY DITCHING A WAKE

Eleanor Mills is an award winning journalist, editor and broadcaster who has taken a bit of a pivot in her mid life by creating a community called ‘noon’. At 49, Eleanor was abruptly made redundant from her role as the editor of the Sunday Times Magazine and chair of women in journalism. She lost her sense of purpose, and her identity - and her family lost its main source of income. She felt washed up and burnt out; like everything which had defined her life for the last 25 years was gone. But then she noticed something: she wasn’t alone. Today we are going to unpack what Eleanor calls the midlife cluster fuck, our perceived value as we age and a lot of the motivators and values that we hold as career driven women. 

Armie Hammer has entered stage 3 of his 'redemption' arc. He's shared a video on instagram about how he is selling his beloved truck because he can't afford to put gas in it anymore. We unpack false victimhood and all different kinds of celebrities performing authenticity online. How do we know the difference between real suffering and performative authenticity and can Armie Hammer be uncancelled? We unpack our thoughts. 

Welcome back to therapy Thursday where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! DO I TELL MY MUM I GOT SENT HER NUDES? CAN WE HAVE SEX WHEN OUR CHILD IS ONLY METRES AWAY? DO I REFUND HER?

Gus Worland is a TV, podcast and radio host, and the director and founder of the mental health foundation Gotcha4life. Gus is a passionate advocate for building mental fitness. Gus is particularly good at helping women connect with the men in their lives in ways that enable vulnerable and real conversations about their mental health. We chat: Gus’ childhood friendship with Hugh Jackman, or ‘Jacko’ as he calls him Whether Gus is jealous of Hugh’s friendship with Ryan Reynolds What mental fitness is & why we have such an issue with mental health now Where men disproportionately struggle Why so many men are suffering in silence and don’t speak up when they’re struggling Not letting anyone struggle alone Creating ‘villages’ around us Gus also speaks about some really practical ways that we can connect with blokes, not try to ‘fix’ everything and create relationships where they feel comfortable speaking up.

The world is in mourning as JLo and Ben Affleck file for divorce! Lots of the world are talking about whether you think it's ever a good idea to go back to your ex. But, we're more interested in whether you think divorce can make you a better parent. There was a really interesting article by Kathryn Jezer-Morton in the Cut that explored the idea that the end of a marriage, while challenging, can lead to personal growth and improved parenting skills. We discuss: Whether our experiences of divorce or parents staying together influenced our views on relationships and marriage Whether you should or shouldn't stay in a step kid's life Whether we think divorce is always traumatic to kids How it shaped our views of conflict Parents who are only staying together for the kids - is this a good thing or a bad thing? Does being a 'child of divorce' make you more 'realistic' about marriage?

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions! It's Britt and Producer Keeshia's birthday and they're off on a romantic, couples holiday as a taste tester (quite literally) of Britt's wedding. Have you ever taken a vibrator to Bali? We might get stopped at customs for reasons we weren't expecting! If you have had a wedding, did you have a 'first look' and do photos before your ceremony or did you wait to have photos taken after the ceremony? Laura had an 'interesting' back drop in some of her wedding photos that caused a smell that didn't fit with the feelings of the moment.

Ellie has just touched down back in Australia after doing poolside commentary in Paris at the 2024 Olympics. We have a whole bunch of Olympic questions for her like: -The funniest/most meme-able moments from Paris 2024 - What is the Olympic Village like? - Can and do the athletes all hook up with each other? - What are the Olympic beds like? - Should the Paralympics and Olympics be at the same time? - Pay parity, the ‘equal Olympics’ and misogyny in commentary We also speak about Ellie becoming a mum, their IVF journey and her fears about her son being bullied when he gets to school for having two mums.

We take a bit of a peak behind the curtain of what actually happens at the Logies. We spoke about the highlights and lowlights, who left early, how the red carpet and outfits all work and also we are now Felix, Cameron, and Larry Emdur stans. Britt speaks about her mum overstepping on what was intended to be a generous offer and Laura finally shares the real story behind her wedding planner who was a bit of a scammer.

Britt has some terrible dating advice that includes faking a celebrity interaction. The tide seems to be turning on Raygun. There is more speculation around the ethics of her journey to the Olympics since we recorded on Monday morning. Laura helps Britt learn about her (Ben's) new home in Romania. Then we jump into your questions!

Brittany Butler spent nine years as a targeting officer within the CIA's Directorate of Operations, Counterterrorism Center. Brittany has worked both at Langley and in the Middle East and has first-hand knowledge of how the CIA recruits spies and how intelligence organisations discover and apprehend terrorists. In today’s episode we speak about: How Brittany was recruited to the CIA Our perceptions of what someone in the CIA would look and be like vs reality Whether she told her loved ones what her real job was Meeting terrorists and whether Brittany was ever scared How the collaboration between CIA, FBI, secret services and police works Who was ultimately responsible for the security at former president Trump’s assassination attempt What Brittany is and isn’t allowed to speak about from her time in the CIA Is the CIA a boys' club? Honey pot operations and the value that women bring to intelligence organisations Advocacy for women’s rights in the Middle East Writing spy novels from a female perspective and sharing those experiences!

The entire world cannot stop talking about Raygun. We unpack where the line between trolling and criticism is, whether the commentary is gendered and whether it's 'good enough' that she 'did her best'. We also take a bit of a dive into her own research in the field and how it seems to contrast her performance at the Olympics.

Hey Lifers! Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! How do you feel about group saunas? Are they good for a bit of a group therapy session or human stew? Vibes for the week can be found here! Britt: Tom organic period cup Keeshia: The Shocking Effects of 500 Days Without Alcohol - Mark Manson Laura: Koala Suffolk Chair Then we get into your questions! DO I CATCH UP WITH HER OR LEAVE IT I had this girlfriend I’d only known for a short time through work. Early in our friendship, just a couple of months in, she asked me for advice on proposing to her boyfriend. I encouraged her to go for it and a few weeks later I found myself hiding behind a beach umbrella, camera in hand, capturing her proposal. Not long after, she asked me to be her bridesmaid. I was flattered and accepted, although I was a bit surprised given how new our friendship was. Then, the wedding was postponed for a year due to a venue mixup. Life got busy for both of us, but I made an effort to stay in touch, regularly checking in. Her responses were few and far between, until one day out of the blue, she sent me a long text telling me she didn’t want me at the bridal party anymore. She claimed I was the reason we’d drifted apart but said she still wanted me in her life. Yet, when the wedding finally happened, I wasn’t invited at all. A few months after the wedding, she messaged me saying she wanted to catch up. Now, I’m torn: should I take the high road and give her a second chance, or cut ties since she was the one who cut me off first? We still have mutual friends, so it’s likely we’ll run into each other at some point. NO MORE BABY TALK My best friend sometimes makes comments when we are out for dinner with our closest girl group like ‘no more baby talk’. It’s a punch in the gut for me. This year my entire life has been consumed with my baby. I was on family leave and just started back up at work now. At this point of my life, all of it revolves around my baby. I feel confused and don’t know who I am any more, I feel like I have nothing else to talk about, and to my friends who I love dearly, I’m boring them. Normally I wouldn’t want to care what people think of me, but her opinion of me really matters. My best friend does want to have kids (but in a few years). I guess my question is, how do I navigate this friendship, since we are both at different stages of our life? How do I navigate the comments? How do I find myself again? I sometimes miss the old me (freedom and time to do things I want to do), but I especially miss the old me when I feel I’m boring my best friends and have nothing else to contribute. Or how do I care less about this? NOT READY FOR MY MUM TO MEET MY NEW BOYFRIEND I’m going away on an overseas holiday with my new boyfriend. We have only been dating for 2-3 months but a holiday is a holiday so why not! My mum is actually going overseas (not with us) at the same time and our flights come in on the same day around the same time. My mum has asked if we can give her a lift home from the airport. It’s only early days in the relationship and a long 2 hr drive home from the airport. This might possibly be the first time she and he meet and I’m not ready for that. I don’t know how to say no without feeling guilty and if I tell her I’m not ready for her to meet him she won’t understand. I know she will take over the car ride home and won’t stop yapping or complaining. I’m feeling so anxious about it already. I’m 35 yrs old if age helps with context. Keeshia mentioned a great conversation about going sober and alcoholism with Emily Weir & you can listen here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Zoe Marshall is a lot of things. A podcaster, a content creator, an ex radio host, a mother of 2 and she’s now an advocate for mindset and manifestation. She’s joining us today to talk through why mindset is so important in our lives and the science behind some practices that have been thought of as a bit 'woo woo'. Zoe also speaks about what led her in a different direction from the successful podcast 'the deep' and how we all process and manage trauma. We speak about: How ‘manifesting’ has been labelled as only for the privileged Finding purpose in less conventional ways Conscious thought and taking action especially in relationships Reticular activation system Shifting mindset from fear to gratitude It’s the feeling, not the ‘thing’ that you actually want You can find everything from Zoe here Zoe’s course "How to Manifest" - use code LIFEUNCUT for 25% off You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers! Laura has had a really heart breaking week. Her wonderful step father passed away last Tuesday night and today she shares some of the best bits of who he was as a man. We also have a conversation about living alongside grief and how life is somewhat expected to continue 'as normal' when you're experiencing it. Laura also shares how she's finding it challenging knowing how to explain what has happened to her two young daughters. Britt has tried on her first wedding dress and it brought her (and only her) to tears! The wedding date is closer than any of us expected! We have a bit of a laugh about what styles of dresses we expect Britt to pick. Was the dress you ended up choosing to be married in the 'style' that you expected or was it different? Is it best to publicly call out a cheater? We unpack the growing trend of people using Tiktok to call out what they think is cheating in an effort to out them and find the wronged partner to let them know. Is it always better to ‘expose’ them? Or do you think that is more humiliating for the person who has been cheated on? Is publicly calling out a cheater justified, or does it cause more harm than good? We mention an episode with a polyamorous family that we absolutely loved! You can listen here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers! Producer Keeshia is filling in today and Britt is curious about her chewing gum and toilet choice habits. Britt has had a very serious emergency that could have had a very dire outcome. This story isn't for a laugh but more a word of warning! Vibes for the week can be found on our website Britt: Keeshia: Modern Wisdom - How to stop feeling like your success is never enough and Apple airpod max headphones Then we jump into your questions! IS HE LYING TO ME? A few years ago when I was around 7 months pregnant I noticed a condom missing from the pack. The only reason I noticed this was because we don’t use condoms and only had them because we were going through fertility treatment and advised to use them prior to egg collection and embryo transfer. I confronted my husband about it and he said he likes to wear them when he ‘relieves’ himself because he likes the feeling of it. Fast forward to now and we have been trying for a second baby for almost 9 months. We have embryos frozen so have decided to go through fertility treatment again. Again, we have been advised to use condoms to avoid multiples etc. My husband hasn’t used any of ours since then, or told me that he’s brought more. For the past few months he has been working away a few nights a week and staying at a friend’s house while he’s away (this friend is married with kids). The other day our 2 year old was going through his bag. He opened a zip and pulled out 2 condoms saying ‘daddy biscuits’. A few hours passed and a comment was made and we ended up talking about it. He told me again he liked the feeling of it and that I have nothing to worry about. My sex drive has been very low the last few months trying for a baby again and sex feels like a chore. He doesn’t want to push me or put any pressure on so finds the need to ‘relieve’ himself which is totally fine. I explained to him why it seemed suss and he understood where I was coming from and said he never even saw it that way. Now the question is - I don’t know if this a red flag and he’s lying to me or is this a legit thing and I should just trust him? We are about to have another embryo transfer and I’m just all over the place with my emotions and how I feel about this. I don’t have actual proof he’s done anything wrong or cheated and I don’t have reason to not trust him. AM I A BAD FRIEND? I’ve got a friend who seems to chase chaos in relationships. She is clearly the reason her last wonderful relationship didn’t work out, and since then she has dated multiple toxic guys back to back, and says she loves red flags - as if it’s funny, until it’s not funny anymore. She also never takes any accountability for her bad behaviour. I wish I didn’t get so invested and didn’t care what she did with relationships but it’s put me off our friendship. She’s never done anything bad to me but I find myself with the ick and not wanting to hang out with her because I can’t possibly listen to one more of these chaotic and red flag guy stories. Am I being a bad friend? NOT BUDGETING FAIRLY My family is going on a big holiday for a whole week. I’m talking about my sisters, their husbands and their kids + my parents and me (I’m single). One of my sisters has been the arranger of the whole trip. It was her idea so she has booked and budgeted everything and explained how much everything is costing and how it’s getting split. Now it’s coming to the crushing time of paying everything and getting close to us all going but I’m starting to feel as if things haven’t been fairly budgeted. What’s your perspective? We are 3 sisters helping pay toward ours and our parents' holiday however 2 of us have partners also contributing to the 1/3 expected on each of our behalf and then there is me who has to support the whole 1/3 on my own. Is this just the way the cookie crumbles or should this actually be split by 5 to include my sister's husbands? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

In today’s eye-opening episode, we bring you the harrowing story of a woman who has endured relentless and ongoing stalking. To protect ourselves, we made the decision to keep our guest’s name anonymous as the further we got into this chat it became apparent just how dangerous the man stalking her is. For her, the stalking began years ago and despite every effort she has made with police internationally, she has not been able to have the perpetrator convicted. In this episode, we discuss: The reality of being a victim of stalking Self-gaslighting and doubt: how women often question whether the threat they face is severe enough to involve the police. Ongoing stalking & this continuous ordeal with a persistent and dangerous stalker. Ignored evidence: despite having substantial proof of harassment and stalking behaviour, law enforcement's response has been disappointingly inadequate. The emotional and psychological toll of living under constant surveillance by a stalker. Why the police often fail to take stalking cases seriously and the systemic issues contributing to this neglect. What needs to change with international stalking and harassment laws You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers, What're your thoughts on the skateboarding in the Olympics? We're hooked!Britt has had an old roommate come to visit and it's got her reminiscing on the good old nostalgic days of stitching up a housemate when they bring home a date. The men (human and canine) in Laura's life keep on sh*tting in inappropriate places but it's bringing a lot of joy to the Life Uncut family! Republican vice presidential candidate J.D. Vance previously made some outlandish comments that included the country being run by “a bunch of childless cat ladies”. He's joined the conservative Megyn Kelly show on Friday and somewhat doubled down on the commentary. It's a story that now has Jennifer Anniston, Hilary Clinton and Opera involved so we thought we'd throw in our two cents. It had us asking a few questions: -Do you think it shifts voter’s perspectives on who will be best to run a country if they have children or not? -Do your perspectives on how you see the world shift when you have children? -Are you more ‘entitled’ to a vote if you have a kid that will live in the world that we are creating policies for? We spoke about being child free by choice with Danni Duncan here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers,Welcome back to your weekly venting session where we unpack all of your deep, dark and dirty questions!It was our 5th birthday but we missed it... We reflect on what the last 5 years have meant and you're all the fkn best for listening to this podcast and helping us create this community! WE HAVE A NEW HOME FOR OUR VIBES!!Vibes and Unsubscribes page! Britt: Netflix Simone Biles Rising Laura: One Life film Keeshia: Book - Everyone Here Is Lying Then we jump into your questions: WEDDING SAVE THE DATESI’m getting married at the end of this year, we sent the save the dates February this year. Since then we have lost touch with a friend (never see them, never talk to them over social media etc) they are still close friends with mutual friends of ours. If you send someone a save the date, do you have to follow through with the invitation? There’s no other aspect of money being an issue or anything like that, just purely aren’t close with them now and don’t foresee us being close in the future? PARTNER WANTS TO TELL GROCERY STORE, I WANT TO KEEP THE REFUNDMy partner and I can’t agree. He collected our grocery order tonight for $140 worth and they have had IT issues so we never got the message to say our ‘direct to boot’ order is ready so he went inside the store to grab it. Two hours later we got a message to say our order has to be cancelled and we will be refunded due to IT issues. I think they will take the refund as they are a huge company - we spend at least $300 weekly (family of four- 3 kids in nappies🙈). We are farmers in drought struggling to make ends meet so I think treat it like winning the lottery. He thinks we should ring them to let them know we got the order. I know he is morally right but surely sometimes you have to just take a win. What do you think? DATING SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T QUITE FIT WHAT I PICTURED I’m 28 and have never been in a relationship. A couple of years ago I wrote a list of my ideal man; ambitious, funny, chatty, reliable etc so when I was dating I wouldn’t entertain anyone who wasn’t right for me. I’m in the early stages of dating someone and he ticks everything off the list: he’s really great, I feel safe with him and my friends love him. There’s one small thing that’s niggling at but as I haven’t been in a relationship before I’m still figuring it out. I always pictured myself with someone being the centre of his friend group, could dominate a room, in a sense a bit cocky. But this guy isn’t quite like that! I’m not saying that he’s not confident, but I suppose it looks different to how I envisioned it. I realise I’m overthinking and doubting but any thoughts or advice?