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February 29, 2024

Ask Uncut -Ultimatums, 'Too Soon' and How Honest is Too Honest?

Today has been a bit of a chaotic mess, but what else is new?It's a leap year day and Queen Margaret (5 years) has an allowance for you. Britt has stuck her foot in it and basically told her pregnant friend that she didn't like her baby name. Vibes for the week:Britt - Can I tell you a secret? on Netflix Keeshia - Ali Abdaal's Deep Dive Podcast The difference between healthy and toxic relationships Laura Barney Dog Bed Then we jump into your questions! I’ve been officially dating someone for about four months, but we were in a bit of a situationship for about 5 months before that and we were friends for about 3 years before that. We have already said ‘I love you’ and talked about the future, so we’re quite serious. The only thing is, after we had been officially dating for a month, he said that the ‘honeymoon phase’ was over and that he needed to start taking a bit more time to himself. It has caused a few issues, because he’s 30 and I’m his first partner, so he’s quite a solitary person, but I need quite a bit of attention. I’m starting to regret deciding to be exclusive, but it’s a bit too late to backtrack from that now. I’m not sure how to handle this situation, because I don’t want to be the nagging girlfriend who asks for more time, but I’m also starting to get resentful about not having more of his time. A few weeks ago you answered the question to another listener about the girl who’s fiancé was going to propose to her when / after she gets her license. And an engagement under certain conditions, that was okay. My friend is in a similar situation with her boyfriend of 1 year. However, her boyfriend has said openly to her that he wants to marry her, but won’t propose to her until she gives up vaping and drinking on weeknights. I thought personally this could be problematic and potentially manipulative to have a promised engagement under certain conditions. I am dying to hear your take on this. I feel like this is a stupid question but I have been out of the dating game for so long and I need to know what's normal. I went out on a first date with a guy and it was absolutely amazing. I was lucky enough to get a kiss at the end of the date and nothing else! We are going on a second date next week. Do I kiss him on the lips when I see him next or be polite and give him a kiss on the check? When is 'too soon' to ask the person you've been going on dates with whether it's exclusive?

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February 28, 2024

Work-Life Happiness and Figuring Out Your Identity When You're Adopted - Uncut with Sarah Davidson

Hey Lifers,This episode was such a joy. Sarah Davidson is known as a 'funtrepreneur" (fun entrepreneur) for giving up her very successful career path in law to start her own business and find what brings her joy. Sarah speaks with incredible insight into the way that we view success and how that aligns (or doesn't) with happiness. Something a lot of us question is whether we could be feeling a bigger sense of purpose if we were doing something else, and also when to take that lunge and when not to; a cost-benefit analysis of your work-life happiness. Another really interesting part of Sarah's story is that she was adopted at 5 months old from an orphanage in Korea. Sarah has found a different type of curiosity around her identity now that she is pregnant and will have a family member reflect her physical traits for the first time. We speak about some of the questions that adoptees face and have themselves.

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February 27, 2024

Flash backs and Britt's frozen embryos

It's been a Taylor Swift filled weekend! Both of us attended and had a freaking incredible time! We take a surprise walk down memory lane and flashback to Nov 2022. Hindsight is an interesting place to be looking back on a budding love story! We spoke about sliding in to Linked in DMs on last week's Ask Uncut and today we revisit it with more opinions and a little shift in perspective! Plus we speak about the recent changes in Alabama that classify embryos as children and the repercussions of these changes. Britt shares her personal experience with freezing embryos and how devastating it can be when that process doesn't go as planned.

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February 22, 2024

Ask Uncut - The Patriarchy F*cked Up Our Buttons

Which side are your buttons on? A fun fact Laura brought up will have half of you interested and the other half wondering why guys, why?Britt has had botox in her skull to try and treat her migranes.We spoke a bit about how invalidating invisible conditions can make you feel. If you'd like to listen to the episode with Bridget Hustwwaite, it's here Living With Endo - Uncut with Bridget Hustwaite Vibes for the week:Britt: sunday supply co beach loungers Keeshia: Sound sleep mask Laura: John Plunkett Superfade cream Then we jump into your questions: Is it okay to brush your teeth when you’re on the toilet? For a little context, when my boyfriend got out of the shower last night, he dried off, then proceeded to start brushing his teeth. When I got out of the shower, he was sitting on the toilet, doing a number 2, whilst still brushing his teeth. Surely that is not an okay thing to do Can you make a relationship work when incomes are so different? My partner is wonderful; thoughtful, kind, funny - everything! But he earns a lot less than me with no desire to earn more. I’m worried this is going to cause resentment and issues over time (like with kids and holidays etc) I’m in a happy marriage to my husband (dating for 8 years, married for 2). We are both in our early 30s, have good jobs, have done a bit of travel and have recently bought our first home. We would both like to have kids at some point. We have watched as other friends and family have had kids and it seems to add chaos and complexity to all areas of your life. When life is so good at the moment it feels kind of crazy to turn everything upside down by having kids but it also feels like “the right time” in our life (plus biological clock of course) but I’m scared I will miss this period of life where it is just me and my husband and life is so easy I met this guy out and never got his number. He said he's not on social media. I looked on social media with no luck. I googled his name and found his linkedin. Can I message him or does this come across as incredibly stalkerish?

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February 21, 2024

Everything You've Ever Wanted to Ask The World's Biggest Pornstar! - Uncut with Angela White 💦💦💦

Lifers, today's episode was wildly entertaining and so much fun!We got to sit down with one of the world's most successful porn stars, Angela White! And she's home grown!We spoke about Angela's first experiences in the porn industry and how it impacted her education in gender studies. We chat: If orgasms are real in porn Boundaries in sex work The 'rules' in porn How to give blow jobs, dirty talk and start back door experiences Adult entertainment terminology - dp, tp and air tight (don't worry we didn't know what they were either) OnlyFans and whether the money is as lucrative as we think Angela's most viral moment

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February 20, 2024

Should You 'Out' Your Ex If They Dump You To Go On MAFS?

Hey Lifers!Get your cups of tea ready, or your runners on. We're in for a big, long, slightly unhinged catch up! We chat about nostalgic concerts and accidental public nudity.We also chat about the strangest Valentines Day post that we've ever seen with mentions to their ex, their divorce and their new fiance.Plus we discuss whether we would have called out someone we were dating if they dumped us for reality TV (and what we told the people we were seeing before going into the Bachelor)!

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February 15, 2024

Ask Uncut - What Am I Meant To Do With This Information?

Hey Lifers, Hope you had a nice Valentine's Day, and that you didn't deeply shame a certain gift that your partner was about to give you...like we did. Vibes for the week:Britt: Society of the Snow on Netflix Keeshia: Luc Longley: One Giant Leap on Australian Story Laura: Lover, Stalker, Killer on Netflix(sorry fam, can't link netflix because it takes you to the sign in page) Then we jump into your questions! Last night I had a dream about another guy. Nothing particularly scandalous happened but I felt guilty so I told my boyfriend and it upset him quite a bit. Is he overreacting or is it better to not tell your partner about a dream involving another guy? My partner of 5 years recently had some significant family troubles and it's taken a toll on his mental health. He's found himself thinking about his ex, and wondering whether his life was happier when they were together. He says he wants to be with me, but I'm wondering if this is a reflection of his current mental state or if it's a reflection on our relationship. My boyfriend is a corporate king on $500k+. Although, whenever he does the groceries he walks out and never pays.. or sometimes pays for only part. I’m talking about meat, fruit, veggies, yogurt, pasta etc.. substantial items.. not like picking a grape and quickly putting it in your mouth whilst shopping. This does not sit well with me. He does it because “no one’s watching, and why would I pay if I don’t have to?" I think he also likes the “rush” he gets from it. He has very strong morals and values elsewhere and this can be seen a little off brand with the rest of his character. I’ve brought it up and said I don’t like it but he doesn’t see it as a big deal. I’m worried he’ll get caught and I also don’t want his young children to see this behaviour and think it’s right. Thoughts, opinions on how to navigate this?

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February 14, 2024

What You're Doing To 'Fix' Your Anxiety Could Be Making It Worse - Uncut with Anna the Anxiety Coach

Hey Lifers! Today we are joined by the wonderful Anna the Anxiety Coach We’ve spoken about anxiety loads of times before but not in this way.This conversation focused a lot more on the physiological side of anxiety and how we need to use a range of different things to combat the stress of our everyday lives. We speak about: The things that people commonly do to try and reduce their stress or anxiety, and how they can actually exacerbate it Talk therapy is a bandaid, not a solution Personality types that were more likely to develop anxiety Whether anxiety is a product of nature or nurture We also spoke about anxiety throughout different life stages, anxiety developing in kids, whether that be us as kids or in our kids now and whether it actually helps if you can identify the cause or trigger of where your anxiety came from.You can find more from Anna's website and grab her book The Vagus Nerve Reset

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February 13, 2024

Would you like some steroids with your gold medal?

Hey Lifers,Guess who is back on Aus soil?!We're all back in the same room, close enough to touch each other and link toes...Britt had a pretty shit time at the very end of her stay in Scotland but maybe not as bad as Barnaby Joyce. We chat about Britt's incredibly uncomfortable massage, Laura's secret addiction, and her deep need for an HR department!Plus, we chat about the 'enhanced games' which is the Olympics on steroids, quite literally!We weigh up the pros and cons of health, fairness, privilege and entertainment.

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February 8, 2024

ASK UNCUT - The best friend, and the man who made his ex girlfriend watch

Producer Keeshia is filling in for Britt and we simply couldn't not address the girlfriend in the room watching you with her best friend. If you haven't seen MAFS this week, a very twisted retribution attempt was confessed about a past relationship & over coming infidelity. We have many thoughts... Our vibes for the week:Keeshia - at home brow lamination brow code lustre Laura - Ready for it a Taylor Swift inspired podcast Then we jump into your questions!-My partner sees a female barber (this is fine), however she lives 30+ mins away, works from her house, wears skimpy aprons and gave him chocolates for Christmas. She also gave him a game to try recently… He sees her every 3 weeks and the last time he went, he shaved EVERYTHING. I’ve expressed my concerns and he said that I’m being insecure. Am I being insecure or is this weird? -Can you ever put conditions on an engagement? One of my close friends (male) wants to propose to his long term girlfriend. They are in their late 20s. She has never got her driving licence. There is no trauma/history around driving preventing her getting it. She just never learnt to drive as everyone drives her around. He drives her to all her uni exams, appointments etc. Friends drive her to all events. I know it does upset him as it can be a burden to always be the driver. There are no other relationship issues. He has asked me if it’s ok to bring up with her that he will only propose if she gets her licence. I am SO unsettled by this. I cannot work out if it is ok to put this condition on someone. Any advice? -My husband of 6 years and I have two beautiful boys aged 5 & 3. We always said we wanted 3 kids. Our perspective did change a little after our second as he was a handful. Now that they’re a little older I’m getting clucky again; except my husband is very adamant that he’s done having kids! I guess I just don’t know how to move past this feeling of having another baby. I’ve been thinking about it every day for a good 6 months I’d say. I know that if my husband isn’t on board then it is what it is- but how do I move past this feeling? -My recent ex of 5 years is back on tinder a week after breaking up with me. We had a kind and respectful relationship and he had said he would take a long time before being able to move on. I think he may have checked out a long time ago but kept saying future affirming things which masked a lot of his behaviour in the lead up. He has technically done nothing wrong in terms of timing but how do I move on from this and the feeling of being so replaceable?

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February 7, 2024

Life in a Cult and a Devastating Diagnosis - Uncut with Megan Marx

Hey lifers!Today we are joined by the wonderful Megan Marx!We could have done an episode for each of the really interesting parts of Megan's life.She grew up in a cult, was married at 18 and divorced in her early 20s. She was one of the first bisexual people we ever saw on our screens in Australia & it wasn't exactly smooth sailing.Megan also speaks about being diagnosed with spinocerebellar ataxia (SCA6), a rare inherited neurological condition that progressively affects movement. She talks about being hyper aware of her own mortality and how the diagnosis has changed the way she lives her life. Megan speaks about the different considerations she now has when she dates, and how she felt explaining the diagnosis to the people she donated her eggs to.

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February 6, 2024

Are Cosmetic Injections the New Fight Club? Propagating and Suing Because You're Undatable

Britt is on her home run of recording from Scotland. We chat about navigating long distance & how it's going to work for her in 2024.Laura is... propagating. Lots of propagating. She might be a lost cause at this point but at least the house will be filled with fresh oxygen!We speak about a man who is suing people who outed him on a facebook group as being bad to date. Sounds a lot like someone who wouldn't be great to date to be honest...We also unpack the new crackdown that the TGA is having on the advertising of cosmetic injections. While existing rules banned Botox ads, that didn’t stop clinics from scooting around them by using 'code words' like “anti-wrinkle treatment” and “lip filler”.But not anymore! Essentially there's no longer going to be any advertising of these types of services.We raise the question of 'is this going to reduce or increase patient education about the procedures that they may wish to have?' Is the TGA putting energy into scrutinising the right thing?We previously spoke about our views on cosmetic injections and you can listen to that here!Plus we have accidentally unfiltered and suck and sweet!

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February 1, 2024

ASK UNCUT - Tight ass friends and intimate massages

Hey Lifers!Laura is on struggle street. It's certainly not her year for health...We have our brand new life uncut team member jumping in today and he's got quite the 'vibe' for us all.Vibes for the week:Jono: group dates Britt: Jackbox Laura: Mother Life plant light Then we jump into 5 questions today! An ex who is still a part of my friendship group unfollowed me on instagram. He is now back with his previous girlfriend. Should I text him and ask why or cut him off? Can you ask out your chiropractor? We are both single and I think the interest is mutual but I don't know if it's crossing a professional line. My friend profited off a piece of furniture that I gave them mates rates on. I'm feeling pretty resentful that she took advantage of my generosity. Do I have the right to ask for the money that she made or is she allowed to do that? I've unintentionally become pregnant to a guy who I just want hangs and bangs from. I do not see a future. I've firmly decided to terminate the pregnancy but I don't know whether I should tell him or not. Does he have the right to know? What are your thoughts on your partner getting massages? I was having this conversation with my fiance and he said he’d “prefer it to be a girl” as opposed to a male massage therapist as "the nature of massages are quite intimate." Is this okay?

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January 31, 2024

People Pleasers Anonymous! Better Boundaries with Terri Cole

Hey Lifers,Are you a people pleaser? Do you say yes to far too many 'favours' when you'd like to be able to say no?Setting boundaries is something that we all know we should do, but when it comes to the people who we love and care about, it can be a lot easier said than done. Joining the podcast is psychotherapist and relationship empowerment expert Terri Cole. Terri joined the podcast in June of 2022 for an episode on cheating. You can listen to it here! Today Terri shares her insight into everything surrounding boundaries.We chat about: Saying yes when you want to say no costs the relationship Why we don't want to disappoint people but we end up being people pleasers Having good boundaries will protect you emotionally Disordered boundaries and co-dependency The difference between control and having boundaries when trust has been broken Healthy parent-child relationship boundaries Why you shouldn't be best friends with your child You can find more of Terri here!You can get her new book here.

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January 30, 2024

How Old is 'Too' Old & Why You Don't Want to F*ck Your Partner

We reached 500 episodes but we didn't realise so today we are celebrating 512 episodes. This is the biggest thing we've ever stuck to in all of our lives! Britt hates the happiest place on Earth and has a travel review that will really kick the Mickey out of you! How old it 'too' old to have a child? Does it completely depend on the specific circumstances? We dive into whether it's selfish to bring a child into the world past a certain age. Plus, Laura's been saying it for years. If you're in a hetero relationship, your partner cleaning the house and contributing to raising your children will make you want to have sex with them! There's a study that examines 4 different ways that heteronormativity contributes to low sexual desire in women partnered with men. You can read the whole study here. The TL;DR is your libido is not solely your issue to deal with.

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January 25, 2024

ASK UNCUT - Who's Your Donor?

Hey Lifers!Welcome to your therapy Thursday where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions.Laura nearly died on her way to work today, Britt's needs to look out for the sucky sharks and Producer Keeshia has a big life update.Our vibes/unsubscribes for the week: Keeshia: Drew Birnie's Traction NewsletterBritt: American Nightmare on NetflixLaura: unsubscribing from SaltburnThen we jump into your questions! I have a beautiful friend. She is married and in a same sex relationship. She has one toddler and is pregnant with her second baby. Both share the same biological father, a sperm donor. I recently became good friends with a different mum friend through my husband. Her baby is the product of a sperm donation due to her husband’s fertility issue. The two children of my two different mum friends look identical. Eerily similar. Both are pretty vocal and upfront about their IVF and sperm donation stories and the donor information they have shared with me is crazy similar; same nationality, same height, same age, same hair/eye colour choices etc. Do I bring it up with either of them? It seems entirely possible but I don’t really know what to do. The kids look so alike! I’ve been with my partner for nearly 5 years. I have begun to realise that we are super different in many ways. He is really introverted and runs out of social battery fast. He prefers staying at home and gaming with friends whereas I love camping, going on road trips, adventures and travelling. We’ve tried some of these activities together and it uses up his energy pretty quickly or it just ends with a migraine from the sun and I don’t really enjoy gaming. It worries me that our differences will get the better of us long term but I still really like him. For milestones such as birthdays and anniversaries he isn’t very good at planning anything or getting any gifts and says that he has no time. Are shared interests really important in relationships/what would you do in this situation to decide if I’m in the right relationship? I go to a prestigious University and everyone there is well off and always very posh and well dressed (Rolex, Cartier, LV, the works). I’ve had to fake it till I made it my whole way through trying to fit in. I am often embarrassed in public by my family, they’re polar opposite of me and are very loud and obnoxious, very Aussie if you know what I mean. I am a very self-conscious person and it’ll ruin my day if I think someone is judging me and I’m scared this will happen. I don’t want to offend them and I love them but is it okay for me to ask them to act differently and tone it down for my sake? Any help is appreciated. One of my closest friends has an almost 1 year old baby. Her partner and her are the type of people who love having TV on in the background at their house most of the day (e.g. think music videos, sport etc.). I've noticed that since having baby they have continued with this. I don't think bub is getting direct screen time but I would say they're getting a significant amount of indirect screen time. For example, my friend has commented to me before how much the baby loves watching TV and in videos she shares of the baby, the TV is always on in the background. I don't think my friend is aware that screen time is not recommended for children under 2 years. My question is should I bring the screen time national guidelines to my friends attention and if so how should I do this in a kind and non-judgemental way?

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January 24, 2024

The Subtle Art of compromise, priorities and not bullshitting yourself - UNCUT with MARK MANSON

Today's episode is with one of the most successful authors of our time and the man who is known globally for not giving a f*ck. Mark Manson's book the subtle art of not giving a f*ck sold more than 10 million copies. Mark brought his unique perspective on happiness, relationship dynamics, and the delicate art of recognising when it's time to break up. We spoke about: When is it time to break up vs what is a normal ebb and flow of a long term relationship? What's good compromise and what's people pleasing and lacking boundaries? What indicates whether a couple can survive one of them cheating? The need for healthy conflict and how to have healthy conflict Opportunity costs and inherent sacrifice Fleeting happiness You can find all of Mark's work here! His newsletter, books and podcasts are fantastic.

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January 23, 2024

WE ARE BACK BABY! Did he put a ring on it? And taking swipes at your ex

It's so nice to be back in your ear holes!! We are coming to you cross hemispherically (but you're not to trust Laura with geography). First up today, we have a big catch up about what's happened over the break! This catch up included Britt frolicking to the nicest destinations on the planet and Laura being hospitalised with pneumonia. So, you know, same same!We have a big chat about asking your friend when they're going to going to get engaged/proposed to. Do we all need to stop doing this? We also talk about whether you should, if given the chance, take a swipe at an ex. Chelsea Handler hosted the critic's choice awards the week after her ex boyfriend Jo Koy hosted the Golden globes and the two monologues were like chalk and cheese. The audience's laughter and acknowledgement of joke writers really showed who came out on top. We also discussed whether gendered jokes are okay in one direction and not the other. You can watch Chelsea Handler's whole monologue here.It's so nice to be back and we're really excited about what is planned for this year!

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December 21, 2023

Ask Uncut - Don't Tell Your Partner You Weren't Attracted to Them

Hey Lifers!We're in with our last ask uncut of the year! Britt is in Scotland and scaring strangers in her apartment complex. Have you experienced a bit of a sliding doors moment with your partner? Maybe your paths almost crossed before you actually met, or something happened and it meant that things could be so different to what they are now!We have a chat about a woman who is going viral for a post she made about how she wasn't attracted to her husband. It's getting...mixed reviews!Vibes for the week: Britt: movie - Promising Young WomenLaura: Netflix doco Bad Surgeon: Love Under the KnifeThen we jump into your deep, dark and burning quesitions!

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December 20, 2023

Am I an alcoholic? Emily Weir from sobriety to Home and Away

Hey Lifers!In this episode, we sat down with the talented Emily Weir, known for her role as Mackenzie Booth on "Home and Away." Emily shares the highs and lows of her path into acting, as well as the challenges she faced with alcoholism, her path to recovery, and the realities of living with OCD and anxiety. Emily shares how:-Her success in acting wouldn't be there if she hadn't committed to being sober-She realised she had a problem with alcohol-Her life and friendship groups shifted after going sober-Substances/alcohol can be the mask to what's going on under the surface-To seek and get help if you have a bad relationship with booze Em is a particularly insightful woman and in this chat, she opens up so vulnerably in the hopes that she can help shift the narrative of what an 'alcoholic' looks like.

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December 19, 2023

Making Christmas Christmassy & What You'd Do If Your Partner Lost Their Memory of Your Whole Relationship

Hey Lifers!It's so crazy that Christmas is so close! Britt is on her way to Scotland. Laura is not carol'd out. We have a bit of an accidentally deep chat about making Christmas feel special and how we can feel at this time of the year.Britt was mistaken for someone else but we all know she needs to clean her car before she could do well in that job! A few days ago we were sent a message from one of our listeners and it was such a big conundrum that we wanted to unpack it today. The short version is that our listener has been in a relationship with a man for a year, and they have kept it on the down low. He was king hit a few weeks ago, severely concussed and now has no memory of their relationship. She doesn't know what to do or how to be a supportive partner. We chat about Laura's personal experience that is quite similar and how we think she should go about supporting her partner.

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December 14, 2023

Ask Uncut - Why Did We All Google This?

Welcome to therapy where we unpack all of your dilemmas! First up today, kids with second child syndrome and main character kids that potentially need some resilience.Christmas hams are the ultimate raffle prize and they will now be coming home with Laura more often. We unpack the top google searches in Aus for the year. Some were to be expected and were a bit of a surprise. You can check out the whole lists here at The Daily AusVibes/Unsubscribes for the week: Laura: Unsubscribing from "Leave the World Behind" on NetflixVibing Carols on the BeachBritt: Instagram content creator Anna Louisa at homeKeeshia: Podcast by the two ex Good Morning America hosts wrapped up in the affair Amy & TJThen we unpack your questions:- I gave birth 4 weeks ago and my partner last night said our sex life is sh*t and it’s affecting him mentally. He said he doesn’t want to spend time with me because I never want to do it or “even give a blow job”. I really don’t want to so I won’t but I also think I have difficulty with sexual intimacy with him because after our last 2 kids, I felt pressured into having sex again 3 weeks after birth which was wrong. Where do I go from here? I feel like I have no sexual drive towards him but he thinks I have something wrong with me. -I was out with 2 friends and we were buying drinks in rounds. When it was my turn to buy the next round, I started a friendly chat/ flirt with a good looking guy in line who offered to buy me a drink. I said “I appreciate it but it’s my round for the girls so I’ll get it”. He insisted on buying the entire round… I summoned my friends to the bar and he bought the 3 of us a shot and a drink each. Very generous. Later in the night, my friends wanted another drink. When it was time to pay she turned to me and said “it’s your round”. I replied “you both scored not 1 but 2 free drinks from what would’ve been my round, so isn’t it back to you?” My friend laughed and called bullshit and said it’s still my round since I didn’t pay. If you took care of 2 free drinks on what was your round by queuing and flirting, should you still have to pay for the next? -I’m single and whenever I go away with friends or family I always get the trundle bed/ couch, so all the couples get the double beds. Even if I go away with my girlfriends they refuse to sleep on the air mattress on the floor. Should it be ok for me to ask to pay less for the accommodation because I get the s****y bed on the floor when everyone gets a proper comfy bed? -The other day my partner of nearly 8 years and I were discussing fantasies. I brought it up because you know, you want to keep the spark and keep things a little interesting. I told him that I’d always had the fantasy of having sex in public. He told me that he’d always wanted to have a threesome. I know it’s a pretty common fantasy for guys but I’m feeling a bit rocked from this. I’m only sexually attracted to men so I don’t really find the idea of having sex with another woman appealing. I don’t want to completely shut him down, especially because I was the one who brought up the idea of fantasies. I don’t really know what to do here. Have you got any advice? Is there a middle ground?

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December 13, 2023

My mum is a narcissist - Talking Narcissism part 2

Hey Lifers!Today's episode is part 2 of diving into narcissism. You can listen to part 1 on narcissists in romantic relationships here! Now we are taking a deep dive on having a narcissistic parent and how to navigate co-parenting with a narcissist.Firstly we are joined by Monique. Monique and her siblings grew up with a mum who was the most noticeable person in the room. She was generous, she was incredibly beautiful and she was also a narcissist. We speak to her about how her and her siblings felt about themselves growing up, her mum's manipulative behaviour & subsequent affair and how she went about actually cutting her mum off for good.We often hear the phrase 'blood is thicker than water," but for Monique, her life has been a lot happier since severing that relationship.Then we are joined by Nova Gibson. Nova is an expert on narcissistic abuse, the founder of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service, and the author of "Fake Love." Nova speaks with clients every day who experience narcissistic parents and she has an incredible insight into how to navigate these complex relationships.

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December 12, 2023

Girl Language & National Breakup day

Hey lifers,Today is a bit of a silly, fun episode because we're all crawling to the finish line, right??Laura's been in some child induced hell for the last few days and Britt has learnt that kids can be assholes. Weird that it took this long to get here!Britt has a new theory of girl language; the things we say vs what we actually mean. PS Ben, always get a gift.Plus we chat about how many of you have been through break ups this week because December 11 is the most common day for relationships to end! Is it a good thing to go into the new year with a fresh start and no strings to the past or is it selfish to break up with someone just before Christmas?

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December 7, 2023

Ask Uncut - It's Just a Joke

Last night we went on a fancy shmancy boat and Laura accidentally got a little handsy with... not Matt. We speak about the latest trailer that netflix dropped of Ricky Gervais' upcoming comedy special that contains a 'joke' about terminally ill children. It raised a lot of questions like:-Comedy often relies on pushing boundaries, but where should the line be drawn when it comes to making jokes about vulnerable or marginalised groups? -Are we just okay with jokes if they don’t offend us? We discuss!Vibes for the week:Laura: Sam Fischer's new Album I love you, please don't hate meBritt: Podcast the garden of edenKeeshia: Ice Baths Tub from the dope here & Gary Brecka's research Then we jump into your questions: I am living with my boyfriend’s family at the moment until our house is ready to move in. I was looking after my nephew and niece, when I grabbed my mother-in laws phone to bring up YouTube (which we normally do). On the phone I read a message from her boss about the things he wants to do to her sexually and other things I want to erase from my brain. My sister in law was with me at the time and also read the same message. She is still married… so we both know, we haven’t confronted her about anything. I haven’t told my boyfriend and I don’t feel like it’s my place to. What should I do? Ignore that I ever read the message?? Every time I look at her I think how could you. -My partner & I had been dating for 7 months. We have plans to move in together and travel Europe in Feb Mar 2024. Two weeks ago he dropped on me that he'd be travelling Sri Lanka with his sister from Boxing Day until 14th of Jan. I cried when he told me he was going and I blew up when he booked the following day. This leaves me, a pharmacist working on call at a metro hospital alone over the Christmas - New Year period. He thinks I'm being unreasonable and can't see that I'm left feeling abandoned. I'm a single child. Do I just not get it? Or should my partner be spending time with me over this time? Since I can't visit my friends or family who live interstate due to work. I have a friend who’s been having an affair for a few years now. The guy is a lot older than her and one of the reasons they aren’t together is she wants kids. She is now engaged to her partner that she’s been cheating on for years and I’m invited to the wedding next year. I don’t know how to respond or how to have the conversation to see if this marriage is something she actually wants? She has said she is in love with this other man but still loves her fiancé. Do I say something to her or do I just turn up at the wedding and have a good time? I feel mixed.

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December 6, 2023

Why My Parents Tried to Kill Me. There's No Honour in Killing - Uncut with Nina Aouilk

Today’s episode is a conversation about ‘honour killings’ with the absolutely incredible Nina Aouilk. Nina grew up in the UK. She has overcome enormous hardship and adversity to become one of the leading activists speaking out about honour killings and human trafficking. Nina is also a bestselling author, a TEDx speaker and the founder of nonprofit End Honour Killings that provides welfare and support to the victims of attempted honour killings, gender-based violence, domestic abuse, and trauma. In this chat Nina opens up on suffering abuse at the hands of her father and his friends, being forced into a marriage as a child, and surviving an 'honour killing' attack. In this episode we speak about: Some of the most harrowing moments from Nina’s life How that has moulded Nina into who she is today The reality of what is happening in the homes of the places we all live Why we all need to speak up How to find the courage to rise above your adversity *This interview contains details of some distressing content. This includes emotional, sexual and physical abuse as well as mentions of suicide. If this episode brings up anything for you, you can reach out for help at 1800 RESPECT, or life line on 13 11 14.If it’s not the right time for you to listen right now, please sit this one out and we would love to have you join us again at another time.

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December 5, 2023

Can you be friends with your Ex's new partner?

Today was chaotic (more than normal)! The studio flooded from the crazy rain over the weekend. Laura's got some more pigeon facts for us, and guys, you're WELCOME!Laura is also hyper fixated on home renos, flat pack assembly and gardening. We have a bit of a back and forth of how we feel about the new season of the Bachelors; where it's hitting and where it's missing. Plus we discuss whether it's weird to be friends with your ex's new partner. Does it change if there are kids involved?

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November 30, 2023

Ask Uncut - He's just not that into you

First up, Laura's obsessed with the original 'quiet quitters' and they're pigeons.You can see why here. There's a bit of a conspiracy theory going on tiktok where people are claiming that they've been conned by restaurant owners! They are saying that they have been chatting to people on dating apps, and teeing up a date at a restaurant only to be stood up at the restaurant.So what do they do? Well, most of them end up buying dinner and drinks for themselves! Is this the most ridiculous conspiracy theory you've ever heard or do you think there's merit here? Vibes for the week: Laura: Netflix Doco "Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey" Britt: Dog Poncho Towel by Dog Keeshia: Lorna Jane 'The One' sports bra & Two Doting Dads episode Depression & Anxiety - Breaking the Stigma Then we jump into your deep, dark and burning questions: -My friend and I are moving out together to a rental. My boyfriend didn’t want to move out as he is happy living with family and is not working full time like my friend and I.My question is… when should you make your partner pay rent or put money towards things as he is bound to come stay multiple nights. Is it if he stays x amount of nights? What kind of boundaries do I need to set? -How important is it to talk through your issues after having a disagreement with your partner? My partner and I tend to have issues, get cross with each other for a couple of days and then just go back to normal like nothing ever happened. Part of me thinks this is ok as we can’t always be hunky dory, but there is another part of me that thinks there needs to be resolution and understanding when there are issues? I grew up in a household that was not good at resolving conflict so learning on the go now -I was ghosted by a guy who has come back and apologised for treating me poorly. I accepted the apology and we kept chatting. Last night I sent him a meme of a cat (he has a cat). We got onto the topic of dating and so on. I asked if he thought things would be different or the same if we dated now. He said probably the same and that we aren’t compatible because I have a dog! My dog is a small non barky toy poodle and is crate trained, sleeps in his own room and is an angel. So even though this guy and I get on super well and the sexy time was great at the time, his deal breaker on compatibility is because I have a dog - yet he has a cat…

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November 29, 2023

In a World Where We Are So Connected, Why Are We All Feeling Lonely? - Uncut with Dr Ali Walker

The World Health Organisation has declared loneliness as a global health priority. Stats show that young people feel more lonely than any generation before but it seems as though we should be the most connected because of technology. So why are we all feeling lonely when we have a phone in our hand most hours of the day? Joining the podcast today is Dr Ali Walker is a Human Connection Scientist & Mediator with a PhD in group dynamics and the author of click and clash. Ali previously joined the podcast in April for an episode called Is your name wi-fi cause I'm feeling a connection - Talking connection and compatibility with Dr Ali Walker. We chat: How we feel so lonely in a world where we've never been more connected through social media How social media creates fake connection Solitude v Loneliness How introverts and extroverts experience loneliness differently The long term effects of loneliness How to 'fix' your loneliness

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November 28, 2023

From labias to letter drops

Laura's had a moment of brutal honesty from her 4 year old Marlie Mae. Kids just say the darndest things don't they? Laura is contemplating a labiaplasty. We chat about the ins and outs of the pros and cons. We spoke about an episode we did with the wonderful Ellie from Comfortable in My Skin. You can listen here - Your Vulva is Cliterally the Best Plus we unpack the rogue guerrilla marketing ploy that happened on the streets of Bondi on Sunday! When small businesses need to get really creative to have cut through marketing, is it a good idea to connect your brand with the story of a cheating scandal? Does it even matter if there are a lot more eyes on your business?

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November 23, 2023

Ask Uncut - Back ups, Bills and Bed Side Manner

First up today, well... it's chaos.Bills need to be paid and they're multiplying! But we also need to learn to distinguish the difference between a legitimate bill and a scam. *Brittany Hockley we are looking at you.We're all up to date with our skin checks, but Laura's got a bee in her bonnet about specialists waiting rooms. Vibes this week: Laura: Black Friday sales (swipe up swipe up ToniMay) Britt: Hand held steamer Keeshia: (snuck in two)Habit tracker app (This is the apple version)Podcast episode of The Daily Aus - Why a war crime whistleblower could go to jailQuestions for today: I’m 49 and have been divorced for 3 years after a 26 year marriage. I’m quite content on my own and have great friends but I recently decided to try online dating, just to see what it’s about and to have some male company and my profile says ‘nothing serious’. Anyway, I’ve been catching up with one guy once a month for dinner and sex; he is really lovely. Last weekend I went on a date with a different guy and he was wonderful too. My problem is… can I date 2 guys at the same time? I feel so guilty. The first guy probably wouldn’t mind that much but the second guy would hate it. Do I have to tell them about each other? My partner of 3 years has told me if I don’t ‘put out’ more he is going to leave me. We are both in our early 30s and his number 1 priority in a relationship is sex. We currently have sex twice a week and that isn’t enough for him. He told me our sex life is shit and makes him unhappy and people our age should be having sex all the time. I have vaginismus which is getting better but I don’t find sex enjoyable. I cannot orgasm from penetration, it can be uncomfortable but I can still have sex. He has said everything else in our relationship is perfect but the reason we are not engaged is because of the sex.. I feel really low about this. Any advice please I’ve been dating my boyfriend for the last year and a half. I've been a nurse for the last 5 years working with children and I've seen some terrible things. When we first started dating he mentioned he didn’t like hearing these “horrible stories'' so I lessened them. Just recently I was talking about work again and he said the same thing “I don’t want to hear about these stories.' I obviously don’t want to upset him but from time to time I want him to listen to my day and just vent. Am I being ridiculous by being upset that my partner can’t handle listening to my stories here and there? Or do I just stop talking about work altogether?

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November 22, 2023

Sean Turnell Spent 650 Days in a Myanmar Prison After he was Mislabelled as a Spy!

For 650 days Sean Turnell was held in Myanmar’s Insein Prison on the trumped-up charge of being a spy. Today Sean joins the podcast to share his incredible story.In our chat he recounts how he went from being a very cheerful university professor to life in one of the most notorious prisons in South-East Asia. Sean shares:-How the military coup in Myanmar led to him being arrested -What life was like inside the 'box' that he was imprisoned in-What he did to remain sane for the 650 days-How his wife campaigned tirelessly for his release-Whether he lives in fear now after sharing his experiences of the Myanmar Military so publicly-The suffering of the people of Myanmar under a bestial regime that a lot of the world doesn't know about We were absolutely gripped by Sean's story and still don't understand how he remains so positive!

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November 21, 2023

Take care of Maya - When Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy is Misdiagnosed

Hey Lifers,Britt had a big surprise this week and Laura had a wonderful family holiday; except for one part where she said something to a stranger that has made us want the ground to swallow us up!We unpack the redemption story that the Kardashians are trying to pull off with one of the world's most notorious cheaters Tristan Thompson.It raised the questions if your sister's or friend's partner cheated on them, and they forgave them, do you have to as well? Do you have to be okay with whatever they decide? Does it depend on the specific situation and what happened with the cheating? We also discuss the documentary on Netflix "Take Care of Maya" and the court case that resulted in a $211 million payout last week. We speak about Maya's mother being mislabelled as having Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy and the tragic outcome for their family that resulted.

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November 16, 2023

Ask Uncut - When a threesome turns into a pregnancy

Britt and her follicles are back on the mic! Britt gives us an update on where her eggs are at and how round 3 of egg freezing is going. And Laura poses the question - Is talking so much about egg freezing increasing fertility anxiety? We chat about Taylor Swift's maybe PR, maybe not PR relationship. Vibes for the week:Laura - Pet Ancestry tests! Buster is learning his heritage Britt - Podcast The Trial: Ashling Murphy Then we jump into your questions & today has the most hectic one we think we've ever received.-My fiance and I had a threesome with a friend. Everything was consensual and respectful of boundaries. The woman who we had this threesome is now pregnant and my fiance is the biological father. He said that he was quite drunk (we all were) and he vaguely remembers the condom may have broken. I’m so embarrassed about how jealous I am now feeling that this is all happening and am even starting to question our relationship moving forward. It sounds awful because it’s no one’s fault that this happened but I am not sure if I can accept that this situation, it’s just become way too much for me. -My boyfriend and I have been thinking about making a sex tape for ourselves. What’s your thoughts on this? Have you/would you ever make one? I’m not sure how exactly to go about it as I obviously would hate for it to go anywhere else but it would be cool for both of us to have access to it. Would love your advice on this subject! -I have been with my partner for 3 years . We own a house together and are engaged. Since February I have been feeling unsure if I want the relationship. Everything on paper seems good. But I am just not physically attracted to him. I even sometimes feel embarrassed that I am with him. On the other hand we get along really well. I also feel secure and have a lot of trust in this relationship. I have never had this before. He adores me so much and I mostly enjoy his company. I love the life we have built together so far but I also find my eyes wandering. No action, just wandering. I do however feel maybe I have settled for a nice guy but maybe not someone I am crazy about, maybe out of fear.

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November 15, 2023

No more good girl - Uncut with Elise Loehnen

Elise Loehnen is the host of the podcast “Pulling the Thread” and is the co-author of 12 books, 5 of which were NYT best sellers. But then she wrote her first book under her own name “On our best behaviour. The price women pay to be good,” which was also a New York Times Best Seller. Before all of this Elise was the right hand woman to Gwyneth Paltrow and Goop, she hosted the Goop Lab TV show and Goop podcast, and was Goops Chief Content Officer. In this episode we take a big deep dive into WHY we seem to be so impressed by 'the hustle' and how rest has been branded as lazy and sloth-like. We speak about how women in particular struggle to 'switch off' and delegate the mental load of their families.We also spoke about jealousy, envy and why women try to tear each other down. Elise speaks about utilising feelings of envy as a driving force to show us what we actually want in life. She explains how we've been conditioned to suppress anger and the scarcity mindset placed on women

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November 14, 2023

The fine line when it comes to injectables, and the intimacy paradox.

We discuss whether there's a hesitation at the moment for people to be diagnosed with ADHD because it's become very popular on TikTok/in the media. Keeshia has been properly diagnosed and we will do a whole episode where we unpack it at some point.What do we want when we talk about people having cosmetic procedures? Do we want transparency or does that 'normalise' it to the point of it being promotion?Is it fair to expect people to buck the trend and 'age' naturally when they also are a product of the societal pressures to remain 'beautiful?'Plus Laura speaks about the current ebbs and flows of her relationship at the 1 year wedding anniversary mark. We unpack the intimacy paradox and how to keep desire in long term relationships. Is it even possible to expect novelty and spiciness when you also want stability, support and reliability from your partner?

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November 9, 2023

Ask Uncut - When You're the Only Single One in Your Whole Friendship Group

Hey Lifers!Welcome back to your ask uncut therapy session! Today is a biggie because Laura is back and covid free.Britt's been hogtied and mortified from the little ratbag that is Delilah. Laura's luggage is finally back in her hands so the life updates are full of highs and lols today. We break down possibly the pettiest court case to exist in the celebrity space between Robert De Niro and his ex assistant Chase Robinson. It's time to pick your fighter and choose your side.He claims she stole $60,000 worth of frequent flyer miles and watched 55 hours worth of Friends in 4 days.She claims he was inappropriate and asked her to scratch his back and be available to book bus tickets for his kids on the day of her grandmother's funeral.It really could be the plot line for a movie. Would De Niro play himself?Vibes for this week:Laura - Prime video "shiny happy people" Britt - Netflix Last Stop Larrimah Keeshia - The Quokkas kids music group Then we jump into your questions!-I have been dating this guy for a few weeks and we get on really well. But his driving is so bad, he spends more time looking at me than the road. He rides/pumps the accelerators and is so harsh on the break. It makes me feel so sick. I haven’t ever gotten car sick but twice now his driving has made me feel so sick that I have had to end the date a little early. Should I say anything? How can I see a future with someone that constantly makes me car sick -I work in the corporate world and get paid 8:30-5. Currently my workload has been good so I have been able to leave at 5:30 most days. When I have a lot of work I will work back late and have even worked on public holidays (unpaid). There are other juniors in my team (who have less experience than me) who always stay back until around 6pm, so essentially I’m usually the first junior to leave. I’m almost always the first person to arrive. I also have more experience so generally am more efficient, will often work through lunch and won’t chat for super long during the day. I’m worried our bosses don’t see this effort and just see me leave first every day. I’m also worried that the other juniors don’t think I’m working as hard as them, as there have been some comments that they stay late every day and I feel they’re subtly aimed at me. -I'm a single mum of 3 young kids, I’ve been separated for 7 months now.. I haven’t had any interest in meeting or sleeping with anyone but I’ve recently developed a crush on one of the coaches at my gym! I was with my husband for 12 years, married for 8 (I’m 34 for context) so my question is, I have no idea how to show him I’m keen/put the feelers out.. I’m sure he wouldn’t want to date me as I have a lot of baggage but I’d be happy with a shag 😆 but also would it be too complicated because I then have to see him regularly? Such a dating rookie, don’t know what to do 🙈 -I am starting to feel real down about my lack of love life. I feel like all my friends are getting engaged or married and I’m the only one left single. I'm nearing 30 and came out of a toxic relationship 3 years ago where my partner was having an affair, he moved on straight away. I have been on dating apps and I’m not sure if it’s my city or what but it’s the bottom of the barrel and I don’t want to waste my time with people who don’t have similar values or a lifestyle that aligns with mine. I’m very independent and fine alone but have reached a stage where I want someone to share my life with. I honestly feel like I’m going to have to wait for people to start getting divorced at this rate or going to have to literally move cities just to find someone. I'm starting to avoid going out or catching up with friends as it always feels like I’m the only one alone and not with a partner, and when I do go I end up feeling really sad and alone. I throw myself into working too much so I don’t have time to feel sad because it’s really starti

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November 8, 2023

Breaking Up With a Parent & Breaking Into the Music Industry - Uncut with Sam Fischer

Joining the podcast today is the newest official member to the Life Uncut family Sam Fischer! Sam just finished touring around the country and opening our live shows! Not only is he just the BEST & we genuinely have so much love for him but he's also hilarious and a real 'heart' person who shares so openly and makes everyone around him feel safe enough to be vulnerable themselves. Something we learnt about Sam along the tour is that he had a really interesting start to the music world & a complex relationship with his family.We chat: Having a song as big as 'This City' catapult him into the spotlight and then the pandemic hitting The pressure to follow up on that success Navigating a really complex relationship with his dad What led to him eventually cutting contact Whether his bad relationship with his dad has affected his want to have kids of his own How men can be really self conscious about hair loss/going bald

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November 7, 2023

Laura's got Covid 🦠 A new theory on Oxytocin and A Principal's newsletter

From the highest of live show tour highs, to the depths of viral lows, we've had quite the week. Laura's luggage is on a little journey of it's own and is...most likely... still in Brisbane (*trying to get more info on this).Laura, Producer Keeshia and Mitch have all fallen like dominos from covid and somehow Britt's immune system is still going strong. There's a neuroscientist who has claimed that there are chemical reasons that women fall in love with men when they are having sex; whereas it's not quite the same for men. The science is a bit up for debate but Laura has some anecdotal evidence she'd like to bring to the table. We also unpack a newsletter sent by the headmaster of the Sydney all boys private school where Lilie James was murdered where he labelled her murderer as 'not a monster.'These types of character descriptions, along with other accounts of positive personality traits are a way for people to distance themselves from the idea that they know someone capable of such violence. We don't want to think that a person we know or care about is capable of such evil behaviour. A huge part of breaking down the false perception that society has around domestic violence is that we need to better understand that these men are 'normal' men, who live where we do and hold normal jobs. We also discuss how certain media using phrases like 'scorned lover' diminishes the responsibility from the murderer, and contributes to victim blaming.

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November 1, 2023

Is Your Husband Jealous of Your Best Friend? Uncut with Vogue Williams

Joining the podcast today is the hilarious Vogue Williams! Vogue is a radio and TV personality, DJ, Model, comedian with an asterisks and host of the podcast My Therapist Ghosted Me! We’ve previously had Vogue’s podcast co-host Joanne McNally on before and it was one of our favourite episodes to date! In this chat we talk about:-How Vogue met and works with her husband.-Whether Spencer struggles with jealousy over the success of Vogue's other podcast with her best friend Joanne.-Young divorce and getting back into the dating game!-Vogue's time living in Australia

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October 31, 2023

The Glory Hole That Has the Whole World Talking

Hey Lifers!Today is...chaos. We are wrapping up the final live show in Brisbane tonight and they have been so incredible! We first unpack a very viral story that involves some information that you couldn't torture out of us. There is simply no going back from this glory hole experience. We also talk about the new program being funded by the Aus government in an effort to tackle harmful messages of toxic masculinity on social media. Is a project in schools able to contrast the influence of people like Andrew Tate?

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October 25, 2023

The 'Currency' of the Ageing Woman - Uncut with Trinny Woodall

Today's guest is just so fabulous! It's Trinny Woodall. Trinny Woodal is an extremely successful business woman, entrepreneur, TV presenter, author, podcaster and fashion expert! Trinny's story is one that would take hours and hours to talk about. At 26 Trinny went to rehab, got clean and started in an entirely new career. At 35 she underwent 16 rounds of IVF. At 53 she started Trinny London. In the last few years she has grown that business into one of the most successful makeup and skincare companies in the world. We wanted to speak about the belief that a woman's value declines as we age. Society has us so focussed on holding onto our youth, but Trinny is a bit of a juxtaposition to this. She has such a refreshing take what women bring to the table as we age.

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October 24, 2023

Who Owns a Story? From Beckham to Britney

We're home from the Melbourne show and it was LIIIIIT!We were so lucky to have had a surprise interview with Tones and I where she shared some stories about her life that have never been shared publicly before.Today we take a deep dive on who owns a story?Firstly we unpack the re-exposure of Rebecca Loos, the woman who, 20 years ago, had an 'alleged' affair with David Beckham. She has spoken out since the release of the Beckham bio pic on Netflix about David's lack of accountability, playing the victim and having herself thrown back into the spotlight when she doesn't want to be. Secondly, on topic of who owns a story, we dissect Britney Spear's memoir and the details that were released as publicity for the book. She disclosed that Justin Timberlake claimed they were too young to become parents. Does she have the right to share this story? Does anyone have the right to disclose someone else's experience around abortion? Your answer to those two questions may be different because this is a bit of an unusual situation.

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October 18, 2023

We Need to Talk About Ageing - Uncut with Melissa Levi

Today is an episode really close to Laura's heart. It's an episode she has wanted to do for a long time. Initially we thought this was going to be a chat about dementia, but it ended up being so much more than just a focus on dementia. This episode is important for anyone who has a loved one that will hopefully be lucky enough to grow old.Melissa Levi is a clinical psychologist with over a decade of experience. She is also the author of "We need to talk about ageing." If you have a loved one that is ageing, you need to listen to this conversation!We chat about ageing: -How to approach conversations with loved ones about changes you've noticed in their behaviour or memory -The importance of knowing what they want out of their life as they age -Navigating other family members to work together for the wishes of your loved person -End of life conversations We also chat about dementia: -What it is and all of the different types -How we can try to prevent dementia -Whether it's actually worth making effort to spend time with loved ones who will likely not remember the experience -Bringing joy into the lives of loved ones with dementia If you'd like to check out any of the free resources that Melissa collated you can find them here! Melissa's book "We need to talk about ageing" can be found here! Patient names, identities and situations have been changed. Any similarity between the people referred to in this podcast episode and any person living or dead is purely coincidental.This podcast episode was created for informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a replacement for professional medical, psychological, psychiatric, financial or legal advice. Always consult your own healthcare professional.

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October 17, 2023

Britt's 'ample bust' and the line between fetish and fine for mother-daughter collabs

We've had a bit on since we last caught up!We had our Perth and Sydney shows; they were both fkn great!We also had the radio awards and Britt has a bee in her bonnet about the reporting of the awards night, or lack there of, with the only focus being on flesh. We also unpack the line between fine and fetish with mum and daughter collaborations. Denise Richards and her daughter Sami Sheen have teased an onlyfans collab for the second time.

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October 12, 2023

Ask Uncut - Laura's new s*x soundtrack, scrapped from the guest list and too much baggage

First up, may we please ask you for a hot little sec to vote for us in the Australian Podcast Awards Listener's choice?! Laura has been getting down to cocomelon sound tracks and it's official; we're not envious of her sex life! She mentioned the episode we did with Johann Hari last year and it's a banger. If you'd like to listen to it, you can here - This One Is For The Scatterbrains Vibes:Britt - Paramount plus show - Special Ops Lioness Laura - News app Feedly Then we jump into your deep, dark and burning questions. I received a save the date for a friend’s wedding a year ago, the wedding is at end of this October and haven’t yet received a formal invite (currently beginning of October), even though I know other people going to the wedding have received theirs. I have drifted from this friend over the past year and would not be upset if I was no longer invited, as I am currently planning my own wedding and am having a very hard time with my own guest list. My question is: do I say anything? Do I get my other friends to ask on my behalf? Or do I just leave it? This listener is living abroad and loving her life, but the dating scene there is grim. “I’m turning 30 this year and I know it shouldn’t and is stupid but it weighs heavily on my mind. I can’t stop doing the biological clock maths. I will go home in a few years anyway, but my dilema is should I go home early now to meet someone. I love my life here at the moment and although I’d be happy at home, moving right now would be purely for that reason. For context I’ve always enjoyed dating in my home city. Is it silly to base such a huge decision on finding love, or is it realistic and worth it to make the decision for love? I feel as if all my friends back home are getting engaged and coupled up and like I’m missing the boat. I'm a 33 year old female whose brother was diagnosed with late stage cancer a couple of years ago. I'm heavily involved in treatment and support and have put my life on the back burner to focus on him and support my family for the last couple of years. I've put dating on the back burner and have a real desire to meet someone but I carry with me a very heavy heavy life and responsibilities which a lot of people aren't looking for - especially on the dating apps, where they often say things like "I want someone who doesn't take life too seriously" I just don't know how to navigate dating when my life has been consumed by sadness and hospitals the last few years.. How do I approach that with people I date? Any advice is so appreciated

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October 11, 2023

Does All Failure Lead to Lessons or Success? - Unpacking Failure, Friendship & Fertility Privilege with Elizabeth Day

This episode feels like a warm hug with our newest British friend who just GETS IT! It's a beautiful conversation with Elizabeth Day. Elizabeth is a journalist, podcaster and the author of several best-selling books, including "How to Fail: Everything I've Learned from Things Going Wrong.” In this chat we cover off 4 big F words: Failure - How Elizabeth's 'failed' marriage and attempts to have a child taught her so much about herself Finding purpose - How those adversities led her to seeking a different purpose for her life and how our purpose isn't always tied to raising children Friendship - Learning quality over quantity Fertility privilege - Having more awareness around people who may be struggling with fertility If you'd like to check out Elizabeth's podcast, books or Aus tour, you can find everything here!

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October 10, 2023

Britt's flung her back out, the BTS of live shows and bend it like Beckham!

We had our first live show last night in Adelaide and it was un-freaking-believable!!!!Today's ep has a bit of the behind the scenes action and how we are chaotically making our way around the country!We then unpack the new doco on Netflix all about the Beckhams!Are they made for each other? Was it a bit weird that David said he wanted to marry Victoria before he'd even met her? Did Victoria get caught trying to fein relatability?? We discuss!Plus Britt shares some of the much darker side of DMs that professional sports peolple encounter.

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October 5, 2023

Ask Uncut - Photo vaults and his exes nudes, Lies and Pet Support

First up today we're chatting about the simple way to see if your friends actually like you!Annnnd we want to know which word you mispronounced once and it still haunts you to this day. Vibes for this week:Britt: Peaky Blinders on Netflix Keeshia: Wild with Sarah Wilson - Left is Not Woke Laura: Headspace Tools about the referendum Then we jump into your questions! -My partner still has s3x videos of his ex in a secret album in his phone. We have also made videos together and the secret album is where it is safely kept. Going to watch our video is actually how I found out about the old video with his ex. I asked him to delete any old stuff he has of his past relationships and he said that he would. Now, 2 weeks later I checked and the video is still there. What should I do?-I went for a job, it’s a once in a lifetime, rare and amazing opportunity sort of thing. I'm 23 and everyone there is a bit older than me. Although I’m young I can honestly say that I’m extremely mature for my age, I’m just so sick of people judging me for my young age, and I hate being the youngest person in the room. So when I was asked how old I am? I said without thinking, "I’m 26." I immediately regret it and I’m shitting myself that I’m going to get caught out. What should I do? Do I take this to my grave? Do I tell them the truth? -When you've bought a pet (in this case a dog) with a partner and you break up, can you ask for 'pet support' (financial input from them ongoing) to help you pay for the pet that you keep in the break up?

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October 4, 2023

Can a Narcissist Truly Love You? Unpacking Narcissism with Nova Gibson

The term 'narcissist' seems to be thrown around a lot. It seems like a LOT of us have dated one so we wanted to unpack everything about narcissism. Nova Gibson is an expert on narcissistic abuse, the founder of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service, and the author of "Fake Love." We unpack: Covert v Overt Narcissists Strategies they use like mirroring, love bombing, the discard process and gaslighting Distinctions between narcissism and psychopathy/sociopathy Is it possible for a narcissist to genuinely love, or are their affections always self-serving? Do narcissists ever change for the next person? Patterns of why people date one narcissist after another

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October 3, 2023

Repenting Sins, Leg Locking and Baby Traps

Hey Lifers!We've switched things up a little; variety is the spice of life isn't it??So we're trialling a bit of a different schedule this month to see if you like it. Tuesdays are now going to be our personal catch up and a bit of a yarn about what's going on in the world or anything that feels interesting to us! Wednesdays are going to be our interview or the episodes where we do a big deep dive on a particular topic with a guest Thursdays are going to be normal ask uncut! Today we want to know if you actually trust people to keep your secrets? What about if it was a secret you told a priest??We also unpack how we feel about 'baby trapping' and a situation that played out on Selling the OC.

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September 28, 2023

Ask Uncut - What's the Price of Love?

What's the price of potential love for you? Shall we say $500 per month? Because that's what Tinder is proposing! We run through the ins and outs of paying for dating apps and how much our attitude has shifted over the years with subscription based dating apps.

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September 26, 2023

We're back baby! UTI's, kids on planes. Plus Choosing Life on Her Terms - Exploring Euthanasia with Allison Willcox

We are back!! Ya girls were overseas and they have...foot, urethra and covid updates. Young, wild and free I tell ya! Laura had a bit of a nightmare flight and we want to know where on the scale you land of intervening when someone isn't really parenting their own children. Britt reveals some 'heartbreaking news about new boyfriend Benjamin Siegrist;' according to the daily mail. Accidentally unfiltered is back with a bang and then we interviewed the wonderful Allison Willcox, who just so happened to grow up with Britt in Port Macquarie. When Allison was just 18 years old, she was involved in a car accident that left her lucky to be alive and as a paraplegic. From this accident, there have been ongoing complications that has meant she has had to undergo around 100 surgeries and her health is now deteriorating. Allison has one of the most wicked senses of humour you've ever heard and there are a few things in this episode that you might have been curious about and always wanted to know! (If Allison's family are reading this, this would be your time to turn away because doggie is going to enter the chat...) Now, Ali is off on the trip of a lifetime with her partner and her sister before she makes the very difficult decision to end her own life. Euthanasia is a complex discussion. Allison brings such a beautiful perspective on living while being aware of your own mortality. 

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September 12, 2023

Is young divorce 'chic' now? And living with schizophrenia with Elfy Scott

Hey Lifers! Producer Keeshia is in the hot seat today but Laura's been on the stirrups seat! We kick today off with some pap chat. Click, click, click of the speculum and some 'interesting' questions of who you'd like doing your pap smear were raised. Em Rata is wanting to brand being divorced in your 20s as 'chic.' Previously we spoke about micro marriages and with Olivia Rogers about her divorce. We unpack whether young divorce needs a rebrand and whether Em Rata is a bit too privileged to label it as "chic." Joining the podcast today is journalist, podcaster and author of ‘the one thing we’ve never spoken about,' Elfy Scott. Elfy grew up in a household where her mum’s schizophrenia was rarely spoken about inside or outside of their home. Today we’re going to unpack the reality of what living with schizophrenia is actually like as well as the stigma that we have surrounding complex mental health conditions We chat about: How our understanding of what schizophrenia is is wrong Diagnosis, misconceptions and stigma Different types of hallucinations/delusions Schizophrenia presenting differently in men & women Why it's possible to have an onset of schizophrenic symptoms when you have a baby

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September 7, 2023

Ask Uncut - A Guide to Flirting

Welcome to flirt school. Here you'll learn what to do, and quite likely exactly what not to do. How much is too much eye contact? Have you tried breaking that eye contact and taking your gaze to a forehead? We unpack... Things start off today with some plant talk and it's no stretch to say that Laura is not quite on the path to being a green thumbed goddess. Hopefully the plants can be rescued from the compost.

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September 5, 2023

Is "Fat" a Dirty Word? Talking fat phobia and body neutrality with Laura Adlington

Laura's now a believer! She's experienced a bit of an out of body experience! We unpack a clip going viral on tiktok at the moment and have a question for you! Is it okay to ask someone for their financial status before going on a date with them? More deeply, do you think you could have a successful relationship with someone who has a different level of ambition to you?. Joining the podcast today is body confidence influencer, Great British Bake Off contestant and future author of ‘diet starts Monday’ Laura Adlington. There seems to be a lot of internet conversation around completely loving ourselves and being entirely confident in our body and while that's absolutely the goal, it's not where a lot of us are genuinely at. This conversation feels so real. It's very honest and completely transparent. We chat: • Why we feel like we don't like ourselves • Diet culture messaging is built into us from when we are kids • Body neutrality movement and learning to focus on other components of yourself over your body • How laura feels about the word fat & how fatphobia looks in our world • Opinions on bariatric surgery and medications like ozempic • How fertility is impacted by body size & Laura's BMI prevents her from adopting a child

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August 31, 2023

Ask Uncut - Can you expect monogamy if you no longer want sex with your partner?

There's a lot going on today: ringworm, TV free lives, and pre peacocking. Big question for ya, if you are in a long term relationship and you stop wanting to have sex (for any reasons), can you/should you 'allow' your partner to fulfil their sexual desires somewhere else? There are so many factors that come into play with this question, and we unpack the grey areas. Vibes for the week:Laura: Errr not having a TVBritt: Cruel Summer on Prime videoKeeshia: Only murders in the building on Disney+ Then we jump into your questions: Should I feel guilty about having a sex dream about one of my boyfriend’s single friends? This is maybe the second time I’ve ever had a sex dream and I woke up very horny. My partner and I have been together for 8 years. Within the next few months he is going to receive a portion of his inheritance from the sale of the family business. It is a huge amount (8 figures). He sat me down last night and explained to me that (his exact words) he did not trust me with his money and he wants me to sign a prenup/binding financial agreement before he receives it. I'm really hurt by the way he has raised this issue. Am I right to feel upset or am I overreacting? I separated from my husband of 12 years about 2 years ago, it was a defence family so I spent a lot of my marriage alone looking after our 2 young kids whilst he was away and feeling very alone, unsupported and unimportant compared to his work. I became very depressed. I have recently started dating someone & he is a widow. His girlfriend passed away 3 years ago with cancer. He has had flings but nothing more since. Now after we spend time together he feels guilty and depressed because of his grief. I understand this is very normal. My question is… do I persist or will I be 2nd to something else again? This sounds wrong but I suffered years of never feeling like I was the priority.

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August 29, 2023

Make it 1% Better! Sweating the Small Stuff Leads to Success: Lessons from Steven Bartlett

First up today, Laura's come to an interesting discovery about her anatomy...Britt has an update on her egg freezing journey and we're deeply thinking of anyone who is struggling with their or their partner's fertility at the moment. We have a question for to ask yourself, your friend, colleague, partner or kids.How can I be 1% better?You can interpret this however you wish. It could be in your work life, towards your partner, personal growth etc. Then, it's producer Keeshia's dream come true. Her favourite podcaster Steven Bartlett joins Life Uncut! Steven Bartlett is the host of The Diary of a CEO, one of the most listened to podcasts in the world. He's an incredibly successful businessman and entrepreneur. He's also an author and an investor on Dragon's Den (the UK version of our Shark Tank). In this interview we focus on the secret sauce behind what made Steven so successful, making incremental improvements, and embracing the art of effective communication. We chat: Sweating the small stuff - why the seemingly insignificant things matter The power of never disagreeing - why "never disagreeing" doesn't mean sacrificing your opinion but instead fosters a culture of empathy and understanding. Pissing people off for success - why making waves and challenging the status quo can be a sign that your business strategy is working. Unapologetic values & how these values can determine what we make of ourselves

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August 24, 2023

Ask Uncut - Crazy Hormones, Salmon Sperm Facials and Story Stalking

Little update on Britt's fertility and where her (small) eggs are at! We unpack the weirdest beauty treatments including salmon sperm facials...We also talk about how it's refreshing to see people like Julia Morris being open with the cosmetic procedures they elect to have.Our vibes for the week:Britt: Point hacks au on instagramLaura: Painkiller on Netflix (and also Dope sick on Disney plus)Keeshia: Denton Ultime Pillow Then we jump into your questions: My ex and I have been broken up since march. He wanted to get back together, I didn't and so he blocked me on social media. I’ve found out that he has a new girlfriend of 2 months. A week ago unblocked me and started viewing all my stories. He doesn’t follow me so he has been intentionally looking me up and stalking me. I know I shouldn’t care but what the hell? I still have feelings but also know I don’t want to go there again and wouldn’t because he has a girlfriend. WHAT DOES THIS MEAN ? Should you uninvite a friend from your birthday party if they don’t even text you on your birthday? Context, I’m having a limited seating birthday lunch and had to be tight with the number of people I invited. When I put the invite out a few weeks ago, she responded saying that she would like to come but wanted to bring her partner as well. I said yes, and allocated 2 of the limited seats to them. My party is coming up now, as I had my birthday last week but the thing is, I haven’t heard from her in weeks. I didn’t hear from her on my birthday and not since. I feel annoyed that I gave up 2 spots for them and feel like I want to tell them that they can’t come. Is it crazy to message the family, mum in particular, of a guy who has ghosted you? We dated for a year, but we were long-distance. I was supposed to see him in 2 weeks for the first time this year but now he's ghosted me. He said he's super overwhelmed with work and it takes a toll on him but he loves me so much. Never did he ever say that we had ended, he simply has ghosted me. I can see that he's following a couple new girls on instagram, so clearly he has time on his hands. I want him to know that no one deserves this and he can't get away with treating people like this but he won't respond to my messages. I'm not going to keep pushing him but I want his family to know how he's treated me. I know it's a bit crazy, but I want to know whether it is completely unacceptable or not?

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August 22, 2023

Not everything happens for a reason. Grief and life after loss with Lotte Bowser

It's Britt and Keeshia's birthday! The conversation around milestone anxiety (especially because one of them is turning the big 3-0) rears it's head again. Laura & Producer Keeshia unpack whether Keeshia's joy around her birthday this year is linked to being in a relationship & what it means we need to be doing for our single friends on their birthdays! There's a new study that has shown that (in hetero relationships) men are more commonly the first to say "I love you." A particularly interesting part of the study showed that it usually takes 69 days for them to say it... we're not the ones crunching the numbers here.Then we get into a truly great interview with Lotte Bowser. Lotte Bowser is a writer and podcaster. It was a modern day romance where two people both swiped right and fell in love almost instantly. They moved in together, they travelled together, they got engaged and then in 2019 Ben was diagnosed with terminal cancer. In late 2020, Ben died and Lotte had to 'say goodbye' from a hazmat suit. Lotte has had to learn how to navigate life as a young widow and how to move forward with her life. In this chat we speak about:-The stages of grief are b******t-Grief can be so isolating and so lonely-How to support someone through the loss of someone, and also what not to do-Finding purpose and moving forward after someone you love has died

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August 17, 2023

Ask Uncut - Misheard Lyrics, Catching Yawns & Do You Need Marriage to Solidify the Commitment?

This episode is not brought to you tourism Magnetic Island, but it would be understandable if you were mistaken. Happy 70th birthday to Laura's dad and big shout out to all of the koala's. Today we lost it laughing hearing all of your misheard lyrics! We officially feel better about the silly lyrical mistakes we make! Vibes for the week: Keeshia - Sleep! Sleep tracking, rain sounds (rain, rain and myNoise are good) and this episode of a podcast with Dr Matt Walker on the Diary of a CEO Britt: Chrome coloured nails Laura: the Life Uncut live show! Then we jump into your questions: My partner doesn’t yawn at the same time as me. He doesn’t “catch” my yawns. Does that mean he isn’t emotionally connected to me? My bf and I have been together 5 years, lived together for 2, bought our dog a year ago. We both see our future together and always talk about it. I feel really strongly about getting engaged and have been pretty clear about it but it is not on his mind. He always says things like "what's the rush" and "we have everything we need" and I think he genuinely believes and means that. He says he doesn't "feel ready" and that it's not me it's him. His parents are divorced, so are his grandparents, uncle, Auntie, sister's husband. The family is full of divorce. I am from a family where there has been no divorce. I think we see marriage and engagement very differently because of this. It has created some tense conversations and we both understand how each other feel but neither of us will budge. Am I being stupid getting so worked up over a ring when everything else is great? My best friend has always struggled with not feeling good enough for the men she dates. She has had a few situationships but last year she got into her first official relationship. I really don’t like her boyfriend but I haven’t said anything. However, over this past year I’ve heard him make comments about her weight. She has also lost A LOT of weight since being with him. Last night we went out for dinner and he made comments like ‘you should work out more’ ‘when we get done with dinner you should jog back to the car’ and ‘are you finishing all of that?’. I’m worried about what his comments are doing to her mentally. How do I talk to her about this? If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram hereJoin us on tiktok Or join the facebook group here Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

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August 15, 2023

From a Child Refugee to Working with Queen Bey - A Story of Resilience with Aweng Chuol

Joining the podcast today is South Sudanese Australian model, actress and artist Aweng Chuol. Aweng's story is a big one to summarise. She lived in a refugee camp in Kenya before coming to Australia when she was 7. Aweng is the oldest of 12 kids; her mum was only 15 when she was born, her dad a child soldier, her grandfather a pastor. Aweng was working at fast food restaurants when she was scouted. She has gone on to model for some of the world's biggest brands and worked with the likes of Rihanna and Beyonce. In this chat we speak about: • Being a Black, queer woman and having her community turn on her • Forgiving parents and giving them grace for the wrong decisions they made raising us • Healing from generational trauma • Love not being enough, resilience and perspective

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August 10, 2023

Ask Uncut -Shooting your shot, rebuilding yourself and a partner who hates your friends. With special guest Lalala Let Me Explain!

Joining the podcast for a special edition of Ask Uncut is sex and relationships educator, social worker, Agony Aunt, author and podcaster Lalala Let Me Explain! Lala is a top secret squirrel and remains completely anonymous online, but unpacking dilemmas and giving top shelf advice is what she does best! Today we jump into these questions: How do you gain confidence with men in public and approach them if you wanna shoot a shot? My boyfriend who I lived with for a year just ended things. I’m currently sharing a bed with my mum, all my belongings are in my car while I wait for my childhood bedroom to be cleared out for me to move back in. I'm also having to find a new job. I genuinely feel so dependent on him like I don’t know who I am anymore without him. How do I get back on track? How important is it for your partner to get along with your friends? Everything else in our relationship is great, my problem is that he doesn't like my friends and becomes closed off and quiet around them. He says they're 'weird' and he is quite judgemental of them. How big of a red flag is this when everything else is so great?

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August 10, 2023

Ask Uncut - Glass Houses, Falls From Grace and Google Calendars

Producer Keeshia is filling in for Britt today and she would love your thoughts on whether or not saying "I love you" for the first time needs to be a special moment or not? We unpack the 'rules' of who can and can't be cancelled, why that is and whether there's a set of standards for some, and a different set for others.

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August 8, 2023

We're going the distance. Talking long distance relationships with Erin Holland

Joining the podcast today is TV host, sports presenter, model, dancer, and 2013 Miss World Australia, Erin Holland. Erin has been with her husband, Australian cricketer Ben Cutting for 8 years now. They still live in different states. In our chat we speak about: How to survive long distance relationships The types of relationships that can do distance v those that can't Prioritising your career over other aspects of your life Navigating the journey to parenthood when you live separately Erin also spoke openly about her challenging fertility journey, and PCO.

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August 1, 2023

Supple Nipples at the Logies, a Celebrity Seductress & the Mysterious Lalala Let Me Explain!

Grab your morning coffee because ya girls have had a big night at the Australian TV's night of nights, the Logies! Laura's causing havoc on the red carpet with her rogue breasts and Britt battling to keep the limelight away from Delilah.We also unpack the unusual reporting of Ariana Grande's alleged affair with her wicked costar Ethan Slater and the power dynamics at play. Then we are joined by the wonderful and anonymous Lalalaletmeexplain! Lala has been working in social work, helping women experiencing abuse and in the dating and relationship world for over 2 decades. In this chat we talk: Why Lala remains completely anonymous When to talk to kids about sex How to be single and genuinely content Spotting red flags in dating How to spot a f*ck boy Different types of f*ckboys: feminist, narcissistic, spiritual and no labels f*uckboys

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July 25, 2023

When you can't have what you've always wanted. Infertility, IVF & Miscarriage - Uncut with Chloe Fisher

Joining us today is the wonderful Chloe Fisher from the Darling Shine podcast Chloe's life looks incredible from the outside. She travels the world with her husband, Grammy award nominated DJ Fisher. They look like they have it all; except the one thing that they truly want more than anything else, a baby. Chloe has undergone IVF treatment 7 times, and had 4 miscarriages. She speaks very openly about her struggles with fertility and the toll that it can take. In this chat we talk: The mental load that fertility takes on us How it can affect your relationship How to help a friend going through fertility issues The actual process of IVF

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July 18, 2023

Could you spot the warning signs of non physical violence? Reunited at last! And the bare minimum of dating.

Today we are also joined by the CEO of Respect Victoria Emily Maguire. Emily has joined Future Women for the second season of their podcast "There's no place like home." This season is all about non-physical forms of abuse, what they look and feel like to you and others and how to talk to colleagues/mates if you think something’s amiss. In this chat we cover: • love bombing, • gaslighting, • isolation, • jealousy, • financial abuse, • tech surveillance and • blame shifting

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July 13, 2023

ASK UNCUT - Help, I'm dating my employees friends with benefits.

Today's questions I think my sister in laws husband is cheating do I tell? I am dating my employees friends with benefits - Am I being deceitful? Can I name my child after our beloved pet?

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July 11, 2023

Jonah Hill's leaked texts and purpose anxiety with Dr Sabina Read

Joining the podcast today is Sabina Read. Sabina is a psychologist, speaker and co-host of the Human Cogs podcast, and today we are talking about purpose anxiety. Sabina helps us unpack where we get a sense of purpose from and how it's probably not what we think it is. We speak about: The difference between seeking validation and seeking purpose, The different aspects of life that you can get purpose from; it's not just career, a soulmate or parenthood, Privilege being intertwined with 'purpose' How much our 'blueprint' from when we are a kid impacts us

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July 6, 2023

Ask Uncut - Ask Ben

Britt's boyfriend Ben jumped on the pod and they spoke a bit about their relationship and how they navigate long distance. (You can listen here!) Firstly, we finally hear Ben's thoughts on the shrine. Sorry for creating your longest running argument Britt... Then we find out a lot more about who Ben is and what it was like growing up in Switzerland and becoming a professional footballer (not soccer player; we listen and learn). -I matched with a guy on hinge and things were going really, really well. I was the first person that he'd been with since a bad break up a year ago. After a few weeks of everything going great, he's now become really "busy" when ever I try to make plans. I haven't seen him for 3 weeks. He tells me he likes me and likes hanging out with me. I've reassured him that I'm happy to take things slow because I really like him. -Is it always the case of "if he wanted to, he would" -How does an emotionally unavailable person become emotionally available?

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July 4, 2023

It hurts! When sex is painful. Talking vaginismus with Jessie Stephens

Joining the podcast today to speak about her experiences of vaginismus is the wonderful Jessie Stephens. Jessie is likely a familiar voice from the Mamamia Out Loud podcast, the podcast ‘Cancelled’ or from hosting The Project. She’s also an author of the international best seller ‘Heartsick.’ In this chat we speak about Jessie's experience with vaginismus & how it can feel for different women Pain and discomfort during sex, using tampons or pap smears How to have the conversation with sexual partners Managing vaginismus during pregnancy and childbirth

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June 29, 2023

Ask Uncut - Is it an ick, or is it your unconscious bias?

Laura should be on her honey moon and Producer Keeshia is in the hot seat today! First up, we unpack Lewis Capaldi's performance at Glastonbury. A moment of kindness from the crowd. A huge step in the right direction of visibility of disability. But is some of the commentary around what happened patronising? We discuss. Vibes and unsubscribes for the week: Vibe- (courtesy of Jo from Beauty IQ). When you're going on a flight with someone else, pack a change of clothes in each other's bag incase your bag gets lost on the way. At least then you've got a change of clothes. Unsubscribe- apple air tags are too expensive for the basic device that they are and you absolutely should not be strapping them to your kid Then we unpack your questions. If a relationship cannot survive a 6 month stint of long distance, is it the right relationship at all? Should I be concerned if my new partner tells me he experimented with his sexuality when he was younger but claims he has sorted it out and is now into women? Note: I am not attracted to bisexual people and it puts me off a bit. Is it weird to want to organise your own hens? I have bridesmaids, who I love and can’t wait to do all the wedding things together and party, but I also want to be in control of what we do. Am I a control freak or is it ok to do my own?

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June 27, 2023

Sex isn't a stage show, so drop the act. Talking better sex with Tara O

Joining the podcast today is sex coach, author and presenter Tara O! Tara was living what seemed to be her best Carrie Bradshaw life. She was writing a column and having a lot of 'wild' sexual experiences. But she wasn't having good sex.Like SO many of us, it was a performance (has the peacock entered the chat?). We speak about: 'Performing' during sex Why we all need to stop faking orgasms with one night stands or long term lovers Learning what actually turns us on and gets us off How to communicate with a partner about what you like and don't like

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June 22, 2023

Ask Uncut - Laura's unhinged and Britt's a unicorn psychopath

Laura's unhinged (again) and Britt might need to unpack why she finds enjoyment in true crime because there's a psychologist who says that's kinda weird. Do you relax by watching true crime? After a night out myself, my boyfriend of 1.5 years and one of my best girl friends (who is gay) went home together and one thing led to another and we ended up having a threesome. We had never spoken about the possibility of doing this and it’s the first time it’s happened. Since it’s happened I can’t stop picturing my boyfriend having sex with my best friend as I just laid there next to them, and I feel sick. Since my best friend is gay I feel like it meant nothing to her, but he is straight and chose to have penetrative and oral sex with her. Is this something I should be concerned about? Can we move on from this? I’ve tried to talk to him about it but he’s not overly fussed about the situation and is kind of de-validating my concerns (ie saying “we’ll you were involved just as much as me”) My best friend recently matched on Bumble with a guy from America. Although he is currently living in America, they matched because he had his status set to traveling in preparation for an upcoming trip to Aus. Over the last few weeks they’ve been texting, calling and FaceTiming every day and are totally smitten. They’ve even been discussing wedding plans for this summer and choosing baby names. They’ve also talked about her moving there because he said with his job he would have to start from square one if he moved here. She said she knows it all seems crazy but she’s sure he is her penguin and that she’s never felt like this before and neither has he. He’s coming here at the end of next month and I’m just so skeptical!! Am I right to feel that way? Or should I just be supportive of her happiness? She’s just come out of a tumultuous couple of years in her personal life so I feel super protective of her. HELP! Do you flush the toilet at night time if your partner or housemate or family are asleep? What’s the etiquette? A friend of mine got married a few months ago and then asked a group of friends to plan the hens. The wedding was really small and the kicker was that none of the friends who were asked to plan the hens were invited. We all find it a bit weird that we've been asked to plan the 'fling after the ring' despite not being invited to the wedding

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June 20, 2023

Breast Implant Illness & Explant Surgery - with Dr Kirsty Seward

Joining us today to speak about her own personal experiences of breast implant illness and explant surgery is Dr Kirsty Seward. Kirsty had breast augmentation when she was 25 years old.5 years on & Kirsty had a range of symptoms from a condition that she had never heard of, breast implant illness. Her implants had not ruptured or leaked, but she was constantly fatigued, sick and had major brain fog. In this chat: The reasons why Kirsty got implants to begin with (and later regretted) How breast augmentation surgery works Symptoms of breast implant illness Explant surgery How her body healed afterwards We also speak about the psychological side of plastic/cosmetic surgery and questioning 'why' we want to change certain parts of ourselves. This is a great episode for anyone who has considered or has undergone a procedure just to be aware that there are potential side effects that aren't spoken about.

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June 15, 2023

Ask Uncut - Can I post your baby?

Should you always ask the parent before sharing a photo of their child on social media? I'm a new parent and I've had some ask and others not. It makes me feel frustrated that they don't ask/have the etiquette to ask me first. Am I stingy? A couple friend of ours invited my partner and I over for dinner. We have hosted them a few times. I asked "is there anything you'd like us to bring?" to which they responded "No, that's okay. We can add up how much it all costs and let you know how much to transfer." After dinner they asked me to transfer $15. It's left a weird taste in my mouth. Is it normal to ask your dinner guests to transfer you money for dinner? My partner and I have been together for 10 months and we live together, but he doesn't want our relationship on social media. He is okay with me posting things of him, but he doesn't post anything of me. Am I silly for caring about this or do you think it's an issue?

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June 13, 2023

Dating Younger Men, Making Anxiety Beautiful & Traveling the World Solo- Uncut with Sarah Wilson

Joining us today is the incredible Sarah Wilson! Sarah is a multi-New York Times best-selling author, podcaster, international keynote speaker, philanthropist and climate change advisor. Sarah is 49 & has been single for 15 years. We chat about why she likes to date younger men, how Aussie men measure up to internationals, 'lost boy' syndrome and socially dating 'up' or 'down.' Sarah's 'I Quit Sugar' business was really successful. She sold it off in 2022 & gave everything to charity. She now lives a nomadic lifestyle with 2 suitcases of belongings and travels the world solo! Sarah lives with Hashimoto's disease and bipolar. In our chat we speak about how she manages anxiety and navigates so much uncertainty.

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June 8, 2023

Ask Uncut - Big Ben is in Town!

Britt's boyfriend Ben is here and making his life uncut debut! Hope you enjoy the sultry tones of our Swiss sensation! First up Britt and Ben share how they met and are making their long distance relationship work!

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June 5, 2023

If you don't laugh, you'll cry! Using humour to overcome trauma - Uncut with Reuben Kaye

Then we are joined by multi-award winning Australian comedian and cabaret sensation Reuben Kaye! Reuben is the child of Russian peasants and German refugees. His grandparents survived the holocaust. In this chat Reuben speaks candidly about how we tend to use dark humour to cope with bad things that happen in our life. WE COVER: • His incredible family story • Using humour to deal with trauma • Performing in drag • Subject v object in comedy & making sure his audience know they're in a safe space • When a joke backfires

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June 1, 2023

Ask Uncut - He's in a sexless marriage, can I be his side piece?

I met a guy on an app and he is seeking one person to have FWB. He is in a sexless marriage, and not wanting to leave his wife. Personally, I am fine with what he wants as that suits what I’m looking for, and it’s his decision if he is choosing to cheat. I have not actively gone after him. I know it’s wrong but I’m so over doing what is right for everyone else when I just want to have some fun and I deserve that. I have been cheated on in the past and it is horrible. But if it’s not me he will still do this with someone else. My question/worry is that if I meet someone down the track, do you think this would be something they would judge me for given the situation? Does this make me a bad person? I’ve been with my partner for 2 years now and he has a child with his ex partner. He has baby bump pictures of his ex in his phone, some of which she is completely naked in. Am I being a complete psychopath and jealous because I want a baby with him but he isn’t ready so him having these photos makes me super sad and I feel like this is such a horrible thing for me to feel. Is this ok? My partner and I have been together for 6 years and lived together for 4. My ideal bed time is 10pm however my partners isn’t until 11pm. I like to go to bed at the same time as I tend to sleep better and don’t get interrupted when he gets in. It might seem comical but we are often arguing about bedtime! Is this an area of contention in other relationships? How do you suggest we manage this? Presume other couples like to go to bed at different times so there must be a solution here!

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May 30, 2023

Life in a 'Closed, Quad, Polyamorous' Relationship - Uncut with Taya and Alysia

In today’s episode we are chatting with Taya Hartless and Alysia Rogers.Taya and Alysia are in a closed quad polyamorous relationship. So Taya is married to Sean, and Alysia is married to Tyler and now they all live together in the one family. Together they have 4 kids (as well as another on the way), two from Alysia and Tyler’s previous family life and now two children together. The biological father of each of the kids isn’t known and it isn’t important to them. We chat about: How they all met and realised the type of relationship that they wanted to have. The ins and outs of living together as a quad, The logistics of their family dynamic, Rules of their relationship, Dealing with public scrutiny

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May 25, 2023

Ask Uncut - Sis, is this your man?

Do you think the guy should make a booking at a restaurant if he asked you out? I had a first date on Friday night and the restaurant was packed and there was a one hour wait because my date didn't think ahead to book when he had picked the restaurant and asked me out 🙃 I got the ick really bad after that as we had to walk around trying to find an empty restaurant to go to. Do I have a right to be upset if my best friends forget my birthday? I always know their birthdays by heart but without Facebook reminders or me making note of it on my social media, my birthday will pass without any thought on their part. It feels hurtful and I feel forgettable My partner is about to propose & whenever he brings it up, he says, "I’ve planned the perfect moment, but just warning you, don’t have high expectations for the ring." My dream ring is $10k, which I understand is a lot of money, but he also has a decent job and about $100k sitting in savings, buthe ‘doesn’t think it’s about the ring.’ To me, it’s such a special and important symbol of our union and something I want to keep forever! I feel horrible saying this, but I’d rather he never propose than propose without a ring I love.

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May 23, 2023

Being Successful Led To My Divorce - Uncut with Mark Bouris

we are joined by one of Australia's most successful businessmen and entrepreneurs Mark Bouris. You may remember Mark from being the Australian 'you're fired' man on the celebrity apprentice. We chat: His priority of work over relationships and the 'cost' of a lot of his relationships Whether money changes people Whether success requires sacrifice Only investing in 'rising tides' Being completely self made

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May 18, 2023

Ask Uncut - Not your darl!

Our next door neighbour is a sex worker, and we have a 4 month old new baby (read: sleep deprived, exhausted, overwhelmed, all the things). We don’t have any issue with sex work, it’s just… really loud, a lot of spanking, whipping, moaning etc. This is a problem because on the rare occasion we get to sleep, we are often kept awake by the noise. I’m conscious it’s her job though so what can she do? Vice versa, a crying baby probably isn’t the best for her business. Help! 😩 Are terms of endearment in the workplace ever appropriate? I’m getting married in November and some people are assuming they’re invited to my wedding. I’m talking to the borderline friends that I see maybe once or twice a year saying statements like “I can’t wait for your wedding” or “have you finished your guest list”. It makes me super uncomfortable and I don’t know how to respond so I just kind of awkwardly laugh. Do I just need to wait for people's disappointment when they don’t get an invite or do I tell them now that we don’t have enough space for them and they’re not on my list? Help!

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May 16, 2023

When the goal posts keep moving - Uncut with Tony Armstrong

Today's episode is with a special someone that we've been trying to get on the podcast for ages! It's Australian heart throb, ex-footballer and media personality Tony Armstrong! In today's chat we talk: whether he will ever be the bachelor growing up not knowing his dad and where that relationship has progressed to 'making it' in football and still feeling like you're not good enough calling out racism transitioning into media

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May 11, 2023

Ask Uncut - To Assume or Not Assume, That Is The Question

Welcome back to therapy Thursday. Producer Keeshia is filling in for Laura today because she has a big announcement coming! She's been training really hard at ninja school. We kick off this episode with asking whether you still have the exclusivity conversation with someone that you've been seeing. Is it implied or do we still need to actually chat this out? Britt gives us an update and some more details about her pre cancerous skin treatment and ask you what the silliest reason you've 

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May 9, 2023

Building the biz from the basement up! Uncut with Brittney Saunders

Brittney was one of the OG influencers who leveraged her platform to create multiple extremely successful businesses! In this chat we talk about fat phobia in the fashion industry and whether being size inclusive is an ethical decision or merely a smart business decision based on consumer preferences.Brittney is such a story of building an empire from the ground up! She also shares her tips and tricks for anyone starting/operating a small business.

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May 4, 2023

Ask Uncut - Cheaters never win, they come third.

At what point does thinking about an ex go from curious, where you look at their social media etc to see what they've been up to, to unhealthy? Is it weird to cut your toenails in the shower? My partner and I argue about this all the time! He likes to cut his toenails in the shower so the clippings go down the drain. I get a massive 'ick' from this and would much rather he cut them straight into the bin! One-on-one dinners with my long-term boyfriend are awkward. We spend a lot of our time together, so when it comes to a sit down, across from each other, I find that at times we have nothing to talk about! Does anyone else feel this way?

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May 4, 2023

Ask Uncut - the not so purrrfect Met Gala

This week we're kicking things off with a bit of an in house debate and it's farshun honey! Look it up!Speaking of fashion, we're unpacking whether you can separate someone's legacy and the art that they've created from who they are as a person. Can you celebrate someone who has made a huge impact on the world despite not agreeing with their controversial views?

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May 2, 2023

I want it, and I want it now! Talking immediacy culture & delayed gratification

Today we're taking a big deep dive into immediacy culture how the expectation of instant gratification has changed our expectations of our relationships. We are joined by psychologist Sandy Rea to explore strategies for developing self-control and delayed gratification, as well as ways to help our kids navigate the world of tech & being handed everything with the click of a button.

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April 25, 2023

Joanne McNally - The art of riding a lover to sleep

Then we are joined by the hilarious Joanne McNally! Joanne is an Irish stand up comedian and the host of podcast juggernaut 'My Therapist Ghosted me.' In this episode we have a very unfiltered chat (Joanne wouldn't have it any other way) about what led her to comedy, being adopted, her non-existent pelvic floor and wild dating past. We also take a bit of a deep dive behind the scenes of how our personal lives shifted after starting podcasts and everything becoming public content.

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April 18, 2023

Mental fatigue and how to make vulnerability a strength - Uncut with Hugh Van Cuylenburg

Hugh Van Cuylenburg. Hugh has joined the podcast before. He is the founder of the resilience project.In this episode Hugh speaks about why he has stopped telling the story of the resilience project, mental fatigue and who owns vulnerable stories.We speak about shame, seasons of our lives and thinking we want things other than what we actually have. Hugh’s mission is to help people understand that being vulnerable is a strength, not a weakness. He believes that by embracing vulnerability and building resilience, we can navigate life's challenges with greater ease and positivity.

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April 13, 2023

ASK UNCUT - Will the billboards please think of the children!

Is it rude to tell someone in person at the end of a first date that you aren't interested in seeing them again? Even if you know that you're not interested, should you wait until later to send a message or ghost? My husband (who I truly love) makes a weird breathy sound when he sleeps. It wakes me up. I have said that I want to sleep in the spare room and he seemed really offended. What do you think? My partner has a piece of jewellery that his ex bought for him. He still wears it. Firstly, is it silly that I care about this? Secondly, can I buy him a piece of jewellery to replace it or is that weird?

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April 11, 2023

Is your name wi-fi cause I'm feeling a connection - Talking connection and compatibility with Dr Ali Walker

Joining us today is Dr Ali Walker. Ali is a Human Connection Scientist with a PhD in group dynamics. She has spent a large part of her adult life wanting to understand more deeply why we seem to 'click' with certain people and 'clash' with others.It's likely you've heard of introversion and extraversion, but Ali's research goes a step further and helps us understand how we connect with certain people; it's through two frameworks she labels 'frequency' and 'intensity.' We were so interested in how this can be applied to our romantic relationships. friendships and even our workplace relationships. Do 'opposites' actually attract? Turns out no, and that would likely lead to a bad relationship. Ali unpacks exactly how alike we should be with our romantic partners! We also unpack the three different types of loneliness and how you can be surrounded by people but still feel lonely.You can get more of Dr Ali Walker's research and her new book "Click or Clash' here https://awalker.co/We also unpack the new doco by Brooke Shields called 'Pretty Baby' (on Disney plus) and the hypersexualisation of children in pop culture. Maybe things haven't changed as much as we think they should have.Join the Facebook group! Follow our Instagram and our Tiktok!Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because we love love! xx

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April 6, 2023

Ask Uncut - Can you not take a picture of me without me knowing?

-When does 'public' photography cross the line of privacy?Do people have the right to be taking photos of other people without their consent to build a profile under the guise of lifestyle photography? -I've been with my partner for 1.5 years. He is very attractive, however, when it comes to sex I'm not attracted to him. The whole experience does not turn me on. It's a classic jackhammer.What's worse is that he thinks our sex is good. Everything else is great but I don't know how to speak about this with him. -I've been with my partner for 11 years. We have a 1 year old. I've been on maternity leave since our baby was born. I absolutely loved my job and was getting further in my career. I'm unable to return to work because of child care. Some days he says it's 'his responsibility to be the worker and I'm lucky to be at home with our baby.' If we were to switch, we would earn similar money but he's closed off to the idea. How do I navigate this?

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April 4, 2023

Matthew Hussey does give a f*** about your relationship

Today's episode is one that left us squealing with excitement. One of Australia's leading relationship experts (although he doesn't like to be called that) Matthew Hussey! Matthew Hussey has over 488 million views on his You Tube Chanel, and has helped millions of people live happier more fulfilled lives. Today we jump into: The concept of the one Why people stay in toxic relationships The idea of a soul mate Staying in a relationship because you're already so far deep in it and leaving is hard What makes his relationship with his fiancé unlike any other he has had

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March 30, 2023

Ask Uncut - Chadfishing, parental affairs and a bridesmaid's threesomes

Welcome to therapy. We're here to unpack your deep, dark and burning questions.First up today, Mitch Churi and Britt didn't get married on the weekend. They've been working on a project together! We unpack a horrible new dating term/trend called chadfishing.Have you ever been chadfished before? We want to know!Today the questions we are diving into are: My best friend is about to have her first child. I am very much childfree by choice. I think she's naive in thinking that nothing will change when the baby comes. When we organise to hang out, how can I ask her not to bring the kid? I've just found out that my mum cheated on my dad years ago while they were still married. They divorced a while ago and my dad now has a new partner. I am closer with my dad than my mum. Should I tell him about my mum's affair even though it was a long time ago and they're already divorced? I was a bridesmaid at a wedding over the weekend and got pretty drunk. At the afterparty I fell into a threesome with the MC (who is the groom's brother) and his girlfriend. Somehow everyone knows. Do I need to apologise to the bride and groom? I don't regret the threesome but I do regret it happening after their wedding Can you ghost your hairdresser? I have changed hair salons but I follow my old one on instagram and she follows me. I want to post from my new salon because it's really nice and I love my new hair so I want to share it, but I'm worried I will hurt my old hair dresser's feelings. If you have a question for ask uncut, or anything you'd like to send us, please send it over to us @lifeuncutpodcast on instagram! Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because we love love! xx

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March 28, 2023

A Terminal Diagnosis at Twenty Five - Uncut with Kellie Finlayson

Today we kick off the episode by celebrating Laura's 37th birthday! She's got some feelings about turning 37 and they're not the feelings that you might expect. We talk about judging parents of young children for allowing them screen time and have a bit of a silly discussion about why we view women's sex toys as 'empowering' but men's sex toys as gross and creepy! Then we are joined by the wonderful Kellie Finlayson. Kellie Finlayson was 25 and had a beautiful 3 month old daughter with her partner Jeremy, when their world turned upside down.Kellie was diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer.After spending a large part of her daughter's life in hospital and a horrific experience with chemo, Kellie beat her cancer. But then months later Kellie found out that her cancer had spread to her lungs. Kellie is now on a mission to spread awareness of bowel cancer, especially in young people. You can follow her journey here: https://www.instagram.com/kelliefinlayson_/ If you loved the episode, please share it with someone you care about, particularly if they've been dismissing a health concern that they've got. Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because we love love! xx

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