Hey lifers! Tonight is the first night of our new TV show and we’re so excited to unpack the ins and outs of MAFS. How does burnout feel for you? Laura had a conversation about interpreting ‘normal’ requests as threats when you’re at the point of burnout and how it’s showing up in every facet of her life at the moment. Are you good at spotting a liar? How about when it’s your own children? Laura can’t tell when her kids are telling the truth or when they’re conspiring to tell perfect fibs. They could be great actors or Laura could be really gullible! We need to talk about the Wuthering Heights chaos. Britt and Keeshia went to the Australian premiere last week and give their takes on what they thought of the in person versions of Margot and Jacob. We unpack whether book adaptations should stay close to the actual story line and why there’s so much criticism about this particular adaptation. We also ask “Why does Hollywood keep adapting the same stories instead of creating new ones?” 

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! Vibes for the week: Britt - Kidnapped: Elizabeth Smart on Netflix Keeshia - Karcher K2 Power Control Pressure Washer Laura - @stevenwommack Then we jump into your questions! 19 WEEKS PREG AND CANNOT STAND MY PARTNER I’m currently 18 weeks pregnant and cannot stand my partner. It feels like everything he does makes me mad. We are currently getting our old house ready to sell so he is spending A LOT of his afternoons there but I struggle with the fact that I’m left to do the majority of the housework at our new place. I feel as though I’m always stuck doing the housework even since before sprucing up the old house. He keeps telling me it will be better once the old place sells but I just don’t believe it. The other part is I am SO sick of being asked the same questions over and over. For example, what weekend something is on or when the next appointment is etc. It also feels as though he asks questions just so he doesn’t have to use his own brain but it’s also ALL the damn time!! I am going crazy. Please help. I CHEATED ON MY HUSBAND AND THE OTHER GUY HAS GONE COLD, I FEEL USED AND GUILT I don’t really know where to start and it’s killing me ! I’m Married with 3 kids . My marriage the last year or more has been really up and down. We have had a lot of separation talk .Both of us are not very happy but both are probably too scared to leave. In October I was out and met this guy (friend of a friend ) . Nothing happened. We added each other on insta and started talking. It went from texts to every morning and night phone call on the way to work. He lives a few hours away from me but comes to where I live once a month . He is also a dad with kids . We spoke for a whole month. It was quite in depth about how our lives could work together if his ex would let him move with the kids to where I live. The chemistry was crazy. I've never ever had that. Fast forward, he came back a month later with his mum and kids and we met up several times and slept together a few times. I met the fam and his kids. I was ready to give it a shot and be together. I was even willing to do long distance. After this he went back home and spoke to his ex who said he is not allowed to move with the kids. Then everything totally shifted. We went from talking every day to nothing. He keeps saying he wigged out cuz I’m married still, and he feels bad about what happened. He doesn’t wanna be the reason to break a family. He also said that he won’t do long distance. He has gone so cold and so quiet. I feel like he is avoidant. A few weeks ago he came back to where I live and no text, no call, nothing. Bare minimum messages and acting like he didn’t give a shit. I’m actually sick to my stomach about how the hell it changed so quickly. I feel used and ick. My husband and I are still together . He is a good man but I feel like I’m not a priority to him and all and we are absolutely roommates. I’ve never ever been unfaithful in my marriage before and would have never unless it meant something. I’m left so confused and gutted. I can’t stop thinking about this other guy and I never really hear from him anymore. I’m so bloody confused. How can you be so hot and then go so ice cold? He has almost turned a little mean towards me. I don’t know what I am asking but I needed to vent to someone! CAN I CHASE UP PEOPLE WHO DON’T GIVE A WEDDING GIFT? My future husband and I are having our wedding in 5 weeks and something that is playing on our minds is people forgetting or not giving us a wedding gift - money haha. I know it sounds ridiculous but I couldn’t imagine going to someone’s wedding and not giving a gift. Would it be bad if we were to send an email saying our thank you and if you forgot or haven't sent your wedding gift to us here are our details? We would word it better as well. CAN YOU BE A REFORMED CHEATER? Can someone be a reformed cheater without any personal work or voluntary accountability? For context, I recently found out my long term partner has a history of cheating. It’s never been to the point of sex, but at some point in all of his past relationships he has looked elsewhere for some kind of attention or sexual validation. For example, sexting other girls. I also found out this happened to me early on in our relationship, which has been very devastating. This is something I have asked him about before, and he has now admitted to lying to me about it because he didn’t want to be ‘branded’ in that way and thought I wouldn’t forgive him. He reflects that he feels bad and wouldn’t do it again. My issue is that I feel he is only taking accountability now because he has no other option now that I found out. Do you think it’s possible that this type of pattern of behaviour does just stop on its own (because of maturity/growth or finding the right relationship) or does it require conscious personal work and reflection?

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! Vibes for the week: Britt - account @aaronparnas Keeshia - The Rest Is Classified. Epstein Files Declassified: Was He A Spy? Laura - Lacevo bra breast pump Then we jump into your questions! BF GAVE UP SMOKING THEN STARTED AGAIN YEARS LATER, AND NOW WONT STOP My partner and I have been in a relationship for 6 years and he was a smoker when we met (maybe 2-3 cigarettes a day) but I even said to him on our first date that I never wanted to marry someone who smoked. It’s always been a no go for me - very scared of the consequences and what might happen if he continued to always smoke. Anyway, at the time (v early days of dating) he told me that he would quit one day and definitely didn’t want to always be a smoker forever. In fact, he said he would quit before we ever got engaged. And he did. He quit over 3 years ago, for a period of about a year until one day he had a falling out with his dad and was suddenly smoking again. He hasn’t stopped since and we’ve had conversations (as I have been seriously disappointed by it) and he said “fuck that promise, I smoke, either get over it or leave me”. I’m 6 years in now mate, I wish it was that simple. He clearly has no plans of quitting and I don’t wanna break up. What should I do? Btw we’re not engaged yet - but we’ve been planning our long term future forever. And he is my person, but this habit. It’s soul destroying for me. I wish he would just change because I know I can’t make him. AM I CAPABLE OF LOVE?! I've been with my husband for 8,5 years and married for 3 and we have 2 kids (4 and 2). He's not my first long-term relationship, I had one for 5 years and a few shorter ones way back in my teens. I'm just not sure if I've ever been in love? I (like any parent) love my kids with my entire being, I love my family and friends etc, and while my husband is a great guy and I'm very fond of him (lol), I'm not sure I've ever been in love. My goal was to always have kids (told him that on our first date) and my mum always said to pick a guy who'd be a good dad (my own is definitely meh and that's a whole other story to unpack). I knew he'd be a fantastic dad, which he is, and I think that's a big part of why I committed. Am I awful? Our home life is nice, we have fun and all, but would I be a better person if I "set him free" and let him find love he deserves? HOUSEWORK DIVISION My husband works 40 hours per week in a job that he doesn't particularly like but he has to ride it out a bit longer. I work the regular 37.5 hours in a job that I love. Should I be doing approx 2.5 hours more housework than he is? (Not that I would actually count it- more just the principle). He has never suggested this and is simply the BEST guy, but I find myself sometimes a bit resentful that he's not on the ball with house things as much as I am, and doesn't do quite as much... Mostly because I beat him to it. He's not good at remembering all of those little things like 'coffee machine deep clean' etc. Then the other day it occurred to me: should I be okay with doing more because he works more? Again, he has never mentioned this, and is such a golden-retriever, beautiful, kind man. For context: he is very clean and generally amazing to live with. We don't have kids or a dog: just the two of us! We will start having kids next year hopefully 😊 DAYCARE AND MUM GUILT I have a question I’d love to hear Laura talk about as she has little kids(and obviously get Brit’s ideas on too because she’s AMAZING) I’m a working mum. I work as a lawyer and I’ve always worked full time. I just had my first baby (he’s 4 months old) and I’m thinking about when I go back to work (probably when he’s 10 months old) and putting him in daycare. I’m feeling mum guilt about this so I’d love to hear your thoughts on being a working mum and will my baby be ok and still thrive as a daycare kid.