Hey Lifers! Welcome to Ask Uncut - your deepest, darkest and most burning questions, answered. Today's episode comes to you slightly compromised. Britt accidentally got drunk in Italy last night… she doesn't drink, Ben doesn't drink, but their wedding photographer Cass rocked up with his partner Sarah and ‘when in Rome’, apparently you order cocktails until you can't see straight. She was up at 5:30am, giant glass of water in hand, ready to earn her bacon. She earned it! Vibes for the week: Britt: Raising Chelsea Laura: A Bit Hippie Hair Repair Kit Then we get into your questions! BOYFRIEND'S $12K DRUG HABIT My partner and I are having a baby soon. The only problem we have is that like most young people these days we used to do cocaine, not a lot..just a few times a year. Mostly at special occasions with friends. Now in our 30's since we started trying for a baby I stopped drinking/drugs to give it our best chance to conceive. My partners use has become more and more regular in the past year, he will bender for a whole weekend once and month and spend $1K+. I thought he would have changed in this new season in our lives together. He tells me he will change when the baby comes. I care about his health, his job, the wasted finances, a possible addiction etc. He tells me he won't change, it's not a big deal as he only does it once a month. What should I do? ENGAGEMENT HIERARCHY My best friend got engaged last year, and recently we were talking about timelines for weddings. She basically said that if someone in your close circle is engaged before you, it’s kind of “rude” to get married before them, like there’s an unspoken order you should follow. Apparently in her family/social circle, people wait their turn so no one “cuts in” with their wedding, and it’s caused actual fallouts when people didn’t follow that. I had literally NEVER heard of this and thought weddings were just whenever suits the couple? But now I’m second guessing myself. She spoke about waiting for her to have her moment before anyone else can have theirs. Is there actually an unspoken etiquette around not getting married before friends who got engaged first? Or is this just a cultural/family-specific thing FAILED MATCHMAKER I recently had a friend tell me that she was too busy to organise a set up with a guy whom she had suggested to me without organising. For context: I’m the only single friend in a group of 7 people. This has meant countless weddings, baby showers, first birthdays and general catch ups where I am attending on my own. Recently my friend told me that a colleague potentially knew someone who they could set me up with, without me even asking for her to do this. When I tried to follow up 2 months later to casually see what the go is (after being ghosted by a guy I liked and having minimal support), she bluntly told me that she and her colleague had been too busy at work. I tried to say that it had been two months so was just curious and I got a list of why she had been too busy. I feel like as the single friend I am constantly turning up for everyone with minimal return; I’ve listened to this friend talk about her fertility struggles and her co-parenting struggles with her step child, and I also listen to her work stressors. Am I being overly sensitive or should I raise with her how it made me feel to shut me down and say she had been too busy to send a text? CAN YOU USE BINS I was on a walk with my friend the other day and we grabbed a takeout coffee. To add context we were walking around our suburb and it was bin day. Once I finish my coffee, I put it in someone’s bin that was on the curb. Now this bin had already been collected so it was empty but I still put my coffee cup in it. She said that that is so rude and I shouldn’t have done that. I didn’t see an issue with it because it was a little coffee cup and it was a bit. What are your thoughts on this?

Hey Lifers! Welcome to your weekend num num 🎙️ The Met Gala happened and we need to talk about the nipples. All the Kardashians coordinated sheer looks with visible nipples and Britt is calling it… this was a business decision, something Skims-adjacent is coming. We also cover Kim's behind-the-scenes limo vlog, the Olympian who shot actual bubbles from her gown, Blake Lively showing up post-trial completely unbothered, and Zendaya quietly pulling the pin, which might be its own statement. Then, a Reddit thread where men answered why they didn't propose or finally left. One had "one foot out the door for years." Another said the sex was "dog shit" but was "too emotionally weak to end it." We get into the fertility vampire, men who stay for years knowing they don't want to be there while a woman's most fertile years disappear and why "I didn't want to hurt her" is not the defence they think it is. We also dive into a UK corporate worker who decided her job might not be real and quietly did nothing for an entire year to test it. She sent a 15-minute task list on Monday mornings and fired off two emails to show she'd logged in. No one noticed. She had to quit herself. We debate whether it's actually her fault, and whether taking Jeff Bezos's money while doing 30% is really that bad. Finally, Sir David Attenborough turns 100!! We celebrate accordingly. And we close with Holly, a terminally ill woman who past away whose letter about whingeing less and giving more is worth sitting with on a Saturday morning.

With everything that's come out recently about AI tools like Grok, online predators, and disturbing cases emerging from childcare centres, the question every parent is asking is ‘how do I actually keep my kids safe?’ It's a topic that feels bigger and more frightening by the day and one that parents constantly think about. Today we're sitting down with Kristi McVee. Kristi McVee is a former Detective Senior Constable and Specialist Child Interviewer. After 10+ years investigating child sexual abuse, Kristi shifted her focus to prevention to give families the tools, language and the confidence to protect kids. She’s the author of Operation KidSafe: A Detective’s Guide to Child Abuse Prevention, a speaker, educator and the founder of CAPE-AU, where she teaches parents and educators how to talk about consent, spotting red flags, online dangers and building trusting conversations with kids. Today’s conversation isn’t about scaremongering, it’s about learning real strategies and assessing both physical and online risks to keep our kids safe. We chat: The sobering statistics every parent needs to know - 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 boys will be sexually abused before the age of 18 The biggest myths surrounding child sexual abuse, including why "it won't happen to my family" is dangerous thinking Why nearly 50% of child sexual abuse is perpetrated by other children and what "harmful sexualised behaviours" actually means When and how to start body safety conversations with your kids Why using correct anatomical language could one day be critical to a legal case The grooming red flags hiding in plain sight and why grooming looks a lot like nurture The difference between in-person grooming and online grooming, and why kids often don't even recognise what's happened to them The sleepover question How to assess the safety of your child's daycare or early childhood education centre Red flags in your child's behaviour that could signal something is wrong The importance of connection: why predators use your lack of connection with your kids against you